Looks OR Personality vs. Looks AND Personality

Men and women want good looking partners, men are just more honest about it.

 

I think that no matter who you are, you have to be attracted to someone if they are going to be your partner. But luckily for some, attraction is relative.

I also think that for the most part, men are more superficial with what they are looking for. Probably because they are such sexual beings.

 

lippy thinks that equally attractive people have a way of finding each other...that is for the most part going to be the initial attraction...then if/when the rest falls into place things like values, personality and things you have in common create the bond...i will tell you that on more than one occassion i have felt a man becoming more and more attractive as i got to know him...nothing like one of your girlfriends to set you back on your heels by saying he's alright if you like him...lmfao:smt016

 

This has happened to me many times. When I was about 19 I met a guy through a friend and thought to myself "he's a bit ugly" but we got to know each other and somehow I found myself becoming more and more attracted to him. We ended up dating for a while. I guess his personality made him appear more physically attractive to me, somehow.

 

It is.. But what you need, too, is that special chemistry between two peolple and this is hard to find...

 

Ain't that the truth!

 

Very true..

 

This is for me a male perspective. (Don´t understand me wrong, women can also think as a typical man).

But men feel generally differently than women. From my experience I could determine that if a man is really interested in a woman, he develops a possession thinking, a kind of protection, superficial related to the person, but also a protection of the body of the woman. Something a typical woman doesn´t feel.

Women are much more oriented in emotions, trust, reliability.

 

I can only speak for myself...not for entire womanhood.

When it comes to dating I do prefer the total package. A man that looks good but doesn't have the personality to match will probably not even make it to be my friend/buddy.
A man who has the sweetest personality ever but physically not my type at all I can be friends with,even really good and close friends on a platonic basis but never date them.

If a man can satisfy all my 5 senses and has a great personality that's a winner and keeper for me.

 

Chemistry is easy....and fleeting. Compatibility is what is much harder. It comes in after the lust dies.

Chemistry is nothing more than a biological urge meant to keep us breeding.

 

Ok, compatibility.

That's what I was trying to say. I'm pretty sure that's what she was trying to say although the words chosen to describe it were not the same.

 

I was still on the first step.. when you get to know somebody.. what is attractive to me more. How becomes somebody sexy to me that I can imagine to start an affair and maybe later a relationship.

Compatibility you see later. For a longterm relationship a lot of things, plans, Imagination have to fit.

That´s the reason for me to call this special person "The One"..

 

I would like to add that love without lust is just friendship. Now list is of course not only physical but also mental but physical does play a role,too.
I don't care whether the man I personally feel attracted to is seen handsome or attractive by general standard..As long as I feel (physically) attracted to him that's all I need

 

So wrong, yet, so right. The ignorance is bliss. Literally.