if a ww prefers bm does that mean she will date just ANY bm

we spend alot of time on this forum talking about the women and how the bm really need to step up their game and stop settling...

so here is the flipside that my ww counterparts seem to skip over in order to be PC with all the bm that post here...maybe we are all just too nice to rake some of you over the coals...

do ww that prefer bm not have any standards or are we so intent on finding a bm that we will settle for the following:

fat bm
too skinny bm
ugly bm
not straight teeth
missing teeth
too dark of skin
too light of skin
bm without an education
bm without a good job
bm with any job
bm that lives at home with mama
bm that doesn't speak proper english
bm that uses slang
bm in prison
cheating bm
the bm player
bm with a bad attitude
etc...

i have dated bm since high school and it is funny to me how people assume that if a ww dates bm that she will date just any bm...i have actually known and witnessed ww dating bm that were way below what a person would consider equal attractiveness...especially in more rural areas where the bm population is very limited...

ww have standards too and none of the bm here should ever forget that...for the ones that don't take cheap shots at the women on the forum you are smart enough to know that this is an exercise...for the others that are under the confused assumption that they are god's gift to ww it's time to wake up from that dream...

a woman would be more apt to compromise on physical standards if the real man on the inside was extraordinary...unlike any other...special...

some of the most gorgeous men become ugly the minute they open their mouth...i've watched and listened to some of the biggest offenders over the last couple of years preaching the same soapbox crap over and over and over...and they still can't get a date to save their souls...do any of you have a grasp of what your life is going to be like in 10yrs...20yrs...30yrs...40yrs...if you are so wrapped up in the superficial how do you expect to claim the fountain of youth for yourselves? what happens when you are an old man and there are men younger than you...more handsome than you...have more to offer than you...then what? what will you have?

just something to think about...

 

i don't agree...i have dated bm,wm, hispanic and indian...my preference is bm...that is where my attraction is strongest...for me to look at a wm and/or consider going on a date with him he would have to be pretty spectacular...the total package or i wouldn't even give him the time of day...i would be flattered and certainly not rude to him but i would not agree to date...

robin...i've read your posts...you are new here and obviously came with an agenda...i can't figure out if you are just mad or if you have a chip on your shoulder...your avatar shows a fairly attractive man but your posts show an unattractive heart...it seems like such a waste...you are certainly entitled to your own opinion and preference...we would love to hear more about what you like then the derogatory vomit of what you don't like...

 

I hear what you are saying Lipstick. Some women will put up with stuff from a black man that they would never consider putting up with from other men. I think any time anyone focuses on just one thing, whether that be ethnicity, money, looks or whatever, they let other areas slide. The trick is balance (which is lacking in much of our society).

But having said that....womens looks and mens looks are not equal. They do not have equal footing in our society. Womens looks are equal to mens money. I know people will hate on me for saying it but it is the truth. It doesnt mean all women are gold diggers, it just means there is history and culture that supports good looking women and rich men being the most desirable in our society.

 

I agree with you Lipstick. The thing I don't get is - some people here claim that black men need to raise their standards with white women, well... maybe these guys need to lower their standards. What about the fat, broke unemployed black men? Should they only date skinny "modelesque" white women in their twenties with no children? It's bullshit. People should date who they want. My standards are identical for black men and white men, although I am more physically attracted to black men.

 

Robin is another secondary account I'm guessing. Someone needs a life. Oh well, just another name to add to the IGNORE list.

 

:smt038 I'm trying to figure out the same thing.

Regarding your post though Lipstick, I agree 100%.
Although I wouldn't say that because I am mostly attracted to black men, if I were to date a white guy he'd have to be Daniel Craig or something, I don't like how certain black men and Asian (middle eastern) men here will assume that because you date black men, you'll hook up with ANY black guy.
When I've been out with my ex boyfriend, I've had guys approach me when he's been away for a minute and one guy who was three times my age was insisting that I needed to meet up with him because I'm obviously just interested in black cock.
This was from a guy older than my parents, ya know? Guys my age can be even worse. Just because I'm more attracted to black men does not mean I will chase after any black guy that gives me a second glance.

 

LOL... I've had a similar experience, this guy was like 35, smelled like salt and was like super obese. :smt101 He was very rude to me... assumed that I would go with him because he was black.

 

I know, right?! All these guys that are going on about old, obese white women wanting their sexy black toy boys seem to forget the fact that obese unemployed black men with lots of kids exist as well.
But you know, it's OBVIOUSLY different and we just don't get it.

 

Hah! Mine smelt like eggs and had a few teeth missing. Romance isn't dead after all!

 

Na, I feel you on some of your points but you make out we're ALL like that. We're not. Believe it or not some of us are young and in shape, oh and we don't have higher standards for black men. :smt120

 

Damn, things are getting slightly heated on this forum now.

 

You know what ! I read what this man says and I just cannot be bothered to argue with him, he is obviously emotionaly retarded, with some deep seated self evaluation issues.

Have you ever heard of the saying ( Thou protest to much ) well it's this guy all over and also, if that's you in your picture? then i would judge you average, you have no character to your face at all, polished within an inch of your life.

Straight to the point, the man is a prick, not because he has standards (I could not give a rats arse) but because he has no idea how to deal with women and that will be his own downfall.

Happy to sit here in the knowledge that many of his relationships will fail because his attitude stinks.

 

Yeah I'm with you on this, he uses a phrase (up to snuff) i've seen it somewhere before, give me time to think and i'm sure I will remember. :shock:

Although I have used up to snuff myself, it's a very english term. lol but I saw someone else using it a while ago.

 

Lipstick. I agree with you. Not many people know bout my preference for BM. But, the ones that do will just point out any random BM we see when we're out together. It's as though they're saying "well, there's a black man - you must like him".

I think it's because as a minority, they're seen as black first and a man second. I don't like a man just because he's black. That is absolutely stupid. It feels to me as though the term "Black Man" becomes almost a brand. A man who is black becomes a "Black Man".

I wonder if it's the same in Africa, where WW are in the minority?

 

A lot of Work to Win the Other

A relationship is each person giving 50 % to each other to make the whole, and in that whole is much give and take and compromise. if he wants her and she wants him, then the real work begins to win each other on each's own terms.

 

Fair enough that some women might go looking for a mandingo stud but where I am now, I am being propositioned EVERY single time I go out for a walk. Sometimes so aggressively that one guy yesterday followed me down the beach, flashed his erection and had a condom in hand, etc etc. It was freaking unbelievable and completely abhorrent to me. I am not whoring it up with my clothes, don't wear makeup and generally have sea salt embedded in my messy hair with my dive gear slung over my shoulder. So perhaps the mandingo stud thing should stop at it's source - the men who literally throw themselves at ww.

Regarding Lipsticks original post, my standards are the same regardless of the colour of skin.

 

omg athena...please be careful:smt061

 

Thanks Lips. It's unbelievable here - I've never experienced this kind of aggression before! It's a dreamland if one's into one night stands with different dudes every night, but that's not my bag at all.

I am being super careful, worry not

 

Co-sign. Holy crap. I'd be walking with pepper spray. LOL.