mostly approached by black men...

I'm the kind of girl who is willing to give a guy a chance if I find him attractive (both physically and personality-wise), so I've dated both in and out of my own race, but I favour black men.

When I'm out with friends - especially at a club - my friends are almost always approached by white men and I'm almost exclusively (maybe 4/5 guys) approached by black men. I've been curious why - if it has to do with how I dress, present myself, body type, a "vibe"... I know that no one here knows me, but I'm curious what others think.

 

Post a pic of yourself in the pic thread......thanks

 

Yeah a pic will do it, help us to know what they are looking at.

But are you asking because you want more white men to hit on you?
If you are more attracted to bm, I would think that is a good thing, some would love the type that they are attracted to hitting on them.

 

I'm just asking because I'm curious...and then I can keep doing what I'm doing.

The last guy I dated was black and we met in a club. We were talking one day about why he approached (and if he knew I would be open to it). He jokingly told me he probably had seen my ass, but then later (in another conversation) commented on the way I was dancing.

The man I'm currently dating is also black. We had a similar conversation to the question I asked here and he figured it was body type - I'm slim with an hourglass shape and he says that most girls my weight don't have the ass and chest that I have.

So, I'm just curious if people think it would be looks or behaviour....

 

Junk in the trunk (regardless of race) is the black man's kyrptonite!

 

lol...

Funny - I gained a bit of ass as I got more into certain types of physical activities and definitely got more attention from black men as my ass changed. It's definitely larger than the rest of me.

 

Now I recommend you bless us with a picture :lol: :wink:

 

Nice choice of words to highlight...lol... I guess I have my answer.

 

Stay outta' those clubs..

that's no place to meet a donkey...much less a man..

I don't understant this club bullshit..

The only thing a club-going woman can do for me is crawl behind a garbage dumpster and suck my fuckin' dick :lol:

 

Wished you can show a pix of yourself but,I can respect your decision not to.

 

Well how can you come among BM and reference your body type and not give a brotha something to go on? Plus it could be more than body type that attracts BM to you.

 

I have to say it fuck it. I bet she is like 200lbs. She will not post a pic and this is not disrespect to the big gurls.

 

Ok, since the men only wants a picture, and doesn't have much else to say :lol: I'll try to give you one possible explanation:

If I understand you correctly, you like BM more than WM, right? So perhaps you subconsciously give them flirtatious looks that makes them understand that you're interested? That'll certainly make them approach you if they're interested...

 

I agree with you, but I was talking about being in the clubs because that's where I noticed the difference in who was approaching me versus my friends. I normally don't meet guys in the clubs. It's also hard to meet new guys - I'm shy, so meeting someone randomly just isn't easy.

 

That's good to hear..those clubs ain't shit..

I'm sorry for being so harsh with my earlier post..

 

I agree with Ronja. As I'm going around, I check out black men more than white men, as if there is a sort of 'vibe' between us. Sometimes they seem a bit surprised by this but some do respond. However I very rarely get approached by white men at all. I definitely used to, but not for a few years now, although I think that might also be because I have put on weight in that time and my shape is more curvy now (the old stereotype!). I think I'm too big now, but my man doesn't want me to lose any weight at all - he's a 35 y/o Nigerian.

 

Embrace that thickness gurl :wink:
I agree with both of ya'll, that people that are into interracial sometimes give off that vibe to one another.

 

Very, very true.

I don't know what it is, but I've experienced it from WW more than any other race. Ironic isn't it?

 

Thanks for all of the replies. It's definitely possible that I give off a bit of a vibe without realizing it and was one of the things I wondered.

flaminghetero - No worries about your earlier message.

 

Since you say you favour black men, it could be the signals you give out to them. In this cosmopolitan world a guy will rarely approach a woman in a club unless he is "invited". You friends are simply sending out signals to WM