I'm sure you've never been approached by a black guy before

This happened to me again today. I was approached by a young black man who started his line with "I'm sure you've never been approached by a black man before..."

This or another similar introduction has been used on me at least 6-8 times. Why do these men feel as if they need to give this disclaimer before asking for my phone number?

Would they like to be the first black man to take me to dinner? Are they insecure about asking a white woman for her number? What is it?

P.S. I thanked him for the request and said "no, thank you." I almost never give out my phone number to men I do not know. Bitch, I know. :yawinkle:

 

Some black men feel the need to use pick up lines just as any other man would. The only difference is, because BM and WW rarely are seen in relationships, they feel the need to state the rarity they might be offering to you by taking a chance on them for a date or whatever. Sad part is, pick up lines don't work. Talking to someone like they're a person and not a prospect waiting to be "picked up" works best. It's pure ignorance and/or immaturity when a man says things like that.

That line is a sure sign to stay away, although they may be completely harmless. It's that ignorance in that statement that plagues the many BM (and non-BM) right now thinking it's all good to be "pimpin" and "hollerin' at these hoes". Or as some guys have referred to WW as "snowbunnies". Sometimes I wonder if they really have a true affection for the WW or they just wanna acquire the bragging rights to say they picked up a/another white girl.

 

I think it all depends, SoCal. Some of these men are probably unsure whether or not they should approach certain white women because of how they may react to a black man confidently hitting on them, and I myself have approached white women who did react negatively when I WAS interested in them at the time...

though, some of these men could be players, but even so, they could still be completely harmless...

and, if this has happened to her 6-8 times, then maybe it's just karma. Who knows?

Some white women actually prefer us to be confident in our approach, (at least nowadays) but many of them still don't. This is why I observe girls I may have an interest in BEFORE taking the plunge.

 

lots of BM assume white girls that look like the typical prissy white bread type of white girl (not the ghetto hip hop kinds who usually are used to being around black men and hit on by them) are not used to being approached by BM. by the way if u don't give ur number to men u don't know what kind of men DO U give ur number to? technically every man u meet is a man u don't know. are u saying u need to know a guy for a few weeks or months before giving him ur number? isn't it kinda hard to date that way, what if u never see him again? how will you guys stay in contact? (Unless u met him at school or work somewhere and u know you will see him regularly there). u are right that does seem like a bitch thing to do, and it also seems counter productive if u wanna meet and date men don't u think?

 

I can try and come up with some philosophical reason for this, but the truth is... they have no game.