NY WOMEN = TOUGH TO GET?

Man, I hear NY CITY women are the toughest to get with! Is this really true?

How about other big city, like LA, Miami, Dallas?

My friends who live in NYC say the good looking women can smell your intention from miles away.And because the women have been hollered by hundred, if not the thousands, of guys, they learn to have their guard up all the times.To get a woman from the there, you have to have your A GAME! Even to smile and say hello to a NY woman without meeting their requirement will make them put an angry face or even say F***** YOU!

But they say, if you can get a woman in NY you can get a woman ANYWHERE...

I sometimes love that accent, but man, too AGGRESSIVE for me!

 

As someone who has lived my entire 21 years on this planet here in the Big Apple I can tell you the truth about the theory....IT'S TRUE!

They are very independent, confident, defensive, sarcastic, intelligent, opinionated, and strong minded. They are tough and hard working and living in a city that has tons of crime they know how to defend themselves and are not afraid to go out at night and have a smart remark for everything. I think like all women, they can be broken. Alot come from single parent homes or have been hurt by men in their past so their defensive nature comes from not wanting to be hurt and hiding their sensitive side.

From my experience, alot of them do not buy the whole sweet and romantic guy thing. They think it is an act or corny. They have had it beat into their brains (either from their own personal experiences or word of mouth) that there is no such thing as a good man, so they think all men are jerks and any guy who acts like he isn't a jerk they think is faking. They go for jerks sometimes because they think that's all that's out there. Personally, I have seen that trying TOO hard to be the good romantic guy does not work. Just be cool, laid back, and yourself.

If she likes you she will most likely let you know. NY women can be very aggressive and forward when they see something they want. That is one thing I do like about them. It is only AFTER she becomes your girlfriend that you can pour on the charm and show her how a woman should be treated. She will appreciate it if she is worth your time. It is in the courting period when you first meet them and are trying to get a date or their number when they are playing games and acting hard to get and have their defenses up. Once they open up to you they can still be a problem like ANY woman, but for the most part they become sweet and caring and nice. It's just getting IN THE door that is the problem. They do not like to rely on men and wanna feel in charge.

 

I definetly agree!!! From my own experience they only way to get them to come to you is to just plain ol' fashin ignore them. Whenever I'm in a situation where I'm going to be stationary for a while, like waiting on a train of browsing in a store, I refrain from rubber-necking and just get absorbed in my thoughts and what I'm doing and try not to direct too much sensuous energy at a particular woman but try to project and radiate sexual energy from myself to all. That way you are perceived sexy with out being looked at as a dog in heat staring at every sexy woman that passes you.

 

depends on your age, your class and the type of people you hang with. I lived in New York for 10 years, i never had a problem meeting, dating women in NY.

i met and dated professional women, university students at NYU and Barnard, FIT and dont know why it would be so hard. I hung at CBGBs, it was great meeting women while rocking to the music. going out slumbing at the clubs like the World, in the east and west village, parties on upper East and west sides---i never had a problem

why do you think you are having problems meeting women in the City??

 

Screw those northern women...especially New Yorkers. Give me a southern girl. She will often times be more attractive and she will be more receptive to a man with manners. Southern girls will give you a challenge but they don't mind being flattered and lavished with praise. You have attractive girls all over the country but southern girls know how to be strong and assertive without being butch or acting like a femi-nazi. They enjoy being independent, intelligent, LADIES! Houston, Miami, Atlanta, Charleston, Dallas, Richmond, Charlotte, etc. That's what its all about!

And for the U.K. women on here....you guys are HOT!!
Luv the accents (among other things) :lol:

 

Amen, to that bro, I love my Southern Belles. they are feminine like my grandmother, can and will cook, strong willed, but soft and sexy, the best lil southerner pout and drawl can get them anything!!

they are like mother, granny, auntie----GRITS(Girls Raised In The South)!!! ummmmm hmmmmmm

 

Well I was with a southern girl for 3 years and we almost got married. Her accent drove me insane and she was very warm hearted and at the same time her being from the south and from a racist family and area, we had alot of issues to work through. Southern girls have both good and bad sides to them. NY girls just have a toughness about them that I also find sexy.

