"I'm not being racist, it's just how I was raised"

Yep, its pretty much like those women are constantly intimidated to ensure they never stray from those cultural constraints.

If they do they do so at a great risk to their physical being.

Do or say the wrong things and you just might get a face full of acid to disfigure and blind you.

 

I don't like you and you don't like me, we have established that. So why is so hard for you ignore my replies. You want to start drama for no reason. Go on about your way. Don't you have better things to do with your life that try and start drama with folks you don't like that have no intrest in communicating with you?

 

Not everyone is cut out for interracial.

If they are thin skinned, constantly obsessed about what others think, seeking validation and approval for their choices in life then they will constantly battle themselves to prove something to others instead of just living and loving.

 

If having controversial opinions was a reason to exclude someone from participation then.....well neither would be here.............nor a lot of others. :smt109 I guess tdk thinks only one person around here should be allowed to hold out there or strange beliefs....he believes free speech is only for him.

 

Yep you are so right.

 

Thats cool that you formed your own viewpoints and decided for yourself who you wanted to date! :smt038

 

Thanks for sharing and I appreciate your view but I think I gotta disagree. I could be wrong but I think If you're truly not racist you dont have to preface what you're saying with "I'm not being racist, but..." If someone is wrong in what they are teaching you and you go along with it then to me you're just as wrong. Just my opinion.

Nonetheless I think it's cool that you had the courage to date whoever you wanted to despite your family's views. I'm curious though, how is your family now with your decision?

 

You'd be surprised. It def happens.

 

They got over it but no doubt still hold prejudices. I was told over a decade ago I was not allowed to bring a black man in my grandmothers house (granddad is totally cool though he never had issue with it) and the first time I told my mom I was dating black men she said the same thing. However her husband whom was also sitting there told me I could bring a bm in their house anytime. My mom's mouth dropped. All I know is later that week my mom said I could bring the guy I was seeing over. I never did till like a year later when I was pregnant. Mom never said anything else.
2 or so years after that I had my son with my husband. The first time my mother and grandmother meet him was at the hospital when I gave birth. When they all left my husband asked my mom and my grandmother if they would like to go with them to get something to eat. They didn't (all had to get home was late and an hr. drive) but my mom told me about how my granny said Brenda I think they were asking us on a date (playing around) and she said "I'll take Glen (my husband) and you can have his friend. Granny has been fine with it since.
My husband goes to their houses and they will ask why he didn't come if I don't bring him. They like him. They have always been good to my children too. B/C my husband family are JW we spend all holidays with my family and plus we live in the same town and I'm close with my family so they are very much apart of their lives. My aunt recently dated a bm too. Apparently she cursed out grandmothers sister who had something bad to say and while she (great aunt) was talking to my mom and my mom said "so" about who my aunt was dating. Aunt said your just defending her b/c your daughter is married to a bm. Mom said " It's her life, her choice".

 

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Yep it does and the mess said online really shows you how people feel. Black men take alot of heat for dating white women.

 

Good story!

 

haha

 

Not true. Shes a racial divisionist. Funny how youre not quick to stand up for Iggy or Paniro when myself oe others say the same exact thing to them or about them. Wonder what the difference is there hmmm

 

You sure as fuck make comments that would lead one to believe that. Seems like your sole mission is to point out the follies of the black community.

 

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