Mixed Signals Mixed Up?

I am in a Black man in my mid fourty's. I work with a increadibly sexy White female co-worker that I just can't stop thinking about. She is also in her fourty's but a few years younger than myself. Although she has told me she is married and has two teenagers, she also said that it is not a good marriage but was not specific. I have told her that I find her to be very sexy and she has also given hints that she likes what she see's but has recently been going from dressing very sexy and making sure I take notice to telling me she was brought up not to cross the line and as long as my intentions arent what they odvously are, I will have to keep things in proper prospective....WHAT the Heyyyyyyyyyyy? She driving me crazy and I know she is curious about being with me. Her legs are incredible and I tell her...so How do you maintain consentration in a baord meeting with her flashing thigh high stockings leading to paradise? Help!
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I think she just likes the attention considering she said her marriage is not that great.....but that's probably it. I would say for you to just cool it, especially if she has no intentions of crossing the line. You'll just end up driving yourself crazy.....wanting what you can't have.

 

I think she wants it as bad as I do. It's just nothing she's ever done before so she, Yes! wants the attention but most women do. She just can't seem to get over this Black man wanting her...So what to do.... That's my take
Thanx!

 

This may be a bit risky but, if you make her jealous a little, example flirt with someone else or try not pay to much attention to her, and carefully watch her response and actions. If her reactions are good and she pursues you more, than you can take it to the next level .

 

I have done just that. She went full boar trying to regain my attention. Even stayed after hours when we were the only one's in the office. But just the slightest approach....She Freaked! I didn't even try to make a pass??? You know, she could have gone home if the thought made her that uncomfortable but she stayed...Mixed Signals!

 

Even though her marriage isn't the greatest, chances are she'd end up staying with her man even if anything did happen between you two, and that would lead to the both of you getting hurt. She might also feel threatened by your attention, even though she wants it, and might report you to the higher ups. So, for your sake more than hers, I'd stop pursuing her, even though i know it's easier said than done. I have no sympathy for anyone who is in a bad relationship and tries to boost their ego by flirting with others. :x She could just be saying this to make you feel sorry for her, and getting her rocks off by being a cocktease

 

Never gave her leaving a second thought or a first thought...This is about ATTRACTION, Lust even...

Cannot lie, I do want a taste and I think she does too :wink:
Sure she likes the attention but if I make her nervous, she sure as h_ll is feeding the fire!

 

She's playing with you. Buzzing off the attention and then when it comes to the crunch she panics.

If I were you Id be very wary - let her make the first move if it comes to it, you stay calm, collective and elequent - ignore her, believe me she'll come running!!!

 

Thanx!

I did, she did...then she freaked again! One minute she's, there the door opens, then she panics and get's shy?

 

Messing with any female in the workplace is asking for trouble. Especially a white female. She might one day decide you're "harrassing" her. You say you're in your mid-forties, you should know better.

 

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And what happens after she gets her "taste"? Have you thought of that? Sure, she might seem like the innocent type now, but she obviously isn't if she's playing with fire. She might decide she's made a horrble mistake after she gets her thrills, and it is you who will pay, not her. I'm not saying these things to make you mad, I'm saying them because they are true. Nothing is wrong with being attracted to someone, but when you act on that attraction, you envoke consequences neither of you are ready to deal with.

 

Let me get this straight ADRONO, your not trying to married the woman right, your just looking for some tail, she maybe looking for the same ( It may not be pretty ) but we should fully understand what your looking for.

 

I think first of all, there are allot of women to choose from if all I wanted was some tail. Second of all there can be a very sensational experience with someone who has a mutual attraction. It does not have to end up gloom and doom. Could it, possibly but I'm talking about something that men and women experience everyday. Just becuase the other person is married doese not mean they can't be attracted in a sexual manner towards another person. If they act on it and are married the consiquences can be managed. These type of realationships can be very gratifying! Allot of women have the same fantasies. Why do you think they are on this web sight?
I'm not mad at all, just don't think adults have to behave like an episode of Jerry Springer. It could be more like undeniable passion... :? 8)
Jungle Fever!

 

Adrono, I thought you were asking for advice, so i gave you my two cents worth. I try to be the voice of reason and caution because that's just the way I am. I also call it as I see it, which is perhaps not the way you see it. I feel like you were looking for peoples' support in this matter. If you want her, go get her! You're right, sometimes a purely physical relationship with no strings attached can be gratifying for both partners. But women will often link emotions with sex, and i don't think men can fully comprehend that. my intent was just to warn you to be careful, but I think I was a hell of a lot nicer about it than any guest or audience member of Jerry Springer's.

 

nicely said APeach :wink:

 

Thanks! I have my opinions as you do I just don't think it has to go to hell because it's not the perfect situation. I geuss I wanted to know what was thought, about me going for it or ignoring it based on her actions...that's all.

 

i would say she's really not down, because my experience with women in their 40s is...they don't play games. if they want have sex with you, they have sex with you. married or not.

she's testing her effectiveness as a sexy woman. because she's not getting that at home.

now she might eventually have sex with you, but i doubt it'll be while she's still married.

 

Adro sorry I'm to lazy to reread your original post, but did you just straight up ask her whats up ?

 

She actually assumed I wanted to f-ck her. I never gave her an answer. She informed me she was married etc..etc... I simply told her to forget it and didn't pursue her from that point. She seemed to want the attention even more than before, I still ignored it but things in my eyes where saying okay... you don't want me now but I changed my mind...do you still want me? I just feel like she sends mixed signals. I would luv to F-ck the taste out of her mouth. No, I don't have to have her but I sure as hell have some bad intentions about f_cking her...There You Go!