My .02

I think a lot of you brothas just worry too much about this shit. I mean really. You guys be trippin. :lol: You meet a WW the same way you would any woman. Go up and start a conversation. Color shouldn't enter into it. If you're worried about WW being "into" Black men, you're dead before you even start. The most quality ones are those who aren't necessarily into black men, but may be adventurous enough to maybe try one :wink:

I for one don't want to be last after Jamal, Malik, Kayshawn and the local T.I. lookalike have all tapped it. And that's just what you'll get if you pull a white chick who's "into" Black men out of a Black club. But thats just me.

Clubs are out. Everyday places like the grocery store (Whole Foods), Starbucks or bookstore are in. Again, quality. If she shops at Whole Foods, drinks Starbucks and reads books, she's in there. It's sheer demographics.

And if you're shot down it may just be that she's not into you, not that you're Black.

 

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Pay ATTENTION, boys!!!!!!!!
THis is the BEST piece of advice I have read here!!!!!!
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I like this guy !

 

if only more guys thought like that.

 

I would say the same, but sometimes you never know, though you're right in some cases.

That's true, but it doesn't mean if she's into black men that she'll act on it, if you were to talk to her.

No argument here...

I'm with you on the clubs, but as far as all the rest you mentioned, it's a case by case basis, and personally, I wouldn't stop trying to find a date after talking with one or two (maybe three) women, who just wouldn't give me the time of day for any particular reason anyway.

Or maybe because you're black, she's really not into you, or maybe because you're black, she is into you, but fearful of being into you, so she'll shoot you down because of that. Like I said, case by case basis.



You can't guarantee either in America.

 

Dammit karma you are hitting on some shit every brother should know. Good post man.

 

Great post! The line about not wanting to be behind other bros who may not be quality guys was great.

Give me a WW that hasn't been through 10 bros in the past 5 months.

Does it matter if you're in the south or not? Would you approach a WW in say Atlanta? Nashville? Birmingham?

 

Karma it looks more easily than it sounds. Besides it is like playing the lottery and that is the main reasons why I never search for WW in this country. Overseas is much better.

 

I'm not one to travel all over the globe looking for a white woman (or any women) under any circumstances. A lot of things are chance meetings or sometimes you meet a person and you all a connection.

The key to meeting ANY woman is her eyes. She'll let you know if she's comfortable AND interested. The key is knowing the difference. If you're a cultured guy who is intuned to women you will know the difference.

A simple "hi" will let you know if you should go or stop.

 

Nice post homie!

 

It is doubtful they go after brothers on a regular section like a supermarket is iffy to me especially in America.

 

Ah, Soul, so negative. 1st of all, they're not going after you, it's you trying to meet a lady, hence this thread.

And hey, 90% of it is the vibe you give off, so keep positive.

Again, this is for women in general the world over! Not just white. You will try, sometimes you get shot down, or you may get lucky. Either way it's all good. It's all part of the game.

 

Overseas I'm possitive but in the States I'm mostly negative since most WW have a lot of scruples. Plus there are not too many bold WW in the US. To clearify I don't expect one to pop out of nowhere like magic, it takes yours truly as well.

 

Good point.

 

I personally believe that American WW need someone who's aggressive; not in the way you're probably thinking, but someone who needs to make 'em realise that God is not going to block your path to heaven if you date a black man for goodness sakes. I understand that many American women are kinda timid about it but the impression i give off to WW is that i couldn't be damned who's thinking what and i give them the same vibe. Perhaps that explains my relative success with them.

 

Genuine confidence goes a long way... no matter what colour you are!

But note that confidence and arrogance are not the same. Arrogance is bad and a major turn-off... no matter what colour you are!

 

But, as women, how do you all draw the line? How do we know that we don't come off as arrogant when we're simply being confident or have very high self-esteem? Some people are so confident that it borderlines cockiness. A pinch of cockiness isn't half as bad as the extreme, I believe. Of course if we can't tell where and how you draw the line, then we're at a loss either way.

