I Want A Black Man, Just Not Any Black Man

[Blacktiger2005]

I have read in some of the post here by some of the women that they want a black man, just not any black man. I heard a sweet friend of mine say this not long ago. She want a good black man period and that she is willing to wait until hell freezes over to get one. It seems that with many women who want a black man, the prize for them is a black man who confident in himself, unafraid of what society thinks, love his woman and will protect her, and most of all be mature and sensitive to a woman's needs. I understand the pool for a good black man is small and to get one is highly competitive when you throw in the educated black woman which there are still a few who want black men. What do you think?

 

[fnnysmrtprtty]

Seems like there's lots of black men just like you described here on this forum. Really, the overall quality of men and women who post is here is pretty impressive.

 

[KnCA]

Sorry but I find that to be horse shit.

There are many quality black men out there who are wanting and capable of having a good solid relationship.

I don't think you can factor in black women into the conversation. There are black men who are attracted to white women and white women who are attracted to black men - pure and simple.

There isn't any competition between black women and white women for black men. Nor is there any competition between white men and black men for white women.

 

[Wedlock]

The Attraction. Black Men.........

There are plenty of good black men all over the place.I don't where you get your information, but you can look on this board alone and see anything from a lawyers to authors, to musicians, to doctors, to executives and all in between.
As a black male I find that brand of thinking a little insulting.And there is no competition for black men like myself who date white women exclusively.
Thanks.

 

[veema]

I understand the pool for a good black man is small and to get one is highly competitive when you throw in the educated black woman which there are still a few who want black men. What do you think?

wow. You really believe that?

 

[KnCA]

Oh and as far as waiting for hell to freeze over....

totally NOT necessary unless there is something really wrong with her.

 

[Blacktiger2005]

Good Black Men

You know what the beauty of this site as I have said in another post we all have the right to agree to disagree. I'm glad to know so many here have such a world view on everything to be right and know evey situation under the sun with such PH.D insight. What arrogance.

 

[veema]

No one meant any disrespect, Blacktiger. You probably didn't realize how loaded your statements were. (I was a little surprised to see them.) Generalizations like the ones you made, especially for folks who've experienced differently, can touch nerves. Personally, I don't believe that "goodness" is any more rare in black men than it is with men of other races. Nor do I think that good black men, or good men of any other specific race, should be regarded as a sort of hot commodity. There are perils to subscribing to those beliefs that I just don't want to get near. That said, I do understand your friend's sentiments in that it can sometimes seem hard to find a man that is "goodforme." There are a lot of good men out there, but finding one that is good for me isn't that easy.

 

[lippy]

blacktiger...the dating pool is overflowing right now with quality candidates in every color of the rainbow...it may have something to do with location...many times it also has to do with the mindset of the person seeking a new mate...i don't believe that you can ask for more than what you bring to the table yourself...

 

[HereIam]

Re: The Attraction. Black Men.........

I have to agree there are many educated black men on this forum and/or the entire whitewomenblackmen.com (web-site). I too am an author, systems analysis network designer, finance officer, served on local government, U.S Veteran and the list goes on. I'm not here to boast or hype up my ego; however, in the 21st Century one must consider many opportunities are available in every society.

 

[karmacoma.]

There's only one group that complains about a "shortage" of good black men and guess what, it isn't white women.

 

[Blacktiger2005]

Veema and others who have responded. I appreciate your opposing views. If i in any way been offensive or insulting in the statements i used, then i apologize.

 

[veema]

Veema and others who have responded. I appreciate your opposing views. If i in any way been offensive or insulting in the statements i used, then i apologize.

Much appreciated.

 

[HereIam]

Not offended

Personally, I believe internet "forums" are established for people to share ideas, personal freedom and often personal life on-going experiences. It doesn't matter where you are in the entire world, I believe we all need each other for answers. In addition, I am not offended; however, I do commend you (blacktiger) for making your apology accredited.

Take care!

 

[MistressB]

I'm confused by this thread, mostly because I'm not sure that any woman wants just "any man" - just as no man wants just "any woman". Everyone has criteria and variable standards. Everyone wants to be with the best person that they can be, with ambitions, kindness, intelligence etc... it seems a bit of a truism to me!