Looks or Personality?

Yeah I get it. I'm such a sucker for a pretty face. But luckily for me as a guy women reveal their character very early on

 

While I definitely want to see a package that's pleasing to my eyes... I agree that she must have a good personality for us to make it. I've had the looks with shitty personality, and I couldn't escape fast enough. Just as bad are those who are fine as heck, and think they can have the guy be their personal ATM. Again, can't escape those women fast enough, and thankfully they tend to show their hand quickly.

 

Guys do too.

Especially pretty boys. Just like some females, they think all they have to do is look good.

It's usually the pretty boys who either reveal themselves as soon as they open their mouth, or they will within days. Usually when they do stupid shit like ghosting, not doing what they say they will do, and popping back up (after ghosting) and acting like nothing happened. Men of character (who may or may not be good looking) don't act like that.

 

It's not that we think that, it's a fact

 

This negro right here lol

 

Before I used to be able to agree with that statement however now I can see handsome face a nice body and a flirty personality but if a dude doesn't get out of his car and help me carry groceries upstairs while he's being flirty, when he sees me by myself, and then once even made a comment about how it would be nice if I had a man to help me... or open the door for me I am automatically turned off.

The man I'm referencing right now is used to girls stumbling all over themselves to get him to notice them or talk to them because he has a nice body and a nice car and is good looking with pretty eyes

Lmao I hate him for all of those reasons

 

Most of my friends and myself would never let that opportunity pass. For me... first and foremost, I'd want to be helpful, but seeing a pretty lady... I would not miss that gift-wrapped opening to at least make small talk

 

It really was a perfect opportunity for easy conversation to show that you could be chivalrous which would've been a turn on and I probably would've given him my phone number, had I been single.

What's even more ironic was the fact that he was flirting so hard, commenting on my outfit and how good I look; yet he watched me grab a bunch of groceries not to mention a big pack of water and head up the stairs and didn't offer or ask if I needed any assistance. Actually made a comment about if I had a man to help me it would be nice.

Serious?

 

OMG! It's funny because again... The old-fashioned part of me will not see a women alone lifting something heavy and/or awkward without me offering to help. I usually buy the 40 bottle pack of water from Costco, and many times I would ask... "Miss, may I get that for you" to either put into her cart or from the cart into her car. I really don't get that with some guys. Both my Mm and Dad taught us this from an early age. Even now at work (like yesterday) my boss and I were heading to a meeting and she'll always giggle while outside I instinctively switch positions to be on the side nearest the curb. Just the way I was raised, and I'm glad.

 

You're right. I've always said... "I don't know why I haven't moved to the west coast".

 

They aren't all made from that mold anymore, are they?

Don't get me wrong I'm a strong woman and I can carry my own groceries and even heavy things but if you're going to make it a point to flirt with me openly and often the least you could do is be a gentleman.

 

He doing it right, women don't say they hate or can't stsnd dudes unless they em a lil bit

 

Most women who now gloss over pretty boy looks and say they look for personality over looks have done so as a result of glossing over non-pretty boys and going for pretty boys only to be hurt over and over again while glossing over non-pretty boys over and over again and getting hurt over and over again by pretty boys.

 

Of course.

Just like men who get smart about hot chicks.

 

Not the same thing love

 

Nope men will fuck a fine ass chick but marry an average woman who brings something to the table while fucking the fine ass chick on the side. We dont try to change a fine but untrustworthy woman. Women KNOW this guy IS a womaniser and fucks around but will STILL give it up and hope somehow her pussy has extra dippings with sauce to make the pretty boy womaniser change and be with only her. It is only after numerous heartbreaks with numerous pretty boys does the scale fall off their eyes. Most men act like squirrels in this scenario, they just want a nut. Period

 

Interesting.

Do do think all men will cheat?

 

You say it like that kind of woman is the norm lol. I think recognizing the value in personality has more to do with maturity and less to do with "numerous heartbreaks". When we're young it's just about having fun. When we start to mature we desire something more than just physical attraction. I don't think women need heartbreak to teach them that.

 

I agree. I think it's really about that people want different things at different points in life.

 

So on point totally right
Our goals are totally different. Men seek the short term and women long term. We see a beautiful woman as a conquest and women see beautiful men as a destination all their childhood dreams wrapped up in this guy. Usually they have a picture in their head of how they think things will go long before we even get there.