Mom's letter to Princeton women urges them to find husbands

http://www.ktnv.com/news/watercooler/200867391.html

(KTNV) -- Princeton University alumna Susan Patton's open letter to Princeton's newspaper is raising some eyebrows.

Patton was one of the first females to graduate from the Ivy League institution. Her letter was filled with advice including telling young women to find a husband on campus before graduation.

Her nuggets of wisdom are stirring up intense debate.

Some say finding a mate isn't what going to college is all about.

Patton also said: "... ultimately, it will frustrate you to be with a man who just isn't as smart as you."

Princeton women say she has a point but they aren't in that "head space" yet.

Patton says her message is not at all anti-feminist. She says women shouldn't be ashamed to say they want to get married.

Patton's oldest son married one of his Princeton classmates and she has another son attending the university now.
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I think she has a point.......

women always saying they can find good men....well there you go. theyre on campus.

or is she setting women back 50 years

 

Why Looking for a Husband in College May Be a Good Idea

http://www.emptyhousefullmind.com/why-looking-for-a-husband-or-wife-college-may-be-good-idea/

 

princeton or not, this type of thinking happens everywhere

doctor's marrying doctors, nurses marrying other nurses

professors marrying professors..

nothing new here

colleges and the workplace are prime meeting grounds

 

When I was 8, I was madly in love with a teacher's aide. Well, I was very attracted to her. She was white, tall and had long, auburn hair. Her name was Betsy. I, at 8 years old proposed to her and pledged my love for her. Betsy was flattered. She sat me down one day and told me(in the best way an 8 year old would understand)to wait until I grew up and go to college. I then reasoned that I could meet and marry someone in college. Well, I went to college and graduated. But no wife. Betsy didn't tell me of the other things awaiting me when I got older. It's just as well.

 

Very true this part....the reviewer said....

” Brilliant and fascinating people are not limited to the Ivy league schools, and not all who attend Ivy league schools are intellectuals - some are simply excellent students. Book smarts does not an intellectual make."

 

I think that early 20s is way to young to get married personally. If I had it to do again, I would wait til late 20s early 30s.

As a college graduate, I have dated men with equal, more and less of a formal education than I have. However, the smartest person I have had the honor to be with never sent to college, Intelligence, intellect and the ability to earn are not all the same.

 

I saw an interview with the author on tv. I think she's right, in that finding a life partner is something that people should go about more deliberately, rather than leaving it all up to chance. It's a worthy goal -- meet in your 20s, settle down in your 30s.... That's what I would advise my kids anyway...

I think women these days are taught to undervalue finding a decent partner. Of course you should make the best of whatever lifestyle you find yourself in, including "independence" and singledom, but aging alone isn't optimal, and the older you get, the harder it's gonna be to find a match.

 

Apparently neither did you teach

University of Phoenix does not count lol

I agree 20s is too early to get married, you barely know who you are at that point so how can you tell if someone is worth being with for life at that point

 

My point is marriage should be about love. It should not be a business endeavor. If we believe that as a society, then arranged marriages should be the norm.

 

yeah but if he is not handling business then you fall out of love

 

Define handling business

 

LOL....if you have to ask baby ..then I have to sho you right

 

what can i say

princeton..harvard..yale..those schools are top of the line

they can't help their elitist attitudes

 

I dont think she hear you. say it again.

dont forget the other part either

 

I guess at an Ivy League's, there is the notion that just being there is a sure sign of success in later life for the kids from poor and rich homes. In other universities, it is not to easy to predict who would end up a success, especially where the country's economy has tanked so much that smarts don't get university graduates anywhere, but family connections do.

In these other universities, the kids from poor or average homes proliferate, and it is harder to be sure whether they will succeed given lack of family connections and limited opportunities in the job market, or economy. In this sense, it does not matter whether they are intellectual equals or not because the defining factor in the relationship usually becomes the ability to provide and also be a partner in shared responsibilities.

I guess this is why I think taking a chance on a guy even in university is a gamble. But of course if it is at an Ivy League there is a higher probability that the prospect would become a success. And this is where, I think, if love could conquer all, it would not matter either way.

 

pretty much

notice she just says Princeton student..period...

she didnt say priceton student with the rich family, or princeton student with the political connections...or the super-duper genius princeton student

just going there period is enough


but..if u look around...lots of employers actually prefer to hire from the non-ivies, because they want kids that are more rounded, grounded and more prepared to work for a living than snobby eggheads

 

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704358904575477643369663352.html

 

in general i agree. you should go places to find a mate who are like minded. college is a good place because they understand the sacrifices you make to get thru college

 

Shit I hope this is accurate because a nigga need a job right out of UCONN

 

PENN STATE

:drinkers:

i got my first gig working at a supermarket after telling the manager i went there

he was an alum and was like 'oh shit, that's where i went..ur hired'




i left like a week later

:lol:

moral of the story

it DOES matter where you go to school because people do look out