I just can't with internet dating.

beauty · Dec 26, 2007

Moskvichka said:

I swear CRAIGSLIST is the craziest site you could think about to meet somebody. There's this black guy who posted a picture of a wedding gown and says it's on hold for the right woman. Then there's this Russian guy I actually wrote back to, sent my picture and all, and he emails me: well what are you looking for: husband, boyfriend or sex? Guys, the only thing I could answer to that, was: whatever I can get darling, maybe I'll just get f***ked, or maybe I'll get proposed to! He actually wrote back again and asked my age.

I CAN'T. I QUIT. Then on another dating site a 57-year-old man wrote me a long heartfelt letter and I replied that I'm very flattered but I'm looking for someone closer to my age. He got pissed off and wrote to me the following:

"I understand. When you get to be about 40 to 50, you will realize that pursuing men your age, "back then" (now actually) resulted in finding men who will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want from you. But like most women, by the time you realize that, you will be another 40-50 year old, and the men who have learned how to treat a woman like she deserves, will be looking for someone like you are now, because fat old women are everywhere and desparate for a good man. They are common. You however are rare, precious.

That is, rare, precious if you realize now what other women don't realize until 10-20 years from now. That the best relationship you will ever have is with someone like me. Including my age."
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OH MY GOODNESS SWEETIE!

i refer to craigslist as PSYCHOlist! LOL. they have some of the nuttiest creatures on the planet on that site. i met a wonderful man on the internet, but not on a dating site; it all started off on an intellectual level and have now blossomed into love....getting married this spring. so it can happn for you Moskvichka believe me! hell it happend for me...lol.

BEAUTY

beauty · Dec 26, 2007

KnCA said:

I wouldn't have thought it was really "Ok" as a ww to post and ad on the blackpeoplemeet.com.

But since it seems to be, I'm going to give it a try.

Of course I may pull it in a couple of days too!

I'm not really one to approach the man though. I would rather they approach me...especially on a site like that.
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yes, there are alot of whitepeople on blackpeople meet. i had an account there and LOADS of whitemen posted to me there. i had it there before i decided to broaden my horizons and included whitemen in my dating pool. it has been wonderful. while craigslist is not good, blackplanet is another one to watch out for.

BEAUTY

beauty · Dec 26, 2007

jellybird said:

KnCA said:

I posted one on this site too.

Oh geeze - what have I gotten myself into!

Chi - we need to compare notes!

My thing about approaching on the blackpeoplemeet) is that it's a "black" site and I figure I'm somewhat intruding and would rather they approach me...they may not have any interest in dating white women. Ok but I did send a flirt to someone on there. :LOL:

On inter-racial sites it's different. But I would still rather they approach me. Maybe it's because I'm pretty up front about some parts of my life (size, children, etc) and I'm not interested in those who are not ok with certain things. Personally, I've just had better outcomes from those who have approached me. There is probably one exception to that.

Actually...I don't expect to get tons of responses. I tend to be more specific in ads now. When I wasn't...I was bombarded. But then they also say most men don't even read what you write!

So here's the big question. Do you think it's worth it to pay for those sites?

Of course I probably have to work on my attitude a bit and be open to actually meeting someone new. But maybe by the time that comes up, I will be.
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Yes, blackpeoplemeet.com is definitely worth paying for. As a BM who once tried to IR dating scene, BPM works best, and here's why: As a BM, if I see a WW on a black site, then I KNOW she prefers BM. However, there are a lot of women on IR dating sites who are looking for hispanic men, PR men, asian men, etc.

Like lipstick said, on BPM, when you view someone's profile, it lets that person know that you checked them out. Then, if that guy likes WW, then he will probably send you a flirt or message. Just be wary of men looking to hook-up with a WW because they think your some horndog looking to "try black."

Also, you MAY encounter some BW on the site who are less than happy with you being there. Ingore them!

Good luck, ladies. And be careful.
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the same goes for the whitemen that are on that site. that shows me that they are into blackwomen. it is a very good site and i have met alot of wonderful men there. now as far as blackwomen getting upset. doubt that. didnt know that whitewomen were on the site. maybe because i don't care and was only looking to meet men. that does not bother me at all. whitewomen have never placed a dent in my social life or who i was ever with. cheers to the new year and enjoy!

