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Hello, I'm a young black male who's been interracially dating since I was 13, now im 22. I dated 2 bi-racial girls, 4 white girls in my life. I have yet to date an Asian, or Latina yet. What I don't understand is this..most very attractive blondes, Latina's or Asian women don't usually date black males such as myself. Maybe it's me I'm not sure. I guess I could be "labeled" as one of those Black/White guys. I've been told i'm attractive, but they wouldn't date me.

I've also been told that i'm very well mannered, and I dress business casual, and some times preppy, and usually some street clothes whenever I have the money. I Just never understand why the blonde haired, blue eye'd girls or Latina's or Asian girls would date us Type of brothas. They usually want the preppy kinda white guy, or ghetto kinda brotha, or wanna be ghetto white doods...

I've also seen alot of white, asian, and latina's be these ghetto girls that's kinda scary and it's a turn off as well. So why is it hard for a brotha like me?

 

Hello Bigdawg,
welcome, I am sure you will enjoy it here.

As far as your post, maybe it's me but I don't really understand it, your wording confuses me. Are you preppy OR street OR both? I think that there are girls of any background and any look that are interested in black men, from the thuggish to the preppy, if not we would all run after Denzel and beat each other up until survival of the fittest determines the winner :lol:

 

Welcome,
I can tell you from experience that you can find (as Chigirl said) any girl from any ethnicity all over the world that would love to date you for who you are (and not just because you are black).

The only thing that is different for every man is the filtering process.
You'll find blond girls into black men and some that are not.....
You'll find latin girls into black men and some that are not.....
You'll find dominican girls into black men and some that are not.....
You just have to keep going until you find someone you like and that likes you too.

Just remember that every girl that rejects you, makes room for more that WILL want you. Women will always outnumber men in any city, state, or country, so the vast numbers of beautiful women are to your advantage to the point where you could not meet every fine woman in the world if you tried. Whether you are looking for a girfriend or a wife, you will have to filter through some women until you find the right one for you.

I used to think that white guys had it easy when it comes to dating but they have it just as bad (if not worse). ALL MEN (regardless of ethnicity) will have to suit up and prepare for the filtering process with women, I guarantee that there has not been a man alive who dated or married the first girl he wanted.

Just like me, you will have to suit up young jedi......and go fight.

 

I'm sorry about the wording lol.. I have a mixture style of both prepish and street clothes. But I'm not HUGE into the big white tees or the big ass clothes and stuff like that. I just dress comfortible I suppose. I noticed something.. The line of work I do, I see alot of sucessful African American men marrying interracially, and I've yet seen one marry a blonde haired or asian woman. Mainly brunnettes.

 

Hey bigdawg,
what is your line of work?

 

Whaaat??? Brunettes??? Are you sure? :lol: :lol:

 

I am not sure if i am right and i am not, i apologise but it seems like you desperately want a blonde woman which sounds to me as though you want to achieve something rather than date or meet women :? Anyone see what i am getting into?

 

I'm an I/T Desktop Support and Network Administration.

 

actually no im not trying to achieve anything lol. I just never see those kinda women with brotha's like me. I got a girlfriend, I just wanted everyone's 2 cents about the topic.

 

How many sistas have you dated?

 

actually one. I would talk to the sistas, but at one time I'd think I had a good one, and she played me for another guy..i.e the thuggish brothas

 

Well for my 2 cents, as for blonde vs. brunette, I've had both over the last couple of years and have found that I get hit on way more when I'm blonde
And when it comes to the kinda guy I want I don't want a ghetto kinda guy at all, in fact I don't remember the last BM I dated that was or even really dressed that way. I like my man to dress well and look good and wear clothes that fit him lol

 

Oh ok, just checking

 

why? i might ask?

 

Yeah I wear clothes that fit me. I had the baggy jeans era, but my parents told me i wouldn't get anywhere dressing like that, so I said screw it, i'll dress clean.

 

Well 1 I just wanted to know and 2 ... nevermind

 

ohhh k...