My little survey

Is this your first time doing IR?
No

Did you have curiosity sexually
on your first date with your mate?
No.

Was this your first time with the opposite
race refreshing as in the sense "finally somethin different"?
Na ah.

Have ww always showed interest in you?
Yes. But about as much as woman from any other race.

And what triggered you to date outside
your race knowing what kind of world this
is towards difference?

Well. My very first girlfriend was white. From then, I never really cared about dating outside of my race. When you grow up dating women of different races, you just become so jaded by it. It becomes something you do naturally.

 

I'm not the only one who hasn't either, and I only said I was looking forward to it, :wink: besides, there are too many lurkers in here, and I had to stop displaying my e-mail address because of spammers. :roll:

 

Damn...and, I was lookin' forward to it too.

 

If I were interviewing you on this, then I would've hit on you in a heartbeat. :heart: :wink:

 

I'm a white female and my boyfriend is a black (well... mixed) male. In addition to our heritage, there is another variance that is quite as noticeable -- I'm 37 and he's 19.

You asked the question "is this my first time?"... Well no, not exactly. I had a very brief "thing" with someone at my work that was part Asian / black.

The man that I am with now is 1/2 black (father's side) and 1/2 white (mother's side). BUT his skin tone is actually paler than mine. His eyes are dark, and beautiful. But he carries the curly hair but it's medium brown.

Most people, including very close friends, do not know that he's black, or mixed. He and I come from very different worlds. I'm a "country girl" and he's a "city boy". As a matter of fact, the hardest part for me to become acquainted with in this relationship has been the Ebonics of language. Fortunately, in the past several months I've caught on to quite a bit of it and my boyfriend speaks "like me" most of the time!!

In an open-minded way, we laugh at how different our worlds have been. Although he's part white on his mother's side, he has not seen her since he was six month's old and has been raised by his father with his older mixed brother. Therefore, he's lived in a very "black" world.

Our educational backgrounds are very different -- I have three years of college and a career. Meanwhile he quit school in his junior year. School, athletically, was great for him. He was the best football player see on for many counties. He is, after all, about 6'5" and weighs about 220. Academically, however, he has had his share of problems, mostly with grammar, language, and spelling. I have a background in education, and three daughters to boot. And when I help him as he struggles through language and spelling, I have concluded that I think that he gets his letters mixed up (dyslexia). He's an intelligent person on all accounts, he just struggles with this. I don't believe that he's had a lot of family support when it came to studying, homework, etc. Perhaps it's a mixture of environment and disability, or one of the other.

Myself, I'm about 5'7 and have blonde hair and blue eyes. Because I'm rather tall we don't look "that different". Again remember that he's very very light skin mixed man. People do notice our age difference sometimes. He can appear older because of his size but he still suffers from teen-age acne. When I first met him I would have thought that he was the age that he is. People usually guess me around twenty-five.

I was happily surprised when we started dating and both my mother and father had no complaints whatsoever over him. Unfortunately, I live in rural Kentucky, and there's still many people here who believe that "whites stay with whites" and "blacks stay with blacks". I remember both my mother and grandmother reminding me throughout my life that you don't judge someone by the color of their skin but by the soul and the person that you find.

When my own daughters were old enough to notice a difference between blacks and white, the eldest asked me one day "Mommy, why do people come in different colors?" With this, I told her.... "Because, my child, would the word be as beautiful without the blue sky, the green grass, the yellow sun, the red and purple flowers?" I told her that GOD made us in different colors to make the world a more beautiful and interesting place. She also had a black kitty at home. I asked her if she'd love it any more if it were white. She told me no. I smiled and told her she should always look deep within a person and love them for who they are, not the color or clothes on their backs.

Would I have another interracial relationship? I wouldn't rule it out. So far, this relationship is perfect. I have never met a man that compliments me in so many ways. WOW and who'd believed it with our age difference?!?

 

Demon Marshall in high school. Football player, so popular. But black. Dangerous. The only boy who gave me any attention, he made me feel beautiful. He lost his mom our senior year ... I never allowed myself to get all too close to him until after .. I grew up a lil ... learned he had a hard childhood actually. Our lives went different directions; but I'd come home and there was always that chemistry. I visited him inside. Later he's ballin with the Saints and leaving me alone at the party to run with lil wayne. Demon Marshall. Broke my heart. Got me lovin bm at 14.

I think bm only showed interest in me cause they caught me lookin at them. I'd be in the middle of a pack of blonde girl friends who were oblivious, politicking over their vodka crans and toking on lip gloss. If there were no bm there I'd be bored. I don't think I've ever given a wm a "come hither" glance from across the room. Wonder why

 

Is this your first time doing IR?
No

Did you have curiosity sexually
on your first date with your mate?
No.

Was this your first time with the opposite
race refreshing as in the sense "finally somethin different"?
No.

Have ww always showed interest in you?
No more or less than other women.

And what triggered you to date outside
your race knowing what kind of world this
is towards difference?

I'm not sure actually, it just happened.