I need some serious advice folks...

Oh yeah...well think u are stalking me...how about that..no one cared if u posted up on here or not ,yet you had to post that bullshyt

 

Hey Sirnice, don't worry about the people on here trying to make you feel like a total mishap/pervert.

We've all had unfortunate situations and errors in our lives and no one is perfect and able to satisfy 100% of the people at a given time. You'll find a better female (ideally a WW) in the near future. The best thing to do is to not think about it, I guarantee that you could find friendlier and better white women around who you can mingle with.

 

Update..well today me and the chick were on the elevator by coincidence today...and she seemed to want to talk...maybe it was just the fact that she wanted to know some happenings around the hospital, but I could tell she was interested in talking to me...I apologized to her for putting her on the spot and she laughed it off; telling me not to worry about it...so now what??...what does that mean?? Am I still stalking her and can't accept rejection???

 

Just the fact that you keep coming back to explain the fact that you aren't having issues accepting rejection, by continuing to give examples of where you've seen her, how often, any interaction you have (or don't have) and trying to analyze it all is why we all told you to back off, SirNice. If you can't see why that raised a red flag for all of us, considering it was based on the posts that *you* made when you asked for our input, then I don't know what else to say. We weren't trying to be rude, but the constant over-analyzing was really concerning people. I mean, do you REALLY not understand how we could've considered it troubling behavior?

Now that she's said that to you, can you please move on already??

 

Useless

 

Are you sure you're old enough to work in a hospital?

 

She was in an elevator with you, so she really had no where to go.
If she isnt interested, she may have just said given the situation.
I think you should stop analyzing it and ask her straight out and end this for you.

 

Depending on the points in our lives, whether we are having difficult times or are trying to heal from a nasty breakup...we all, at some point, have that "huge crush". That time where you see someone that seems "perfect" based off of they carry themselves. But, I think the bigger point is that it is just a crush. You don't know her personally, otherwise you would have known about the boyfriend. That is fine, but every person can seem wonderful and seem like "the one", while you are on the outside looking in. You know very little about the woman and considering that she said she had a boyfriend and no longer wants to be bothered with you, it seems that some of the traits she seemed to have are either not for you or don't exist. Crushes are funny, some people build a whole relationship in their heads (like what the future will be like, or how they feel they know they are the one for him/her). You seem sincere in your quest to court this woman. That is commendable. However, this is at your place of work and that is not a good idea. I think at least some of the responses are made out of concern for you well-being and your career. So, I think maybe it might help to look at more of the sincere responses and take heed. I am sure in some cases, you have met a woman who seemed like a decent person, but sh approached you the wrong way, or even at the wrong time in your life. Ultimately, you might have shunned her and so ends that story. This may also be the case here. There is nothing wrong with that. She may have a deep relationship with her boyfriend, and ultimately we will all never know. Being over-analytical is not always a bad thing. But, it unfortunately makes it difficult to let things go. I hope that in time, you will be able to let this one go.

 

Pump ya breaks, stop acting all butt hurt over a joke. Pull the wool from over your eyes and see things for how they truly are, she has 0 romantic interest in you, move along. I feel that you confused her casual outgoing personality as genuine interest which obviously isn't the case.

I'm currently in the same situation as you, except I made it much further than you. Ashamedly to say, I have become greatly smitten over a hoodrat at work the past month. :::sigh:::

It sucks major when you hold feelings for a person that does not feel the same way for you... it really tugs at your emotions especially in my case because I felt that we shared a couple special moments.

She'll give me so much than pull away so I chase until I get tired but like a yo-yo she'll pull me back in resuming the game.

I am very thankful for this experience tho, it helped me have an greater understanding on social interactions and how work place romances can become potential trouble.

 

Leave her alone. I don`t think this was mentioned. She may not be interested in an IR and you just crossed the line in the sand.

 

dude will mess around and catch a case