BEAUTY

beauty · Dec 26, 2007

Moskvichka said:

Dig this: another guy from Craigslist posted an add offering FREE MASSAGES to a woman. Just for fun. I asked him if he's a serial killer, he said no. Said he learned a lot about massages from his ex. And he asked me if I've had any luck on Craigs... sounds like a cool guy actually... He invited me over to watch DVDs... So girls... I'm considering it! A quality massage... from a man... for free... Yeah I know, you don't get any more sexually frustrated than that. I hope that my "no sex without love" policy will not be going down the toilet at some point soon... I need somebody to shoot me now. :smt070 :smt067 :smt068 :smt072 :smt071
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stick to your policy, i did and am getting married, like lipstick said; gotta be upfront and kid around. i made it crystal clear that unless im married, im not giving any sex to anyone. also, be careful of going over to his house to watch DVDs, meet him in a public place first. good luck. there are alot of psychos out here.

BEAUTY

GrecoJones84 · Dec 26, 2007

stick to your policy, i did and am getting married, like lipstick said; gotta be upfront and kid around. i made it crystal clear that unless im married, im not giving any sex to anyone. also, be careful of going over to his house to watch DVDs, meet him in a public place first. good luck. there are alot of psychos out here.

BEAUTY
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Damn it, a girly friend of mine invited me over to stay in and watch DVDs with her Sunday night . lol

beauty · Dec 26, 2007

Moskvichka said:

Yes. My "no sex without love" policy IS going down the drain. In my mind, anyway. I met this guy online... he wrote to me... 27 years old... Lithuanian... professional... blond, blue eyes... and his mischevious smile... ah! he writes that he loves my smile... "I love your shiny lips... mmm" calls me "sweetie"... doesn't sound awfully serious... does he want a fling? a one night thing? it's okay... I would let him have his way... a cutie like that... romancing me... I can't resist... I'll see what happens................ now I know what my friends told me... how it gets to be when it's been a while.........
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sweetie please please be careful. even if it's just for sex, you want to know who you are dealing with. he could be anything. serial anything. be careful with the fun you have.

BEAUTY

beauty · Dec 26, 2007

GrecoJones84 said:

stick to your policy, i did and am getting married, like lipstick said; gotta be upfront and kid around. i made it crystal clear that unless im married, im not giving any sex to anyone. also, be careful of going over to his house to watch DVDs, meet him in a public place first. good luck. there are alot of psychos out here.

BEAUTY
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Damn it, a girly friend of mine invited me over to stay in and watch DVDs with her Sunday night . lol
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**LAUGHING VERY LOUDLY** hope you didnt meet her on craigslist. LOL. :lol: :smt114

BEAUTY

Moskvichka · Dec 30, 2007

beauty said:

i met a wonderful man on the internet, but not on a dating site; it all started off on an intellectual level and have now blossomed into love....getting married this spring. so it can happn for you Moskvichka believe me! hell it happend for me...lol.

BEAUTY
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I'm very happy for you Beauty. I also met a wonderful man online (not on craiglist lol) and I'll be celebrating New Year's Eve with him and his friends tomorrow.

beauty · Dec 31, 2007

Moskvichka said:

beauty said:

i met a wonderful man on the internet, but not on a dating site; it all started off on an intellectual level and have now blossomed into love....getting married this spring. so it can happn for you Moskvichka believe me! hell it happend for me...lol.

BEAUTY
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I'm very happy for you Beauty. I also met a wonderful man online (not on craiglist lol) and I'll be celebrating New Year's Eve with him and his friends tomorrow.
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oh wow Moskvichka! we have the same plans. i too am celeberating the New Year's Eve and Day with him. hey Mosk, he may be the one. with all that you have gone through, i sure hope he is. Ill let you know how things go on New Years. have a great time as i plan to and all the best to you and i hope it all works out for you. let me know how your New Year celeberation goes....you know Mosk, all of us good decent loving women here deserve love and the right one to give it to.

BEAUTY

fnnysmrtprtty · Jan 2, 2008

Moskvichka said:

beauty said:

i met a wonderful man on the internet, but not on a dating site; it all started off on an intellectual level and have now blossomed into love....getting married this spring. so it can happn for you Moskvichka believe me! hell it happend for me...lol.

BEAUTY
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I'm very happy for you Beauty. I also met a wonderful man online (not on craiglist lol) and I'll be celebrating New Year's Eve with him and his friends tomorrow.
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Mosk - I have been wondering how things went...?

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