Men, women and lies

A common stereotype is that most men lie to have sex with women while many women lie to have relationships with men.

Is either a necessity?

Do you think that it is necessary for a man to lie in order to be intimate with a woman? Do women have to appear to be more sexually liberated than they actually are to get and maintain a relationship? Be as honest as you are comfortable with when responding.

 

More often than not, I think people lie to themselves in (casual) intimate relationships.

 

"Men tell the most lies, women tell the biggest lies. Men lie so much it's damn near a language"

- Chris Rock (1999)

 

Thanks, guys. Can you elaborate on that, Sir Nose?

 

Why would lying be a necessity? I don't think it is and don't understand why it would be.

 

I agree with you, Britty. I don't think it is a necessity either. I do think that some people think it is, though. Going from the poll at this time, there aren't any yes votes. The votes for no and sometimes, though, are almost tied. Someone out there thinks that at least in some situations, lying is a necessity. I'd like to understand why as well.

 

The thing in general about lies is that you usually get what you want and things seem to be easier at first.However when truth comes to light(and often it does) there is drama,disappointment,and stuff gets really messed up. To me personally it's not worth lying.I rather just see what life has in store for me with a person that is on the same page as I am.

 

In dealing with some of the fragile female egos on this very board as a microcosmic example, it's obvious that lies are necessary if only to keep the peace.

 

Oooh, hm. But is it really lying that's necessary or just learning how to say what one wants to say with respect? :smt017

 

Remaining silent is the third option.

 

That is lying with silence. :smt036

 

teensy weensy, tiny whiny, little ickle, ickle lil lies are sometimes a necessity, for instance i picked up the phone to a man friend just now and said " oh i'm really busy at the moment, you caught me tidying the house, can i speak to you another time?"

When in fact, i'm sitting at my laptop browsing this site and cannot be arsed to talk, don't want to upset him sooooooo.

 

Agree totally! Haha.

It's really, really bad but when I couldn't be bothered going to see my ex I'd just say I couldn't get a babysitter even when Jake was at his dads.

Or if your guy asks you if you're eyeing up the hot guy across the street you're not going to admit it, or if he asks you if you find any of his friends hot or something... it's not something you admit.

 

I'll take "Things an insecure guy asks for $500, Alex".

 

I think everybody lies. It is the magnitude of the lies that people care about.

Yes baby, I love your favourite high school basketball shirt...I think you look sexy in it. (not so bad)

No baby, I swear, I did not fuck your best friend.(not so good)

 

I think, one must see lies in different categories.

- the winning lie. She hurts nobody, however, it is often helpful. You do not like your blind date , however, therefore, you cannot say that she bores you.

the helpful lie: a man wants a woman, of course he tells her how fantastic she is... But honestly, every woman knows that he lies.

the manipulative lie: one person or a group lies to you , in order to get something from you. Money /woman

the trust lie: The dear partners who lie and play with feelings.

Needlessly to mention, what is maliciously.......

 

Aint this the truth!

From here, to home, to the workplace.... these chicks aint trying to hear the truth.

 

Haha! I miss Jaisee.

 

Dude, why are you digging out all those old threads ???

 

Why are you always crying about shit but not creating new material???

What is the time limit for posters to post in a thread before no more posts can be posted?

What is the problem with "digging up old threads"?

These are legitimate questions??? Thanks in advance.




To answer you question, these threads interest me and I find absolutely no point of rehashing topics if they are were already covered, I'll bump topics so others can chime in as well.