Looks or Personality?

Well you know then it gets into that whole thing (can't think of what it would be called) where if they are really hot you may not care about how much they make. If they don't look good, then you want some other quality to level up. They live far away but it's cool cause they are really good in bed. It's ok the guy is ugly and has no manners because he's wealthy, or whatever.

Men and women do it.

 

What i know is men do not lie about being shallow when it comes to inter-gender relationships. We want our women to be hot and have a nice ass (some women are hot but are lacking in the ass department) and we would choose such a woman with no personality over a woman who looks like Flav's identical twin sister with a great personality. Who are we kidding?

 

I've dated a guy who had NO job (full time student). I was probably 30 at the time. I dated a guy who did random construction jobs, nothing steady but it was more like he'd do enough jobs to get by. Money does not impress me as I have my own. I 100% finance myself and mine...always have. I couldn't give two fucks about my guys job, as long as he likes it I'm happy. The income he brings in doesn't sway me in the least. When a woman doesn't rely on you for her financial stability, your income truly doesn't matter. If you're not used to chicks like that, I'd suggest you raise your standards.

 

You do realize that not everybody is shallow and judges purely on appearance. I never have been and never will be a liar. What someone sees as ugly another person sees as beautiful. I don't think I've met one single person that i could say is 'ugly'. That only comes from judgemental fucks.

So yes i do still firmly say 'personality' over 'looks' no sugar coating. I don't tell ppl to fuck off if im approached because they're not some chizeled god. I have no issues to get to know that person. An outgoing and funny personality can make the 'pussy wet'. And when you don't believe in the word 'ugly' like every other blind sided but oh so perfect and shallow enough to judge someone's looks ppl in the world.

Liking African Americans is a preference that has shit to do with the tea in china!

 

The color of ones skin is a physical characteristic. You happen to be attracted to a particular color of skin. That is "looks".

No one judges purely on any one thing. They aren't judging purely on looks, just like you aren't judging purely on personality.

People say things about not being judgemental, shallow, discriminating, etc because they have a negative association with those words. But it's BS. We all have preferences of what we like and don't whether it's the color of one's skin, or whatever it is. If you weren't discriminating (in whatever ways you do) any man could be with you.

 

whoops off topic

 

I thought it was personality vs looks what has financial situation gotta do with anything?

 

I think we all know you were joking. But there's also truth to it. It's no big deal....just is what it is. Nothing wrong with having preferences. Clearly, everyone on this forum (and in the world for that matter) has his/her preferences.

Looks count to some extent. That doesn't mean that's all that count, but it does matter. Otherwise people wouldn't care if the other person is fat, sloppy, missing teeth, or whatever.

 

*yawn* more of raiders let me say what sounds really good in my head but not take the time to really think it out.

 

You know me. It's all about the penis points.

 

Let's keep it a thousand kid. Dudes can raise their standards all they want but a big part of what makes the vast majority of women attracted to a man is ability and willingness to court her which costs money. Unless you want every date to be pizza or fast food and entertainment being purely just walks and free movies like you're in hs that shit aint gonna work. Great for your man you don't worry about his finances but please stop pretending like there is a plethora of women with the same mentality in this country because there aren't unless their options are so scarce they have to be.
Even though I know I have a great woman doesn't mean I didn't spend decades going through a ton of shitty entitled women.

 

By that same token though, just because you've encountered tons of entitled women doesn't mean there isn't an equal amount of self reliant women out there. I think it's incredibly narrow minded and ignorant for someone to think a woman saying personality > looks is somehow lying or to think when someone says money isn't impressive, that they're speaking for show only. There are all types in this world and I think we close ourselves off to a lot of the good ones with these sorts of pessimistic attitudes. You'll always find what you will yourself to find imo.

 

Both.

 

This tired, old discussion: looks draw you in but does not make you stay.
The fact remains that the average american couple have no particular looks, or money seems to be lost on some. The average american don't look for money, but to be happy and money isn't a part of the equation more often than not. Sure, you have superficial people that don't care about love, but prefer beauty or money (goes for both genders), it still isn't the average american.

If you keep running into the same type, over and over, it's probably not the opposite gender who is at fault, it's your picker. some introspectiveness is needed. Stop blaming the opposite sex. There is plenty, plenty of regular women and men that don't care about looks, your money etc. Take a good inventory of yourself and what you are going for.But maybe they are not "good enough" for you so you keep missing them.

I used to go for the bad guy, good looking and an asshole, but I got over that in my mid 20s. Since then, I prefer goofy, slightly fluffy men who makes me laugh. I dont care if they make money, as long as they have an aspiration and are not lazy. Not all awesome jobs make good money. I just want someone to be happy, make me happy and not create drama. That is all, the rest solves itself

 

Finding someone to be happy with is difficult, unless they have common interests. Money does play a part in many ways. Society is to blame for buying into the media's imposition of what is attractive.


Ordinary looking people as well as the beautiful people are going to find out sooner or later which person they want to be happy with.

 

Says the girl from Sweden lol
Try dating as a man for a month and then tell me how much money doesn't matter.
No one is saying you have to carry around a backpack full of cash and then exchange it for time with a woman. A relationships success is determined by how well you can court a woman, take her out, go on vacation, gifts etc.
That costs it ain't free, very very few women with options are going to be happy with staying in all the time and not spending any money on doing things. Honestly I've yet to see it.

 

LOL. It differs from country to country. I don't believe on relying 100% on a man to provide all those things for me. It's not all on him. I feel too bad if he's paying for everything i feel the need to do my part. Afterall i make money too. It's a partnership and anyone who depends on a man to be the ultimate provider in every respect is just a gold digger in my eyes.

I've never been with a man who does any of the above. And I've been pretty happy in those past relationships. You don't need much money to enjoy your surroundings.

 

Did we go 11 pages without derail? :smt042