 

Very Good Point Cris, a lot of WW still have a very negitive belief system in them about Black men that was instilled in them by racist white men who were and for many still are fearful and intimidated by Black men.

Many times as Black men, we can see it in a WW eyes when you go to say good morning or hello to her, she freezes up, tries to be overly friendly with you thinking that if she does, The Black Bogey man won't attack her, After all folks, this is one of many things America WW has to taught to believe about us Black men.

The other is the myth that Black men lust after WW, the reason it's a myth is that most Black men aren't attracted to WW, many will date a Latina over WW in a heartbeat, less than 1 and a half % of marriages in the Black community are IR and less face it, most people ( especially Blacks) perfer to date/marry someone of their own Racial Background.

The sad thing is while many many WW are looking for their White knight to ride into the lives, a lot of these white men are now passing over WW for Asian women, especially any WW that have and will continual to date Black men.

If it sounds like I'm saying that most America WW are victims of a sick and fearful mindset that was and is still being past on to her by a sick and hateful society, then yes I'm saying it.

What's even worse is those same WW see nothing wrong with that kind of thinking, even while the world and her so called White Knight is passing her by, riding into the 21 century.

Yup White Women, while Skipper and Todd has you fearing the Black man, he's running off with Mai Ling right in front of your face.

Like Don Kings says, Only In America !!!

 

This thread brings me back to a particular incident i had in about 2003 with a white woman in Palm Beach. Now, as you probably know, Palm Beach is an ultra lily-white town (the white population is 96% and i'm not making that up). I had never been to Palm Beach prior to this incident but as i always do before going somewhere new, i found out a few things about Palm Beach (not so pleasant, i must say). So, based on the information i had gathered, i was prepared for the worst attitudes.

Now, from previous experiences with white people, i already knew that every bit of my 6 foot 8, 250 pound frame scares the shit out of people generally, let alone white people. It seems like white people tend to be afraid of me the most - and don't even come with the whole "you're generalizing bullshit; i've seen it with my goddamn eyes-. White people have clutched their bags, locked their doors, wound up their windows and crossed over many times jsut by my mere presence. It has happened so many times that i'm almost used to it. I do not take it personal anymore.

So, during my trip to Palm Beach, i went to this nearby store (i had stayed at a friend's place) to get a few things and decided i'd walk back to his place all by myself. I was walking down the road when a white woman emerged from a corner. I had no idea where she was coming from and didn't really care. But what i cared about was the fact that, upon seeing me, she did NOT run away or turn back? :smt119 What? She didn't run? Shocking indeed. I walked on for about another 5 minutes. Still, this lady had not got out her cellphone or something. I kept walking. Walking, walking, walking. I almost got to my friend's place and this woman (who happened to be walking in the same direction as i did) still had not run away, or crossed to the other side? What the fuck is going on here? I looked again to see if she were white and i was just as correct. So before i went inside, i went closer to her as though i wanted to ask her something and she still had not run away. Now i was doing some soul-searching. :lol: I then went up to her, and as though she'd been expecting me to approach her, she stopped and i went, "Excuse me, can i just have a few moments with you" and she said, "Sure". I asked her how come she did not cross to the other side, get out her cellphone ready to call the cops, or run as fast as she could and her reply was, "Why should i run away from you?" I then said, with my voice giving away my awe and shock, "You're not afraid of me?" and she said, "Why should i be afraid of you? You pose no threat to me". And there and then, i looked right in her face, unable to say a word for about a minute until she got a bit freaked out by my unusal behavior that she finally hit the note i had been waiting to hear - "Most people would be afraid of someone "like you" (that is, a large, black man) but i would rather not judge someone by their skin color". In my mind, i was overcome with pride and humility, yet with sorrow at the same time. I felt so sorrowful i was almost at the point of tears but i managed to hold back. All i remember telling her was, "Thank you very much; how great it would be if everyone shared your mentality". She stopped me, before i went away, and asked me for my phone number and i gladly gave it to her. It happens that, to this day, we remain really good friends.

Now that, my friends, is a very unusual,albeit pleasurable experience.