Musical compatibility?

Is it a deal-breaker? I think it's important, but I'd think it's probably even more important in cross-cultural (e.g. interracial) relationships.

Could you be with someone who loves music you can't stand? Could a hip-hopper ever love a metal-head?

 

That's a good question. I mean, if you do meet someone who has a different musical taste from your own, would you be able to find some commonality? My tastes run from classical, jazz, film scores, oldies, classic rock, instrumentals, metal, 80's, foreign music, old school misfired soul music and some country-western. Basically, if the music moves my spirit, I will listen to it. But I have met couples who met through their interest in the same musical genre. Proof positive that common interests can help in relationships. But that is just my opinion.

 

I guess it could clue one into someone's mind set, and to who they are, but sometimes people change and tastes change or expand, if two individuals meet with differing musical tastes, it could be an opportunity to learn and expand one's tastes. On the other hand if two people have opposing musical tastes, it could be a clue to potential incompatibilities between them.

Also if one can't stand another's musical tastes, there are always a pair of good headphones to be had and used. For me, if someone listens to music I don't like, as long as they don't blast it load with me in an enclosed area where I cannot move away, or playing it loudly when I am trying to get some sleep I am ok.

 

Surely not a deal breaker

 

My girlfriend doesn't even like the music I write, let alone the music I listen to. If the kind of music one listens to is a deal breaker, I would think that person has deeper problems than his or her relationship.

 

I can't rep you. but all I can say is headphones solves this problem.:smt042

 

I'm pretty open with my music taste. I can't say that I even have a favorite genre. Lol. It's not a deal breaker for me. I actually enjoy when our music taste differs. I've been introduced to some great bands that I'd probably never heard of, had it not been for someone sharing their music with me.

 

When a person is listening to music, it is a private exploration into their own world. Music can reveal things about you to yourself. It can awaken thoughts and feelings, memories past and present, yet, creating a new memory and experience. I remember the time when music did this to me. I was 7-8. I was sitting in living room of our house. My dad was reading the newspaper and the stereo was on. The song The Way Of Love, sung by Chet played. I don't remember what I was thinking at the time but I was so caught up in the song I began to cry. My father asked what was wrong. I couldn't answer. He asked again and I left to go to my room but dad intercepted me and asked me again. I was still in tears. Dad didn't like someone who has no reason to cry. I told him it was the song on the radio and then I went to my room and cried in private. I believed my father would not understand what I was feeling and why I cried. The Way Of Love was one of the few songs that would bring tears to my eyes when I listen to them at some point in time. I sometimes wonder what a girlfriend wouldthink if I did cry when a song that really hits my soul is heard.

 

Being someone who can listen to pretty much anything aside of classical music, hardcore techno and folklore,I ve dated men who were strictly into either hip hop or metal.
I would not be as passionate about their preferred genre of music,but would be fine listening to it and it was not an issue.

 

Musical taste isn't a deal-breaker for me but I'm pretty open minded about what I listen to, which is basically anything but country. For black man who dates white women, not being a fan of country music can be interesting sometimes but so far it hasn't been that big of a problem.

 

As long as she's not blasting opera around me I'm good. That shit is a deal breaker. Lol

 

The deal breaker for me would be if satanic and racist verses are prominent in the music. I know that there is "Black Metal" music. Back in the 80's a lot of guys I knew were into that because of the strength of the sound, or perceived power. They claim that they were not on any way affected by it. They just go to the concerts to listen to the music and not praise Satan.

 

I'm a tad closed minded re: my music but his differing style wouldn't be a deal breaker. My guy is pretty open minded with his musical appreciations and enjoys a lot of east coast crap which I whole heartedly welcome because I love him...and because I'm a champ at tuning it out If it were county or rock, it would be harder but I can't imagine music would be a deal breaker for any real partnership. Gotta find common ground somewhere.

 

East Coast rappers got the best bars. Always has. Always will.

Just sayin ...

 

My tastes in music are generally narrow, for lack a better word. Between my musical preferences in classical, orchestrated epic scores to Celtic music in various aspects, it's hard to find someone who would appreciate them as much as I do. I have other bits of music in my roster from different genres, but they are so far and few between, you'd have to look carefully.

Though, I can recall at one point, I was into R&B a good bit, but have since removed myself from it mostly.

I can tolerate most forms of music with my partner, but it will be hard to not balance it out with mine.

 

I could not disagree with you more lol. In all honesty, I've come to like (tolerate?) some of it which is a HUGE step forward for me. Thankfully he's not too into the mainstream east coast Jay Z type shit...he likes rappers and songs I've never even heard before so it's pretty cool.

 

Agreed. East coast develops the best spitters.

West Coast, better beats.

 

It's not a deal breaker for me but I did very shortly date a black guy who surprisingly attacked my taste in rap music vehemently. The way he went about it let me know he was very controlling so I cut him from my life. I have no room or tolerance for that bullshit

 

I can't say its a deal breaker, but if she cant handle heavy bass while riding around, trap music or mix tape music it would be be a hard sell.

 

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