Is Attraction...Nature or Nurture?

Somewhere...Freud is checking out this board...LOL

But hey...Cougar Power!! 8)

 

Go cougars! :smt038 :smt038 :smt023

 

I hear you Shy!

Since I was about 30 I have always gone out with younger men! I don't look my age (so I have been told) and I just find younger men get my groove. I am afraid I would kill an older man, but in the sweetest way possible :twisted:

 

I think that's the third time I've heard that this week! :lol:

 

Hey SoCalGirl1609

I know! Cougars are everywhere. That is suppose to be the magic number. It works for me :lol:

 

I guess it works for me too, but in the other direction too! I don't think age is a big deal.

 

8) That was a very interesting and inspiring post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it's appreciated.

 

Thanks Intriguedone

 

:smt028 Older women are 'that Crack'!!! Luv'em!!

 

LOL! What is it about older women that you and others like you, like?

I'm sure this has been covered, but I'm too lazy right now to look for it. :lol:

I'm curious, because now that I'm single, I'm finding a lot of younger guys are attracted to me. I'm not looking for them, but they seem to find me and they don't care about age. When I was in my 20s, I didn't have older guys looking for me, but now that I'm in my 30s, I have guys in their 20s wanting to (as one guy put it) father my 2nd child. :lol:

 

:wink: Aahhhh, where should I begin? No, seriously, I can only speak for me. I've always been an 'older soul', so even when I was little, I hung around older cousins and friends. Even as a little boy, I would follow around older teenage girls and make them my "girlfriend".

As a grown man, I'm just extremely turned-off my immaturity (most of us are) and what I consider unrefined behavior and judgement...even though I may be a little grimey myself. However, my patience is almost non-existent and older women are more inclined to cater to you (I don't mean submit), they have more of a maternal sense. They'll happily fix you a sandwich without you even asking.

Older women typically provide a more emotional stability, sound judgement, and simply more class.

Physically, I've always preferred the "refined" contours of a "seasoned" woman...this, I simply cannot describe but, there is a difference.

..ok, enough of my rambling....carry-on good folk.

 

What? How do you get that? Just because you like younger women, doesn't mean every man on the planet does. Everyone has different tastes and preferences. It's like saying "disposableheroine, you've got a large ass, so why not just wise up and admit men will never like you, because I obviously dislike women with large asses, and thusly all men in the world share my viewpoint as I am the quintessential man with only the purest opinions"

What a crock. She said she was afraid of killing an older man because obviously she's a freak in bed, and she'd rather not break your old, brittle bones and instead prefers someone who can keep up with her healthy sex drive without getting winded halfway through. She didn't say it because underneath she knows no man her age would ever want her. That's an idiotic thing to say, even if the average is predisposed to dating younger.

She wants what everyone wants: someone to please her.

You really need to step back and realize that just because you have certain opinions that does not mean everyone else shares them. I know plenty of men who prefer older women, and I know plenty of men who prefer women -in the same age range as them-. I know plenty of men who don't give two shits about age or looks as long as lil mama's got some ass, it makes them happy.

Just because she doesn't want you doesn't give you a right to start hatin'. And just because you don't want her still does not give you a hater license. Leave the woman be and let her have what she likes, instead of making stupid, biased comments.

 

Oh girl don't even bother.

 

I hate people who think their opinions count for everyone in the situation.

That's how stereotypes are created, and enforced, because people make blanket assumptions about a large group of people.

 

Oh I hear you but he will just reply with some other post full of offensive stuff. Look up some of the stuff he has said.

Thanks for the back up though

 

Oh I know, I've seen. Shit like that just irritates me so much, though.

It's like some prick coming on here telling us all "You ladies only date black men because white men don't want you anymore."


I'd like to say a big "FUCK THAT" in response.

People who say ignorant things like that (and what he said) would better spend their time in therapy working on their inferiority (or superiority) complexes and well away from other people who may accidentally be harmed by the shit they spew.

Besides, I'm feeling froggy tonight, so I figured I'd be mean, too.

hehe.

I gotta stand up for my fellow chica. We've all got the right to date whatever man we want to according to our preferences.

And there are never going to be a shortage of men who can appreciate a woman either his senior or his equal in age. NEVER. So there's absolutely nothing wrong with going for a hot young stud when you're old enough to be his mom.

Besides, it just screams "double standard". He can't acknowledge that maybe some women prefer younger men just as he prefers younger women? So, a man's a player and a girl's a slut, right? (my favorite double standard!) And a man who dates young is merely proclaiming his love for hot young girls to the heavens, while a woman who dates young is out of options???

Give me a fucking break.

Maybe he'll get banned if he can't get a clue and shut the fuck up.

 

Let me explain something to you, fella.

You're not the center of the universe.

You're not always right.

You don't know everything.

You, most of all, don't know me, or any of the other people on this forum from Adam, so by coming on here making rude, offensive statements all you're doing is proving how little you really mean to the world, because you can't contribute more than a few sad statements online meant to upset complete strangers, all in the effort to get your jollies off.

You are the weakest link, goodbye.

Now quit turning a thread about "Nature vs Nurture" into a thread about healing your bruised ego because people happen to be allowed to have their own opinions of what is attractive and what isn't.

I don't have anything to prove to you, darling. So please quietly take your ludicrous opinions, turn them sideways, and insert them into your rectum, which is exactly where that shit belongs.

Have a lovely day!

 

Thank the gods, he's got a life!

Here are some well wishes that you get back to that post haste, good sir.

 

Disposableheroine,
The funny thing is that he assumes that because I happen to be attracted to black men he automatically thinks I am somehow flawed. He also doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong with that thinking.
He also seems to think that no other man would want me so I have somehow confused love and lust and will take anything I can get. An older successful man would not be interested in me. Lord if he had any clue. My fiance cannot be manipulated nor would I be interested in doing so.

I met my fiance by fluke on a trip to Geneva. I was there for a meeting and he was on holiday. We have been together for quite a while now and I can assure you I have sorted out the love/lust issue.

I work for the largest NGO in the world. I travel all over the world and have met some very interesting people.
My fiance is a professional athlete who is also university educated. I am very comfortable in saying that we could both have our choice of partners. We CHOSE each other. I did not go out looking for a black man. I happened to find a man that I had a lot of common interests with, good conversation and fell in love with.

I assure you I am not sitting in a double wide trailer with my teeth in a cup!

It just amazes me that in this day and age people think that there has to be something else behind an IR other than two people that love each other. So he is younger than me. Big deal. I find that with my job many older men are slightly intimidated because I don't fit their idea of a traditional woman. My position at work in most cases makes me more influential and wealthier than they are. I find younger men are just not bothered by it at all. My fiance is also successful in his career so finaxial inequality is not an issue for us.Because we both travel so much, my fiance is glad that I do not depend on him. When I am travelling for work I don't have time to worry if he has a sandwich to eat and when he is playing he doesn't have time to worry if I am upset or lonely. It works for us and that is all I care about.

 

Well, it's ABOUT time you went there cowboy.