I have gone to the "dark side"

Maybe I should!

 

You guys make it sound like women are a commodity, or an investment. Of course I think that’s ludicrous, but I have a feeling you’re both about to whip out the male perspective and tell me I’m wrong.

And unless you’re talking professionals, I don’t think dating qualifies as money for services, unless she’s servicing you at the end of the night… which I suspect isn’t the case or you wouldn’t consider it a waste of money?

 

In my defense I'm an accountant so I often look at things in terms of assets and liabilities. I look at it as a service because like I said before until the lust is removed from the equation it's hard for me to see a woman as more than a sexual object. Paying to do stuff is just a social formality before the sex. I'm not saying it's all that matter but up until copulation we as men think with our little heads first and after that's out of the way and start seeing you as a human being then we use our emotions.

 

I didn't know you were an accountant. I'm a CPA myself. I'll let you in on a little secret. If I like a guy and I want to fuck him, I'll do it for free. I don't have to be paid.

 

Lmao too bad you're not in NY. I just signed up for my CPA exam along with the first two acturial exams. I'm a little indecisive lol.
I'm not saying any woman has to be paid but it cost money to make you feel safe and for us to be familiar to you. Get what I mean?

 

That's great. I've heard that the CPA exam is some easier now that they have gone to a computerized format. You can never have too many initials after your name so I would take all the exams that you want to study for. Are you considering public or private practice?

I was playing with you a little bit. I've dated a lot of men that didn't spend an excessive amount of money on me. I enjoy simple dates. Some of the best ones for me are just staying at home, renting a movie, and eating in. Of course, most of my first dates have been with people that either I have known for a while or I know of them. I wouldn't want to go to a stranger's house for a first date. I guess that is one of the advantages of small town dating.

 

Corporate taxation but lately I've been leaning towards risk assesment. There's more money and a bit more interesting. I seriously just want to build capital so I can be an angel investor in my forties.

 

There are a lot of good fields in accounting. I'm in public accounting. I mainly do tax returns for individuals and businesses, and I do audits. I enjoy auditing. I get to play a private investigator.

 

I actually wanted to go into forensics but not enough money. How long have you been in the field?

 

I've been in the field for 11 years now. I made partner with my firm 6 years ago. Being able to enjoy what you do is the best advice I can give you. No one wants to go to a job that they hate everyday. You'll find the specialty that is best suited to you.

 

Okay Andrae question for you. First date with a woman, you go to her house, or you're in NY so I suppose it's an apartment... you go to her apartment and she opens the door and says "You know why don't we just get the sex out of the way now, that way we can relax and just enjoy the rest of the evening."

What do you say to that, and more importantly what do you think afterwards. Be honest.

 

I'd be happy as hell. We can get the sex out of the way so I can really know her as a person not just a sexual object.

 

So you'd actually approve of that strategy, and by that I mean you'd actually date the woman afterwards? Hmm... I would have suspected her stock would plummet because you'd think her too easy.

 

I think I'm good BMJ, but thanks for the suggestion on possible reading material.

LMAO at your formula! :smt037

 

I would respect her more for it actually.

 

Can you elaborate on why? This is completely contrary to what I would expect and therefore I am naturally intrigued by your response.

 

I personally like a girl who is open minded enough and confident enough to cut to the chase. Someone who is adult enough to knowcmy intial intentions and not make me wait out the ridiculous waiting game. I for one am over the whole idea of a woman being loose and undesirable if she's been with a certain amount of men. It's all in the approach just anything in life. Come across as desperate and you'll be treated as such but come across as someone who is confident in her actions and you will be praised. There is no right way to do things. I'm sure many of the women on here have done the whole waiting game and where has that gotten them? Usually the same place the girl who gave it up too fast but just over a longer period of time. Waiting doesn't guarantee a life long committment. I just think we are adults and there is no point in playing games. That's for children.

 

Thank you Andrae for indulging me. I for one agree with you, I'm not a game player and I don't like rigid rules, I'm more an act on instinct type.

However, I suspect most women know that men's minds are on sex from the get go... you're men. I think you think that's not what's on the average woman's mind. I can't speak for all women, but as for myself I'm just like you in that respect, sex is the first thing I think of when I'm attracted to a man, and that's not limited to just a man I date, it's any male I find attractive provided I'm not in a relationship in which case other men don't even make it onto my radar. Now that doesn't prevent me from deciding whether I really like a man or not, as it does you, but then women multitask better than men so perhaps it's that ability that allows us to think about sex non-stop during a date, and hold up our end of the conversation, and determine whether we're really interested in you or not.

Oh and not everyone is thinking life long commitment when they date someone. I know for a lot of people that's always the ultimate end game, but that's not the case with everyone. In fact men getting really serious really fast tends to scare me off.

 

You are correct, what you say, who cares, at the end it´s just important, how do you feel with whom..but, should it come to a relationship..and your girl is with somebody having dinner, wouldn´t you remember, how easy and simple you got her?

I made the experience by myself, that I trust the man only as much as I was able to get him, how he treated me, how fast he was with me...

I don´t think it´s a question of gender, just a few minutes ago, I saw a report on the TV, when men also said that they prefer women to see several times (dates), before they start a sexual activity.

 

I would never judge a woman for giving it up too quick because there's no way that she can. I'm a grown man I know the difference between a needy desperate girl and someone who chooses to live in the moment. If the mood strikes and we want safe responsible sex we should go for it. Btw there is no such thing as getting a woman easily. Whether we have sex sooner rather than later all things come at a cost.