mostly approached by black men...

This is complete and utter BS. I can tell you personally that my daughter is statuesque and beautiful, and she dates bm. You're stuck generalizing. Just because they don't date you, doesn't mean they don't date any bm. Perhaps your lovely attitude is to blame for that?

 

My point was that LA was joking, but you took it as a mean to jump in and push your agenda.. nothing more nothing less.

 

seems that is happening a lot lately :smt011

 

Agreed!

I wouldn't doubt it..

"Sour Grapes" on their part, perhaps, m8?

By the way, did you notice that as soon as that entity named ASTUTE FEMALE OBSERVER disappeared from sight, ExMember suddenly showed up outta "nowhere"?

Just my tuppence, eh?










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Astute Female Observer actually had that repugnant blog that she was promoting. I don't think that she and Ex Member are the same person. IMO Ex Member, based on his/her posts, is a troll who has been here for a while under several different aliases.

 

Close....

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Back to the original question:

Keep in mind, BM typically are socially feared and reviled the world-over....and we know that, so we usually have our guard up.

But like I've said before, a smile and a 'hi' goes a long way. I'm sure some of the ladies can back me up when I say this, but BM are generally very friendly once they feel you're approachable.

Your openess is disarming but we expect the average WW to hold the same prejudices the world-at-large holds against BM (prepare for the worst, hope for the best). Once we see that you're open, our guard is let down, hence we may approach you.

Body language and simply speaking may be enough for us to feel your approachable and my guess is you give off positive body language to BM.

 

You know prior to reading posts on this forum, I had no idea anyone thought that. I wasn't raised to believe any one person was more threatening than any other. Initially I thought is must be the opinion of a few, but it appears it's actually a fairly popular belief. Still surprises me every time it's mentioned though.

 

And you are complaining????

 

LOL!

 

:smt033...well God bless your parents because they obviously raised you properly. However, believe it or not, it's true.

 

:lol: :lol:

 

yeah look at seal and hiedi. I have to say seal is not a great looker but he packages himself well thus hiedi still went for him and gave him a litter of kids. she is hot. also she was married to a wm so it is not a race thing for her it is a love thang. that is what it should be.

there are stereotypes better yet demographic has phenotypes but that will not hold things back.

 

IntriguedOne makes some excellent points. Very valid and I cosign his post.

My question is this, what kind of clubs are you going to and who are you with when you go to those clubs?

The reason I ask is this, if you're in a club that primarily caters to Black clientele the mere fact of you being in the club is a signal that you are, at the very least, open to the idea of being approached/ involved with a Black man.

Who you go with is significant in, that if you are a White woman and you're with a group of sistas that also gives the impression that you are comfortable and sociable with Black people in general and are open to that kind of attention.

Your attitude can be factored as well. While I loathe the White woman who, because of her audience feels she has to be blacker than everyone else, there are a lot of brothers I know who see that as two great things that go great together a la Reese's.

Someone mentioned earlier that she let her hair grow out and she thought it may have contributed to her getting less attention from Black men. It might be a myth, but it is far too much of a coincidence that many White women who become involved with Black men have the universal, brother attracting bob.

For instance take the last White woman who caught my attention. She was one of four White people in the club (three women, one man). She came with a sista. She had a short pixie cut. And she had a fat ass. Truthfully, ONE of these would have been enough for me to approach her, but ALL of them together was the stars lining up and the universe telling me to Go GET IT!

 

That was me. I said that when I had a bob (mine was a little above shoulder length), I didn't get attention from Black men. I get attention more when my hair is long(er). I know when my hair was fairly short (not quite Halle Berry short, but short), all the guys I knew at the time, hated it.

 

Oops. I got it twisted. Just goes to prove while there may be symptoms, there's no exact science.

 

It's cool.

Yeah, it's hard to figure out what happened, cause I never lost the vibe internally. I have to really pay attention now that my hair is longer again and then make a comparison.

 

I think it could be that maybe they are picking up signals from you that maybe you're unaware of. Body language, maybe your eyes on a hot Black guy as he walks by... lots of little things that suggest they come over to you. I get the same thing and one time I asked my girlfriend, "How do they know?".. she said, because I give off signals to them. It wasn't until she said that, that I realized I was inviting them to come over without knowing. Kinda fun now that i know I can do it! =)

m.

 

It's like Chris Rock says, white ladies, you don't need a scale in your house. You know you're gaining weight and it's time to hit the gym when the black guys start hitting on you.

 

Hey hey, don't dish the bob I'm a long time bobber first time pro bobett, black men always seem to love my sleek bob must be Americans with the hair fetish. lol

If I had curly hair i'd be growing it though.