Is she still attracted to non-black guys?

I have with a WW for some time now, and I have to say, I look and judge everyone the same. I dont put a preference over another in the sense of mutual respect.

Anyways, recently, I have noticed her make certain comments, usually under her breath or out of frustration...alluding to being with WG is better? or would be less problems?

I know she dated one/some WG in the past. Tough, we have been together for some.

I am really trying to understand where its coming. I think her family might have something to do. As on several occassions she has said, her mom, said, if my parents are open to me being with someone as her - WW.

Also, when, I am on the phone or chat about something, I hear her mom in the vicinity promote her Wness.

I am sure people in relationship, can be attracted to anyone, as she still comments quietly about folks on TV/etc, but to say underneath her breath WG would better? or she wanted to date a WG?...I have asked her if everything is ok...she says she is ok...yeah...

What do I do?

thoughts?

 

Find your balls and leave homie. Black white or whatever if your girl is tslking like that shes giving those buns up to someone else or thinks your chump and has no respect for you

 

She can still be attracted to anyone, regardless of ethnicity. But if she's saying all this like she's missing something physiologically, then take TDK's advice and leave. You deserve better.

 

Agreed with the guys... if she's saying a white guy's "better", then she isn't worth your time. If she was really present in the relationship, it wouldn't really matter what her family thought. If that's the attitude now, will it change later to become more extreme? Will you still be happy?

Everyone deserves someone that they are genuinely interested in, and the interest is returned.

 

ww are not likily to betray bm because they are naturally atracted to masculinity and only black men have real masculinity. if she do turn out to be a traitor and have dated wg/wb in the past or is doing now maybe you need to have a good talk with her. Sho her what a man can do.

 

I think there is heart/mind/matter/action...

There was the questionable correspondence I saw, and she said, it was a co-worker out of line at a previous job...ah ah.

As to non betrayal, is interesting because because, she has a co-worker, and the new co-worker is dating a BM, and the new co-worker said...and she was trying to tell the co-worker of a guy the ladies like (maybe I am too open with the WW), and the new co-worker said, she is also dating a BM and does not care about the work guy the ladies like/flirt with.

Her actions is cooking/coming over/hanging out/going out...she has discussed wanting marriage and kids...I said the time is not ready...

but somethings she says...wtf - i dunno if she is just saying it, and in IR relationship it happens...like she just saying random stuff she heard/pressured or a real thoro chick would be, like f those hater, my man golden...etc there I go

I spoke to her, re: what I thought I heard...and I though buy the time, I got back to the hotel, she would have left...it was that type of a conversation...she was there...got me some lunch...

 

she sounds confuse. homie you gotta remind her why she be with you in the first place, be a man show some force yo. white women like and expect that sort of thing from real men. maybe you are actin too weak, maybe you too white boy for her.

 

I agree that you should have someone that wants you. But I'm not sure that those stray comments mean that she really wants a white man. She might (and I say "might" because I'm not there) simply be pointing out the distressing fact: society treats intra-race dating far more favorably than it does interracial dating (and it can get downright hostile in some areas) and it WOULD be easier if everyone did what society demands of them and dating within their own race. However, who gives a shit what society thinks or says? "Society" doesn't have to share your bed and your heart with someone, only you do. And it's by no means certain that she is saying that because she doesn't want you. She may just be having a hard time navigating the hostile terrain. If that's the case, help her learn how to handle it if she's worth it to you.

 

With as much pussy and insecurity that you're carrying around in your thong, it's no wonder she might be interested in another man. And it doesn't matter if it's a white man or not, as long as it's a real man.

 

I am observant. I am flexible. I listen and understand women, and I am far from a pussy. Often times, she had said I am arrogant...or should I say confident. I am probably the de-facto man on how women should be treated. I am no simp. She does not live with me. No key to the house. No kids. No random kids with various gfs. Split dinners. She cooks clean, buys groceries. Sometimes I pay. I make 5x what she makes. Pre-nup if I get married. No excessive calls on the phone. Its mutual, I dont worship feet. I keep it real pimpish. At the same time, I am trying to understand her...and I listen...and what I've come to realise is a lot BM talk alot, but when they get remotely disrespected by WM or another race, they dont do anything, that why the media makes targeting B somewhat easy. Folk aint standing up to no one. Also I dont use the word W, Fr, Lgt, OverN, LastN around my house. I neutralize it. OverN = Next Day or Over Light, LastN = Yesterday...Maybe thats its also, "stopping" her from the possibilities? I am a man, I am master and a slave to myself. I am subservient to no one. Or does, the fact I said, I am a slave to me, throw ppl off, I keep it 100%, I see all sides. Plus, I am not going to rush into breaking up with her yet...cuz she said WG, I am trying to see what her issue is...maybe I will can her, maybe I wont.

I am probably too advanced. There might be stereotype type of what a male should be in certain situations...she get disrespectuful - leave, she talk about wbys - f that bull shit...I see all that...Im trying to get to the root of the issue, especially since everyone got their own problems.

that why I wanna know if yall experienced such undertones...or is she trying to get back at me somehow...just making convo...I am not sitting with tail across the leg...or really, if I want I can break up with her, never call her again...at the same time, need to understand the undertones she has...

 

What?

NO woman - regardless of her color - likes or expects a man - regardless of HIS color - to show her force. That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard in a long time.