I'm gonna vent.

I don't have a lot of friends, and this is by design. I'm a fighter always have been. There is a reason they way I am. I still in this fucking place, in this fucking room trying to figure out what comes next. And all I've done and everywhere I've been don't really mean shit.

All I know is that I miss my children. I let me self start to feel a little bit and it came back to slap the fuck out of me. I'm done with that. There is a reason why I am who and what I am. I find comfort in that.

I'm just me....and there is a reason for that.

I'm not commenting on this thread....just had to vent. Cuz yall don't know me......and I don't know you all. But thanks for peeking through the window.

 

Of *course* you miss your children, Ymra. There's no shame in that, it's perfectly natural. Adjusting to the way things are now is hard. Give yourself the time and space to grieve what hurts. It'll heal better that way than in trying to pretend to yourself that you don't care. You have to allow the hurt before you can heal.

No, we don't "know" you, but I can tell in the short time I've been here that this is a very caring group of people who will be here for you the best way they know how if you let them. Your venting was a brave step.

Hang in there, hon.

 

Sending a hug your way.

 

:smt056you are just stuck right now in the middle of grief...there is a light at the end of the tunnel...let the process happen and you will figure out what your next move is and go for it...

 

hey man, I know exactly how you feel. I went thru a divorce in 2008 and Im just getting toward the end of the legal shit. the tuffest thing of it all is maintaining a relationship with your kids. Here is what I suggest. It came from a guy who is married to my former supervisor:

1) mail letters to your children. a seperate letter to each one at least once a week. Its great for them because its a personal touch. there reason is because its handwritten and its by you.

2) call everyday just to say hello and joke around or whatever (even homework over the phone) whatever it is.

3) sometimes its just good to sit in the room with the TV off and do self inventory and set goals and plans. whatever they are. its good to hear yourself out loud and work thru it

trust me. I started doing that I and started feeling better about life. No dating for a minute because you got to cleanse yourself of yesterday.

everyone has their own way but it works for me. as long as it is spiritually good for you and safe then go for it.

 

I know the feeling. its ruff. what kills me is that women love to hold the kids hostage. I told my ex..that I wanted to come by and help my daughter with her homework...she replied "well its not in the divorce to see her on xy day"

but then women love to scream "OH its so hard being a single parent. I have to do this by myself and yadda yadda yadda" but when they are offered help by the father then they want to be an ass.

I just sit back....breathe in and out and let it float.

 

as a father you are suppose to help your child with their education. You are rite tho because all they gonna do is argue about you getting more time with them anyway and all that will do is make you more mad.

In any case it is your place to make sure how your kid is doing in school. I forced my ex to give up tha name of the school and the rite to be at all meeting and functions and the rite to talk to the teacher. come to find out its the law to have that rite anyway.

Like you stated in a round about way. choose your battles.

I have met some women and their exes say they really dont listen to the divorce papers he come by and get the kids at a whim as long as he call first

 

THATS COOL THERE.