Is it love, or lust?

Is falling in love once a year, and the next year, out of love, really love by the way? What is love? I have witnessed folks fall in love, get married, and out of love, then divorce. Some, not married, just fall in , and out of love too frequently to count?

One minute, we hear couples are in love, the next minute, something sets them apart, and the times spent together become distant memories. Is that easy to move on, and go through these same motions many times over, and still call it love.

Where folks who fall in, and out of love severally really in love, or is it just a fiction they make up?

 

People think too hard about love. All it is is a emotion.


If you're angry with someone one day, and the next day you're fine again. Does that mean you were never angry to begin with? No.


Love comes and goes just like any other emotion.

 

Love from a psychological standpoint is basically triggered when you feel something.

However, the problem is that people often mistake lust for love. Love is meant to be something where regardless of how irritating a person is, you'll stick with them because you feel a deeper connection with that person.

 

I dont agree with your words. Even when I am angry I will still kill... literally ... anyone who will attack my love. I still love them but Im just pissed off. That in no way stops me from telling them that I love them. That feeling of love never goes away in me, no matter how angry I might get.

Im IN LOVE for the first time though I have loved before. Its totally differernt this time for me. Its not that I like something about this person as before. Its not like that feeling that I trust them because I believe they are honest and faithful. I've had that before but its somehow totally different this time. I wish I could explain it but I can not. I will try...

I feel a connection with my love that is more like a 6th sense type of thing. Like this is where I belong no matter what.

That probably makes no sense at all but Im trying to describe what I feel now for my love, which is way different than any other that I have experienced.

I think in the past I LOVED but never FELT. Does that make sense?? This time, after so many years I FEEL. Damn Im just sounding more and more confused I think.

I can feel when they are in need or happy or sad over thousands of miles apart. Yes... Im in a long distance relationship currently.

Like there is a link of some kind without any wires. I feel safe for unknown reasons because I protect myself. Like my love will not harm me and will always try to protect me.

Okay Im gonna end it here because my description of love sounds not possible to me. I will say that whatever Im feeling, it makes me feel like I belong. I love this feeling and it never ever goes away.

 

lol this exactly what I meant by people think too much into it.

Love is an emotion that only that person can be the judge of.
That's why I hate when adults say to teens stuff like "You're not in love, you don't know what love is yet."


You don't have to be a certain age to hate someone, you don't have to be 20 years old to feel grief, you don't have to be 23 to feel jealousy and envy.
What makes one think you have to be a certain age to feel love?


I personally think that people think about it too much. Like trying to figure out if it's really Love or just Lust, who cares. Just enjoy the emotion you have while you have it.

 

I won't judge how others love. I only know how it works for me.

I have been known to fall in love rather quickly. Less than 3 months for sure. Definitely not in 1 week, but it does seem like that on 1 or 2 occasions.

I've only consciously acknowledged being in love maybe 4 times, 5 tops. Two of these women I never actually had relationships with. So how could I be in love with them? I know I was, and that's all I'll say to that.

It is a strange thing, this love emotion. You never really know when it's going to hit. I'm a very particular person when it comes to dating. You need to fit what I'm looking for, not to mention the "spark" has to be there.

The spark i speak of is one thing. It's when I have that burning desire to be with a lady, the "fireworks", as opposed to the spark, that, people, is real love. Some will find it much more often than others, and who are those others to judge what a person feels?

Note: Ironically post #420 for me....:weedman:

 

I think some people are so eager to find love that when they see it starting to happen they'll go in for it no matter what.

I would never start a serious relationship with someone unless we had ALOT in common and I could one day consider them a best friend.

Obviously I've never been there, but I just think that when you're 45 years old and have been married to the same person for 20 years. Things like initial chemistry, how much you flirted, how much you lusted for them will no longer matter.
Those things fade away, but what you have in common is more likely to stay and make a difference down the line.

 

this is so me...hence the married within 2 months of meeting my ex-husband. i'm more the seize the day kind of a girl and follows my heart. i don't believe there is a time limit when you fall in love...you just know and it just happens and you have no control over it

 

LOL... your point makes way more sense than mine.

 

bust a nut and you will no weather or not :wink: lol

 

Are you sure youre a chick? :smt002

 

I think the terms "in Love" and "Love/care for" should be differentiated.

One is conditional and potentially temporary. the other is not.

 

lol yes im sure

 

I haven't read all the replies, but I think it could be love or just prolonged lust. Sometimes we go into a relationship with several expectations and come out disappointed cause it's not what we were looking for. I think some people are in love with the idea of being "in love" and some people are also co-dependent and have a hard time being alone. I know 3 people like this. Who go from the ex to the next.

I also think a lot of people jump into relationships too soon without knowing the person and again, they set themselves up for disappointment thinking it's always going to be in the honeymoon stage. If people got to know their potential (and this is the keyword) partner better, there would be less breakups and divorces.

 

I have had a few relationships. But, I can honestly say that I have been in love only two times. The relationships were never meant to be. I have not seen either one of the ladies in years. However, in spite of time & distance apart, I will always care for them and wish them well. I think a person is in love when you really want nothing but happiness for their beloved, even when it is apparent that you are not the one to provide or enhance the beloved's happiness. I think selflessness is a huge component of love.

 

I wont lie... I have a thing for edgy women and have a bad habit of falling into lust. Thankfully im self aware enough to eventually know when its tainted and pull out. no pun intended.

 

LOL!

I think we've all fallen victim to this at some point, but it's good that you have the foresight and insight to know what's going on. It's exciting, so sometimes it's hard to to not get swept into it.

Thank you, Chica!

Yeah, definitely. I know I've been a candidate.