Need advice on a bad job interview today.

I went on a job interview for a professional firm here in California today, and had what I think was a bad experience. When I got there, everyone was cordial, and told me that I would be meeting with the hiring manager “Tiffany.” I kind of thought that she would be a white woman, so I did not know how it was going to play out. As soon as she came into the conference room, I can tell that she was intimidated/uncomfortable. She was very good looking, and probably in her late 20s, so I didn’t know how to read her. It was a very tense interview (sexual tension or whatever), and I have a feeling that they are not going to call me back because of this.

I have an MBA, and am more than qualified, so I am wondering if I should call her manager (if they don't contact me by next week) and tell him or her that the interview did not seem very professional. How would you handle it?

 

Rocket,

I'm curious about the tension. Give a few more details about the interview such as the questions she asked, how she sat, eye contact, etc...

 

She would look down when I made eye contact, she wasn't engaging when I asked questions, did not shake my hand when we were done, and said goodbye from the conference room while I had to find my way out of the building through the maze by myself. I have never been through an interview like this.[/quote]

 

That does not sound like sexual tension to me. I sounds like she was not impressed with you plain and simple.

You were in the room before her? What did you do when she came in? Did you try to mirror her body image and all the things one does when in an interview??
Why did you not know how to read her because she was in her 20's and very good looking?

 

Those certainly aren't good "interviewer manners" but so far, I don't think that warrants a phone call to her manager. How about the questions she asked? Was there anything you'd consider a little left of being the position or work history related?

 

I know how to interview. I know how to mirror body language, ask engaging questions, etc. There was a problem today, and I don't think it was me.


My education and work experience were ideal for that job. I did an initial phone interview with another person who told me they were impressed, and couldn't wait to get me in the office.

My experiences as being a black man and considered good looking, a lot of people are intimidated by that, that's why I didn't know what to expect from a woman who is white and that young. My experiences have been black (you hate me for no apparent reason, or white (you respect me.) There has been very little gray.

I am not a 21 year old kid who is nervous and does not know how to interview. She somehow had a problem with me.

 

You "know how to interview." Your education and work experience are "ideal for that job." Maybe the woman interviewing you just didn't agree.

Or maybe she already had someone in mind for the position.

Or if her behavior wasn't as professional as you would expect, isn't it also possible that she is not an experienced interviewer?

 

:lol: You da man Rocket. There's no doubting your skills playa :lol:

 

Your problem during the interview was your ARROGANCE!

Every post you write you talk about how good looking you are.

You always say how good looking you are, how amazing your body is, how you are not arrogant, how you are tall dark and handsome, and how other people find it intimidating.

I think YOU have a problem with your looks.

Anyone who is as good looking as you seem to think you are does not need to tell everyone. We should be able to see it. Your picture is right there.

She could smell your arrogance before she opened the door.

 

you know sir, I really hope it had nothing to do with the color of your skin. if thats the case, they may have passed up not only a prime candidate but a educated gem that could have taken their company to another level.

When did this representative tell you she would inform you of the outcome? If she gave you a specific date, wait until the next day after that date and ask what the outcome is or was. if you get no response, then call-call her and be professionally frank. let her know your desires for working for this company what you can do better for future references. dont call her boss unless she comes right out and talks stupid.

maybe she had a bad day, maybe the person before you was a lame and she carried that over to you...who knows women interviers can be unpredictable-

either way-black-good looking-what ever the case may be.....with your education go look somewhere else its their dam lose......

 

with all do respect, i have to agree with the above mentioned passage....if your arrogance over does it....all your life experiences, education and assets you can bring to the company will be pushed aside....sorry!

but the true question is....can you admit that? do you think you came off too arrogant?

being humble is an honorable thing.....dont ever forget where you came from....

 

I agree. And normal men don't talk about how pretty they are all the time.

 

What the hell are you talking about???

 

She's talking about your high opinion of yourself.

And now you're showing a little temper, too?

To answer your question - no, you should not call the manager. Sometimes you don't get the job you want and it's not because anybody was intimidated. :roll:

 

Rocket kinda reminds me of our poster Shaft. He had one post that had me laughing all night. He thought men at the gym were giving him nasty looks because of his "improved definition". And it would be okay if he thought that to himself but he came on this board and wrote a novel about it! Jesus dude get over yourself. Here's his post:

"Here in the U.S. especially, the whole realm of dating and relationships seems to be a cut-throat, jungle world. I'm sure most guys on the forum are familiar with the expectation of a group of women at a coffee shop for example, rolling their eyes and grumbling and complaining when another woman who by some men's standards may be considered physically attractive or "hot" walks into the room.


The interesting thing is men do the same thing too. One of the places where I continue seeing fierce and indirect competition between men for female attemtion is the gym. I can't count how many times I've come across several men who give you the "hater look" when they seem to think your physical build and definition has improved and that you may be attracting more women as a result. So when you walk past them, they frown, they whisper, look at you funny, etc.


Not to mention male personal trainers who feel they are entitled to sleep with as many attractive women at the gym as possible because of their status and as a result feel threatened when regular men who may have interest in these women do step up to the plate as well. Just a few weeks ago, minding my business, I walked past the food court at a local mall and a group of three men sitting at a table immediately stopped talking when I walked in, frowned, looked at me as if they were sizing me up and then only stopped when I was out of their view. It's as if all of a sudden you start getting much unwanted attention and you have people who for whatever reason seem to feel threatened by you when you're not even trying to compete with them. It's brutal. I just wonder why it's that way."

 

to add to this-each and every man that has some kind of muscular define to them....like to flaunt it....men just as women love attention...

i dont care how much in love u are in love or love someone-everyone likes attentin-human nature.....

i know first hand........my man is a gym rat...great body-strong-but for god sake....his arms are close to 22 inches while any t-shirt sleeve looks like its painted on, and he still feels the need to roll one roll on his sleeve...

lol-that is rather comical....

 

Go back and read your posts. You wrote them.

 

From the perspective of a woman who has conducted many interviews, I suspect that vanilla2chai is close to the truth. Rocket, if you conduct yourself in real life the way you conduct yourself on this forum, you should not be surprised that you put people off. Your arrogance could easily supercede your resume.

 

I just want to make sure I understand this correctly: No one on this forum knows me from Adam, but yet everyone knows me. I am one of the most down to Earth people you will ever meet. I have posted things on this site asking advice on certain situations. Since none of you know me, I try to give you as much detail as possible (like most of you have heard painting a picture.)

What I get a laugh out of is why in the world would someone go around saying that they are great?? I tell you what people have told me that I am good looking to paint a picture of a situation, and that translates to me going around saying that I am great??? You ever heard the story of 100 people in line that tell a story to the next person, and by the time it reaches the last person it has taken on a new meaning.

No I was not arrogant during my interview, and I always try to be cordial to people. All I wanted was some advice on handling what I thought was an unprofessional situation. Where this topic deviated escapes me....

 

What the hell are you talking about? You don't have enough friends to give you an honest opinion on why you blew it in an interview today and you had to come on this board wondering if you didn't get the job due to sexual tension........

Eddie Murphy