Ladies, Is There A Difference Between Dating Men Who Grew Up With A Father At Home?

While having a positive role model in their childhood definitely helps, this cannot be generalized.

I've seen it all:

Someone with a positive father figure in their childhood(be it biological father or step father) turning out to be a dad just as great to their children as their own dad had been to them.

Someone with a positive father figure in their childhood model turning out either absent or a bad role model to their children.

Someone without a positive father figure in their childhood with a strong desire to give something better to his own children than what he had and succeeding in doing so.

and also

Someone without a positve father figure in their childhood who also fails to be actively in their childrens' lives or being a bad role model to them.

 

Yeah it can surely vary.

 

Agreed! I'd want a similar situation where I (and his Mom) could provide guidance as needed.

Indeed. I'd say that in some cases... The sons could be picking up bad habits from their dad. My parents separated with I was 12. One thing I was very much aware of is that my father was a decent person overall, but he wasn't at all a good husband, and he wasn't interested in being a "dad" very much. In terms of women... My father was a bad boy, and while he was a hard worker and good provider... He was still a bad boy and was out there getting it in with women on the side.

I felt bad for my Mom because she was such a good girl, and really deserved to have a husband who was loving and committed. I think both of my parents had positive influences on my brother and I, but it was my Mom (and I remember this well) who would position me on the outside and tell me that I was to ALWAYS protect any woman I was escorting, and that later on dates... I was to always see that she was safely inside her home before leaving and so on. With my parents being southerners... They instilled a lot of good old-fanshioned values in us NYC-born and raised boys, but it was my Mom made sure of those critical things we needed to know. I'm so thankful, and it's just another part of why I'm so fiercely protective of my Mom, and totally driven to make sure she has whatever she needs that I can provide.

 

This is an interesting topic. I think that any outcome is possible, regardless of whether your influences are good or bad. The experiences you have can either inspire you to do the same, or to do better, or can have zero effect on you entirely.