Ladies and Gentlemen what is your type?

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what matters to me is, that it seems you did that for yourself. thatfore you deserve respect alone.

 

Yes,I felt that I had to,

A) because I was unhappy and
B) because I had health problems which at the time weren't diagnosed yet,but which scared me a little.

When hypothyroidism was diagnosed then and explained to me, I made sure to keep up the new diet system and walking more.

 

Bottom line even big girls dont usually like big guys. They'll hold out for someone average before messing with someone really big

 

Well,it's still all new and fresh,but I'd like to share this.
Recently I have been going out with a guy,who before deciding to join the military ,which requires a certain level of fitness, used to be overweighed-and unhappy with it.
Once that decision was made,he knew what he had to do to achieve his goal.
Aside from eating less and differently,as well as working out,he also had a couple of liposuctions.
He still has a sweet tooth and is not completely happy with his weight and figure but works out literally on a daily basis. Because of that sometimes it is difficult to make plans for us together,but I try to be supportive,and for next week I suggested to go swimming together,which gets him his work out-even though it's not the gym-and allows us to spend time together,doing something we both like to do (personally I am not a gym person,but i like swimming).

From 2008 until early january this year-it was something on and off-,I was in a similar situation, but there it took a bit longer for the guy to realize that to change the unhappiness about weight/figure ,he needed to become active.

 

I didn't address Unique, because, contrary to what North tried to point out, she didn't say the same thing. Read what he wrote below:

That is, in essence, what I said. TDK, you inferred that because he's big, he should be attracted to bigger women as well. I've seen pix of you in the past and you have admitted to being overweight. Does that automatically change the type of woman you're attracted to? No, I didn't think so. Again, what we are attracted to is different than what we can attract.

:smt043 North, I'm not in high school. I can disagree with a friend without hurting their feelings and vice versa. I didn't disagree with her though as her point was different than TDK's.

This whole idea of someone deserving something or only being able to be attracted to certain types is ridiculous to me. A celebrity deserves a high-quality woman....because he's a celebrity. He could be a total d*ck, but because he's made celebrity status, he deserves a high quality woman. (TDK, don't you dare argue that because I called you on it before). A fat person only deserves or should only be attracted to another fat person. We'd be surprised if a muscle-bound guy was attracted to a bigger woman. A younger man should only be attracted to a younger woman.

That thinking says that like should only be attracted to like. Which would make this forum pointless.

 

Rep added.

 

Now you're being full of shit. She flat out said most women aren't attracted to big guys especially the women who work out to keep weight off. How is that different from what I said.
And having wealth does get you a "high quality" woman as it should. It's a fair trade looks for temporary security. And at my heaviest I was no where near as big as this guy and say what you want but there's no denying that I'm funny charming live in a nice place and make decent money and I have interesting things to talk about. So I have a lot of things to leverage outside of my looks that women find appealing

Curious as to why you brought race into it. Race is far more different than weight.

 

We speak two different languages.

 

No you just interpret the information differently based on.who says it.

 

I don't know what you define a "high quality woman", but I honestly think there is another name for women who can be bought.

 

Well it's subjective that's why I used quotes.
But to be fair most people can be bought most attracted to wealth and success. High achieving normally have gorgeous women from all walks of life flocking to them. It doesn't always mean they're after something they just might be drawn to you the same way others are drawn to someone for being funny or insightful

 

She's proficient in favoritism.

 

As is a 1-10 scale

In the underlined bit, did you miss an "are" there? That would make sense then. Reading it now, that sentence doesn't work lol.

I agree with the others not always being after something, but drawn to you... although it depends on what someone did for the wealth and success. A motivational speaker type? Then people may be drawn to their insight. A comedian? People may be drawn to them for their humor.

But a CEO type that's basically had their (presented) identity swallowed by a corporation to become a face and name only... I think people would flock to them based on the money they assume the CEO's making.

Who we're interested in is very subjective, no matter how we try to explain it. The only part that makes sense is if you or I call someone a 10, it means they're the absolute 'best' from our perspectives. And describing someone as high quality means that they meet as many of our standards/ expectations as possible.

 

Ever heard of Steve Jobs, even though I never bought the hype people were attracted to who he was as a person. Same can be said about people like Puff and Jay-Z people always comment on their likeability.
Shit Jay-Z got Beyonce she sure as hell wasn't in it for his money fame or looks but I'm sure the things that created his fame and looks are what drew her to him.
To a lesser extent I could say the same with Kanye and Kim as well as Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
Who we're interested in is indeed subjective but not who we're generally attracted to and who we attract. I definitely have a type and a type that seeks me out, I was unconscious of it till my ex went through old pics of girls I dated and pointed it out.

 

I'd be skeptical. I'd only trust relationships like that if people knew each other before all the fame, money, success and whatnot.

We wouldn't know what really attracted anyone to anyone really. If I was in Jay-Z's shoes, I wouldn't know if someone wanted me, or the idea of me. Do you desire me for me, or for what I do for you... y'know?

I don't consider Jay-Z one bit attractive. and he likely has more money than I'd ever know what to do with BUT... Jay-Z's music is hot, I dig that... so maybe I'd look into who he is as a person. Then maybe discover he's a completely gooey, sappy sweetheart and be genuinely interested. I give you that.
(I wouldn't have a way to discover who he is as a person like that anyways, since I wouldn't be able to get to talk to Jay-Z himself. The days he publicly shared his phone number to talk to any fan that tried to reach out to him has long since passed ).

I suppose for the ones that "have it all", the fame, wealth and success is the same as us regular people caring about the physical attraction. That no matter how good a person is, unless you find them attractive and take that second look, you'd never discover it.

I stuck to Jay-Z and Beyonce as the example mainly because I know the most about them, and because I feel that the other celeb's relationships are based more on partnership/money/publicity stunts.

 

I gave you a rep. I may have gotten information wrong but the point was nice one.

 

In your opinion who can't be "bought" on some level. You people act like its money exchanging hands. What do you think you're doing when you date someone?

 

you can't buy loyalty and love. You can certainly buy a ho to tell you that she loves you or act loyal. I'm not as tactical as unique. I guess that's why she is unique lol

 

But you guys are assuming that any woman who happens to be a successful guy can't actually love him, it has to be for seedy purposes.
So you're saying a woman can't love nor be loyal to a man simply because he has money or are you saying if she's attractive it's less likely?

 

I can only speak for myself but I am not assuming that. It is just the way you stated it was an easy comment from unique. It is never that easy even with wealth.