Let's Talk About Chemistry!

Thank you for bringing up such an enlightening topic!

The human mind is far more intricate than one tends to believe. So, such topics give you the ability to explore far more into question.

Nice one!

I can only assume tolerance plays a factor for those who endured such a test. The aroma in which the ladies despised could have sprung some fond memories of their boyfriend’s fragrance in which they suppressed. So, given a choice they chose the smell that irritates them the least.

Of course there is more to take into the equation for some men perspire rigorously and offer no sent, while others bring forth a horrible odour with only a slight indication of perspiration. One’s eating habits, surroundings, hygiene and of course, lifestyle can play a role on the outcome.

I would imagine it is like someone who has gas. Ones eating habits will determine the stench when the body discharges the toxin. Hard-boiled eggs will definitely bring forth a different smell than shall we say, beans. Both are prone to upset your stomach based on the rich proteins they provide. So the chemical reaction of each one in addition to whatever you have in your system at the given time will bring forth its own characteristics for you and anyone else nearby to enjoy.

There is a comfort zone that brings strangers closer together. It can range anywhere from appearance to the tone of a person’s voice. I’ve witness this many of times on tubes (Trains) or, just walking down the street. If you ever became lost and needed directions, you would select one person out of a crowd people to ask. That choice is based on how comfortable you feel to wards the stranger you are stopping to lead you in the right direction.


Body language is in my opinion a forgotten art when those tend to seek relationships using online Internet services only. A woman who plays with her hair while chatting with a man in means of flirtation will not be identified from a computer monitor screen. The same thing holds truth when chatting with someone with a vibrant personality face to face.

I would imagine as we become older and, come to terms with ourselves, we tend to draw the kind of companion we were always seeking but overlooked based upon those who would not give us their approval. I cannot tell you why you are less attracted to white men opposed to men who stem from other parts of the globe. For that you’ll need to reach deep inside yourself to find the answer.

Cheers!

 

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Wow, this is the first time I've ever heard anyone refer to chemistry between to people as being like having gas, or the lack thereof. You take the cake.

In all seriousness, you once again bring up some interesting points. However I am not so quick to think it is all as physical as you would have me think. I still believe in Magic, Remember I'm Tinkerbell!

 

Have you forgotten your words in regards to those smelling a strangers clothing imbedded with sweat? You wouldn’t even imagine the look on my face after reading such a passage.

Chemistry is not limited based on a single category. It can be added in any equation when comparing elements.

There is certainly nothing wrong with that. As I mentioned earlier, “the human mind varies from person to person.” This is what makes everyone unique in his or her own way.

Please bear in mind what I stated in my earlier post.

Cheers!

 

Fair enough Complex! You sure do make one think, I may have to read more of your posts.

 

chemistry is very rare and many times mistaken for a giddy crush, attraction, lust, like & love...chemistry is an undeniable magnetic field between two people...it comes out of nowhere and is usually a surprise or unexpected...at the ripe old age of 44...i can tell you that i have only experienced this once in my lifetime...

it was a 30 minute conversation without words...a handsome light skinned brother sitting in an airport snack shop...my heart beat so loud that i swear he could hear it across the room...no hello...no words...just eye contact...and me squirming in my chair...

there have been many crushes, giddy conversations, flirting, in like and some love in my life but nothing like this...it took my breath away...for an entire year...

fast forward a year later...it's now over...i just got a letter from him this week and he said...

"what we had was something that people dream about...some people will never get a chance to experience and others believe it is just not possible"

i know better than to think this will happen again...does that mean i won't find someone fabulous? no...chemistry is a gift...

you don't have to be tinkerbell to "believe in MAGIC"

 

Now, That's what I'm talking about! "an undeniable magnetic field between two people...it comes out of nowhere and is usually a surprise or unexpected..." I am sorry for you though that it's over.

That is what I experienced, it happened a year ago, first it was a look I found it impossible to pull away from, then a lightning bolt to my chest during a friendly hug, so strong that I could hardly breathe. After that the magnetism was so intense that it was like an invisible force pulling us together, no matter where we were. I know he felt it too, it was obvious by the way he acted.

I've been in Love before (I'm 45) I've known crushes, infatuations, and just liking someone a whole lot. I've even had chemistry before to some degree. (By that I mean the butterflies, some magnetism, not knowing where it came from. Or that look I couldn't pull away from with a complete stranger.) But NEVER had I experienced something so strong that literally took my breath away! It scrambled my brain! It did an over-ride to all my well laid plans! I was completely caught by surprise, off guard! It makes it nearly impossible to act with reason and rationale when this happens. (Although I am trying very hard not to be blinded by it.)

I don't necessarily believe it's a one time only thing though.
Why not believe you can and will find it again? :smt052

 

I'm sorry it's over, lipstick. My experiences have taught me that there can be a lot of reasons why two people didn't end up together even when the "chemistry" was there. But I'm with Tinkerbell, let's believe that it can and will happen again.

 

thanks veema! i'm actually going to be just fine...the wheels are in a forward motion now...i can honestly say that i cherished every moment of that year...it was truly a gift...

it's not that i don't believe...but rather that i am careful not to focus on it too hard and try to make it happen again...i don't think it would be fair to future mates to set that expectation level...i wouldn't want to pass on someone wonderful just because the first time we met he didn't take my breath away...make sense?

 

Perfect sense.

 

Tinkerbell and Life hit it on the head. Lust and chemistry are often confused for one another. Chemistry is something that's difficult to measure...a clear way to find it is when you are drawn to someone that you wouldn't normally be drawn to based on their physical, finanicial etc. status and/or qualities. You don't necessarily want to jump their bones...you just want to gaze into their eyes (and then jump their bones...LOL).

 

True Dat!

 

Now there is a question, I agree it makes a lot of sense, but the question then is, now that you have experienced that kind of chemistry, how important will it be in future relationships?

Will one always be looking for it? If one is in a relationship without it, will that put an unfair risk of failure on that relationship because they don't have it?

It can truly be intoxicating, can it also be addictive?

 

I am not looking for it nor do I expect it to happen...if it does that would be amazing...bottomline the relationship only lasted a year...that is not the results I am seeking if the goal is to find a "rest of your life" or "happily ever after" partner...that chemistry took me on the roller coaster ride of my life...so much so that I am writing a book...

 

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Damn, dawg.

This Mage of the Black Arts put a spell on yo' sexy ass.

 

lucifer my darling...long time my friend...the spell has been broken and lipstick is back to herself :smt059

 

Wow, that goes to what I'm talking about, that chemistry can be great and not so great. I would love to read your book when you finish it!