 

Women from the South, walk and talk slower and better!!

1. Charleston #1 my homegirls

2. Dallas

3. San Antonio

4. Atlanta

5. Nashville

6. Louisville

7. Richmond

8. Alexandria VA

9. Ole Miss

10. Charlotte

11. Savannah

12. New Orleans

13. Ft Worth

14. HOuston

15. Baton Rouge

16. Tallahassee

17. Birmingham

18. Jackson

19. Spartanburg

20. Greensboro

 

Most guys are bad when it comes to getting women. They try to hard and come across desperate. When I'm at a club,store,etc. I just sit back and let women show interest in me.

 

Damn!

Well my friends up there in NYC have no problem with the girls, since they been there almost there whole life or they adjust real quick to their enivoroment. they just tell me exactly what everybody says here, it's having your A-game and not looking or being a desparate creep guy.

But they also say if you looking for a sweet, innocent, naive young gal, up in the city, FORGET IT!

 

Do you mean Richmond, VA, or SC?

 

I found this to be very true. Chicks can smell fear and desperation on you like a bloodhound, and although I always keep my cool, I've seen the mistakes some men make when approaching a woman...

and, the funny thing is, after it's all over, they usually gripe about it to their friends, if they're with them, or they'll just pick a complete stranger (me) to talk about it with, but I guess it's good to get it out of your system, kinda like the way women complain about us all the time, over every little small thing under the sun.

 

Take their advice.

 

Sardonic-I am from South Carolina and there is no Richmond SC. I have a huge SC map on my wall in front of me, sorry mate.

of course it is Richmond VA, the capital of the Confederacy

 

I thought it was in South Carolina, because there is a Richland County in South Carolina, and South Carolina is accessible to Richmond, VA, when driving. I guess I got it mixed up.

 

yep, and i lived in Richland Cty--the capital of SC, Columbia when i was a boy

 

depends on where you go. I dont find it hard in the Soho, west village--stake out a cool cafe and hang--meet a cool bartender, waitress, grad student, or at the farmers market

 

My brother has been living in Brooklyn, NY for the past decade now. He has lived in Bed-Stuy and Crown Heights. Based on his daily interaction with New Yorkers, he's noticed that most of them talk tougher than they really are. But back to the topic, New York women may seem hard to approach because you just don't walk up to people on the streets of NY and start talking. They will think you're crazy if you do that. But if you can get past their defenses in a social setting, they will open up. And a lot of those Northern women love Southern guys. Him being from the South has helped him meet NYC women and he even brought a girl down to visit the family here in Georgia over the Christmas holidays.

Overall, I think Southern women are hotter. Most of the time, the weather is warm and if you are young, single and living in a warm-weather climate, you have a tendency to want to stay in shape because you can't cover up your body with heavy winter clothes like they do in cold climates. Even though I live in the South, I still can't get enough of a Southern belle's syrupy accent. The only problem with white, Southern women is that it's hard for me to tell which ones like black men and which ones don't.

I've still got love for the Northern girls, too. Streetwise Italian girls, for example, are a turn-on. And most of the white Northern chicks from major cities that I've met are used to being around black people and other minorities. Even though I'm a shy guy, I've had success in meeting transplanted New York women. 8)

Peace.
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"Oh snap, a boneless chicken sandwich. What will they think of next?"

 

atlanta and north carolina and of course Florida are being overrun with yankee transplants because the southeast is a fast and strong growing economy with great housing available and awesome weather.

check out www.interracialmatcher.com and just see all the women in GA, FL, VA, and NC and dont forget TX who are crazy for the brothas.

New York women do love a southern guy, because we still have some manners, know how to treat a woman, still have some values left, still believe in strong, intact families, hard work and we have most of the college graduates and black colleges.

northern women are lovely, but just think they have to be a Man in order to live--they dont know how to be feminine, so they need magazines to do it, but end up being superficial and aloof.

 

You got me thinking about something here, tuck. Femininity isn't defined the way it used to be, or how it would be to your average straight man nowadays, but you do think that it could all be a result of feminism?