Mental Attraction

Nothing is more annoying than patronizing behavior from a man, especially one who knows so little about me. Men are not very good at paying attention to details as a rule, so it's funny when they try to stick you with one and it falls flat:smt081.

 

Beyond intimacy, I always yearn for good company. I am not sure physical attraction alone can satisfy that need. Yes, physical attraction does light up my fire to an extent, a kind of curiosity, but mental attraction rekindles it. I would bat for an ordinary woman that has the sophistication of the world that keeps my mind well occupied. No apologies.

 

I have a feeling a man like naija would keep me interested for more than just a few minutes... no matter what he looked like. Naija, you always have relevant, interesting things to say, and you say them so well.

 

I love this. Don't let others hear .:mrgreen:

Thanks, Saint.

 

Pics or it didn't happen but ok

 

Empty barrels make the most noise and i think some people are suffering from delusion by always harping on how attractive and intelligent they are. Or is that what the shrink has prescribed?

 

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When We Entertain Fools We Become Fools Ourselves...

As far as mental attraction goes, I lack the ability to entertain a dimwit. I also find it very difficult to hold a conversation with a woman who uses slang often. Intelligence is key, arrogance is gross. I know some who use their degrees or current degree programs as a means of expressing their worth or intelligence. That is fine, considering that (depending on your major) your degree shows that you put in hard work. I know I put in countless hours of study and hard work. I just find it amusing when I meet some who use their intelligence as a mask their lack of common sense or underlining insecurities. As I said before Intelligence in a potential mate is key, but arrogance is just plain gross and shows quite a bit of weakness.

 

I so agree. :smt023

 

I think we should have greater expectations...

 

You just need to see her up close with a little makeup on.

Wow! She told me she was single!

 

I think we should see the potential in accordance with our expectations.

 

This THREAD is about mental attraction. I simply stated that I left my handsome husband (that I married for young love and lust, as he did me - he asked ME to marry HIM, after all) because he and I were not intellectually compatible, among other reasons. It is fair to bring up my intelligence in this context. What is not fair is that you would not believe that it was possible that I could be attractive and married to an attractive man (AND have the nerve to leave him... *gasp*!!!) - that is not such an earth-shattering claim. It's a simple statement of fact.

 

Mental attraction has always been important to me: one of my top wants in a man.

I can't be attracted to a guy who is not close to my intellectual equal. It makes for very boring conversations. That being said, I also can't be involved with a man who talks slow. LOL. I talk super fast and I need someone who can talk rather quickly. It feels like torture to me when I'm talking with someone who talks super slow.

If the guy is mentally my equal, then his physical attractiveness will increase for me. However, there has to be at least ONE feature about him physically that I'm attracted to (and no it's not his penis) in order for me to go any further with him.

 

I always say that if you want a girlfriend to roll in the hay with then by all means go for a good looking woman who is not necessarily smart, but if you want a life partner then a dumb blonde wont cut it for me.

 

I hear you. A hot woman (no matter how hot she is) is just that... hot. That is enough to give you an erection, but even Viagra-driven piledrivers need a refractory period, lol. And during that period you have to actually carry on a conversation. Unless, you're both sleeping. So, unless I'm screwing her for 24 hours on end, I can't imagine that sheer physical attractiveness could propel an actual relationship.

Truth.

 

Hot women can be bad in bed too. I've found looks to have little to do with how good someone is sexually.

 

Quite true.

 

That's because sometimes, hot women (and men) think their looks are all that's necessary to capture someone. They can be quite self-centered and they also don't bother to develop their intellect or personality.