is it good to be the submissive wife

https://www.yahoo.com/style/im-a-submissive-christian-wife-and-my-marriage-114131609033.html

a woman says the submissive wife leads to a happy life.

is she right? she says she like her man to take the lead. can u handle that?

 

Every relationship is different. What works for one, doesn't work for another. It's up to the individual couple as to what they determine works best for them. I think the bottom line with all of it is that they need to be really open and discuss things. In my experience, it's also a really good idea to sit down and go over things periodically. Life changes and so do roles.

 

Agreed! I like to think I'm quite balanced in that I'm not domineering, nor, am I a pushover. I prefer my s/o to have that balance too.

 

100%!!!!!

 

Spot on.

 

I like the article and that's how I conducted myself when I was married and would do so again. However, I'm hoping next time to have the husband who loves me as "Christ loved the church." We'd have a better outcome. In and out of the bedroom.

 

I just couldn't be submissive (except for the bedroom).
It's just not me and I couldn't fake it like other women either who pretend to be helpless or dumb just to let the man appear as their knight in shining armour.
Those women are actually very smart since they get their way most times, but I just can't do it.

A while ago I met a guy online who I thought was extremely attractive and interesting.
The attraction was mutual and we were talking for a while until he said something like: "I'm very dominant.The can only be one head of the relationship and that would be ME". :smt103
That totally turned me off instantly because I'm looking for a companion not a dictator.

 

I would like a submissive wife. But not in the sense of 'go do this, do that' vein. That's not who I am as a person.

But some gals these days have to turn everything into a power struggle. NO WAY!

But it would be refreshing to deal with a woman that will not try to take the lead during our dance.

 

Being submissive is not a sign of weakness but of strength. It's putting your ego and your need to be right/do things your way aside and deferring to the one who assumes the leadership role in the relationship. Anyone who knows me knows I'm not a doormat, I don't suffer in silence and I have an opinion on everything. But I chose to defer to my ex-husband as the head of our family and out of obedience to God's command to do so. I don't regret that in any way.

 

PRECISELY! It is God Most High that has established the Head of The Family. I don't know how that goes over here, but it is a believing woman's duty to obey her husband.

I'm just glad someone else said it 1st.

 

This! I'm very strong willed and opinionated but I learned a while back that I prefer to defer that leadership role to my SO. I'll still speak my mind, but I'm learning to not be so stubborn in my ways. Much different than my marriage, but we live and learn, right?!

 

Ches is that you??

Somebody must have hacked your account because that actually made sense.

 

My dear, I got my first neg rep shortly after I joined in 2011 saying this very same thing. Where have YOU been???

 

true but the man needs to be a goid lisyener and admit sometimes ur ideas are rite and or merge the the two ideas

 

Power Struggles don't work at all!

I get into this conversation often with my best friend. She's one who gets herself in power struggles all the time with her s/o. I will say things like, you need to stop trying to be the man. It wouldn't be an issue if he was cool with it, but he's not. So here she is this woman who said she wanted to be with a MAN. She gets with a man and is constantly battling with him over the most ridiculous things and it really is a male female struggle.

To me, when one is confident with themselves then there isn't any power struggle.

I think people often don't understand the full meaning of submissive. As if one can't be a strong woman and be submissive. It's sortof like the nice guy discussion. Being submissive to one's s/o is NOT being a door mat.

 

Finally....a woman who understands

What heathen could possibly neg rep you for that

 

Most definitely. It's all a balance. Communication is huge. I have no problem giving up the leadership role but that doesn't mean my opinions aren't valid and worth talking about

 

exactly.....women want leaders...not dictators.

 

It was Huntress. :smt081 I tease her about it every great now and then. Submission is a very negative word to some.

 

It really is! It can trigger all sorts of things. It really comes down to that many don't really understand what it truly means. The pastor said it when I got married and I agreed. At the reception several people came up to me saying they couldn't believe I would agree to that. They clearly had no real understanding. It didn't really matter to me, they weren't in the relationship.

While we ended up divorced, it wasn't because of any of that.