Nilan's secret.......

You've brought up a very interesting topic 'Pey' in your post, "Single Men Free? Single Women Lonely?".

I have had extensive experience with this sort of thing and let me tell you a little secret :wink: .........

CAUTION!!! THIS SECRET WILL CAUSE SOME OF THE WOMEN ON HERE TO GET MAD AT ME, BUT DAMMIT I SPEAK THE TRUTH (SO I GUESS I AM DAMNED IF I DO, DAMNED IF I DON'T)

Pey,
Remember when you asked, "Do women see being single as being lonely?" Well the answer is "YES."


A lot (if not most) of these women deserve (YES, I SAID DESERVE) to be alone and single. WHY? You ask.....Allow me to break it down a little.......

The problems with people in our society (especially WOMEN, but some men as well :wink: ) is that:

1. Almost no one is comfortable with who they are as a human being and they NEED SOMEONE ELSE TO DEFINE THEM or weak ass people who constantly need compliments and approval of others to feel good about themselves.

2. Society has SOME WOMEN thinking that they are entitled to the best men in the crop simply because they are pretty :roll: They forget the fact that the girl around the corner is twice as better looking and brings much more to the table.

3. Some of these women's parents have fooled them like they are special and that a man should go through hell to give them to time of day and that the man should pay for everything. What ever happened to going dutch!!!!!If you decide to go out to date someone, you should at least offer to go half especially considering the fact that there are a lot of situations where the girl doesn't even like the guy (See I just used you as a free meal in the dating dictionary).

Pey...........my brotha..........WHERE ARE YOU MEETING THESE DEAD BEAT WHITE GIRLS DUDE?

Bro..You gotta start going after the QUALITY white girls.

So here is my proven formula.....

I WILL NOT date a girl who does not bring the equivalent of what I bring to the table REGARDLESS OF HOW HOT SHE IS<-- Fellas pay close attention to that last part of the sentence.....think with the cerebrum not the 'other' head :wink:

For example:
I am a spiritual man of quality and I work out and as a result, I have an awesome body.....I expect her to at least have some fitness ambition (she doesn't have to be hardcore like me).
I have an education, developed skills, and I am almost at the point in my life where I will be able to stand on my own two feet financially........so dammit, my woman best have something going for her to or at least striving for it. We have too many women thinking they can just date and marry into money because they are pretty Peybeck. WE MUST STOP THIS MADNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is hurting the women more than us though because they loose out financially in most cases if they date and marry for money.

So fellas, you get my drift?
If the girl is not at your level spiritually, physically, and financially, DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE SMITTEN BY HER AND SHE DESERVES TO BE ALONE........

CAUTION: There are girls out there that are striving for that potential so I am all for investing time with girls with potential 8)

Fellas,
Please stop worrying about if these fake ass hollywood white girls are dating brothas and go after the REAL LIFE white girls with quality who are striving to be something. Chances are, they will be better looking and bring more to the table anyway. They will also not be afraid to be seen with you in public.......

I speak from experience......
Peace Out

 

Nilan I see your points and you are right but alot of white girls (and all girls in general) simply do not know what they want. Do they want someone sweet or a bad boy? Do they want to be single or have a man? Society says having a man means happiness so that is what they go for. They become reliant on a man for their happiness and live and die by how that relationship is going. I have seen it time and time again. All men can really do is be themselves and hope to meet a woman who wants them.

 

Most of this has nothing to do with race or even gender, but age. As we mature we know more about who we are and therefore what we want.

 

True, and also the type of person you were originally - can't help it if some of you boys will just pick crap women and then moan about them being crap. I don't know a single female friend who is aiming to live off a man, all in potentially high flying careers and earning their own way - strong as heck.

 

I agree with this except for the financially part, - if you are implying they should make the same or nearly the same amount. Ideally, this would be the case, but sometimes there are shifts in that too: Sometimes you may make more; Sometimes she may make more. I've been in both situations with the same person and with others. What I would stress and maybe this is even too strict is to at least have the same financial values concerning spending, investing, saving, and debt.

 

I totally agree. And I too have been with partners who have earned more, less and the same as me. I don't think it's fair when women are labeled as gold diggers when their partners earn a lot more than them, nor is fair when men are labeled pussies because they have a wealthy partner.

I don't think it's fair to expect a woman to earn the same as you as women often put their career on hold to have babies. While we're on maternity leave, some other person at work has got the promotion and it's out of sight out of mind. Then we start all over again when we return and are often viewed as unreliable because we have children. Yet that same woman's partner will not be.

 

good points nilan, i dont know what the secret is though.

i dont know where the brotha is meeting these women, or what part of New York he hangs that the women act like th at

 

Hi everyone,

Chocoluscious and Iffy'swifey, thanks for your input because they were very valid points. There is no way that you and your partner can completely be at the same financial level. Like you all said, "One person may earn a little less or a lot less." The main point is that BOTH PARTNERS CONTRIBUTE.

Mentally, I know that two partners can never be at the exact same level financially (most times not even close). I guess I was just too focused on getting my points across and I should have elaborated a little more....

tuckerreed,
COME ON MANNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!
You gonna make me reveal some stuff to the females. I can't run the risk of giving them any more pimp juice :drinkers: So I will put it in a simple form without revealing too much......
You see, it is a jungle out there for us men. You MUST learn to play the game just like they do.

FOR EXAMPLE:
If a girl is high maintenance (if you like this type of girl) then MAKE HER EARN HER RIGHT TO BE HIGH MAINTENANCE.......

If a girl says she won't eat at a small diner and requests to be constantly wined and dined MAKE HER EARN THE RIGHT TO LIVE THAT KIND OF LIFE...

You see a lot of women (not all women though) want to have their cake and eat it too.....They constantly want to talk about the feminist movement and sing the song, "I'm every woman." But at the same time, they want the man to take care of them and say things like, " I won't date a guy who doesn't have an expensive car, mansion, etc." CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS GIRLS 8)

So Tuck, you get me?
One of the main points that I am getting across to you fellas is that if you let a girl run game on you in any form, SHE WILL.

 

TO MAKE IT PLAINER,

YOU CAN'T ASK FOR ANYONE IN A RELATIONSHIP TO PROVIDE SOMETHING OR BRING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE THAT YOU CAN'T BRING TO THE TABLE YOURSELF.

It's tight, but it's right..........

 

nilan, i am a grown man, there is no game. love is not a game, but if you are acting like a player then you should get played.

i never experience that which you speak of. women dont do those things, perhaps girls do

 

YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT.

Love is not a game by any means. Also, I am not a player by any means...honest. Just ask my friends. :wink: I'm just saying don't let your emotions get the better of you just because the girl has a pretty face.

Sorry if I used the wrong terminology in my previous post. (It did sound a bit shallow and something a player would say)

This process that I use is used strictly to weed out the bad girls within the first one or two dates; this way, I determine whether she is worth pursuing or if she is just another pretty face. And you are right, REAL WOMEN won't even do these things to you, but that is what you have to find out as early as possible so that you won't get emotionally attached to a loser.

 

And, they don't have to be Americans either. They can either be Russian, Chinese, Thai, Mexican, Puerto Rican, Dominican...

I'm pretty much on board with all that you have said here.

Actually, I just like to engage in some of these conversations, just for the sake of discussing. I really could care less about most of these Hellyweirdoes altogether, but still, I call it the way I see it. If they are racist, then they are, if not, then they're not. Plain and simple.