I so agree with this, but I also think that sometimes, the most ordinary looking person can become really sexy or beautiful to you physically when you get to know them. They may not be hot in everyone's eyes but they are to you because something about their inner beauty makes them more outwardly beautiful. Great thread, Subtle! Lots of great answers too!
I'll say - what a narrow escape! Good for her!!:smt038 BTW I divorced a man for not being intelligent enough (although he was good-looking). We got married so young that I didn't know any better, but once I found out there were more intelligent men out there, and I didn't have to be made fun of for being "the smart one", I dumped his ass after six years. That being said, I crave some brawn with the brains... Can't do pretty boy anymore, and won't date a soft, slack, weak nerd either. I want a man who is strong enough to measure up to me intellectually and physically.
Don't make the mistake of confusing me with disposableheroine/Persephone - just because we are artists does not make us the same person. I am the one from Kentucky, I am not bisexual, and we do not resemble each other in the slightest.
The better question is what part of your fairy tale is horseshit? You're a liar and you're not fooling anyone.
For me, I have to be physically attracted first, before I move on to anything further. Then just as important as the first step, is the second step and that's having chemistry and compatibility with someone. So to be "in tune" with someone is extremely important. So to answer your question, that comes second after the physical attraction and that's what keeps me there.
How varied is that initial attraction? i.e., is it specific characteristics you can list out, or is it different from person to person?
