How to Talk to Women

. . . at least the ones you care about.

I'll present my thoughts later, but I'm interested in yours first.

 

I'm in the Nederland now and talking to women is not that difficult here first in any culture you have to observe the woman's body language she will send you the signal if you can approach her or not, then you go from there. naderen van vrouwen hoeft niet zo moeilijk

 

Confidence goes a long way.

 

I get myself in a friendzone mindset. So I don't feel any pressure to "flex and empress". Without sexual tension I can be myself. If she likes the real me, anything that might blossom has a better chance of lasting.

 

That is -at least to me- a good way. It can be disappointing to find out later on that a person put on a show for you,or hid many things from you.I'd much rather like to get to know the real person,and either honestly like them or find out it's not a good match.

 

Just listen and nod they're making it up in their heads without you.

 

It is very tough. Wished more women are more assertive in finding the guy. I don't mind one since I'm pleased she had made that effort.

 

Interested in the OP's MO...

 

I love this. It's such a turn off when guys try to be something they're not (and often times it's quite transparent). I'd rather get to know the real you any day over the "you", you think I want to know. A man who can hold a regular conversation, without "flexing", will always get further with me. Authenticity is incredibly sexy.

 

eye contact
interest/feedback
undivided attention
without judgment
understanding
even toned voice - no yelling
engaging
active participant in the conversation

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be yourself!

 

Regardless of sex, race, religion and etc, always be respectful and polite, either in person or on the telephone. And perhaps, online, too.

 

Very true! Wanted to rep you but have to spread it around first.

 

Great points, Lippy! These are key points for me. Although, I have to add that discovery is the purpose of the interaction, so discussing the common interests that brought the interaction to be in the first place, is cool. I love intelligent conversation with those who are positively passionate. I find that they are informed, and very dedicated to their goals/dreams. I can relate so it makes the experience very enjoyable for me. I love that kind of positive and focused energy.
I was born with a hearing impairment, so when someone speaks to me, I am looking at them. I grew up reading lips. Modern technology allows me to hear now, however, I still look at those who are speaking to me, but not because I have to read their lips to know what they are saying. It has been my experience that they respond with engagement, and I like that attention to the conversation. Attempting to converse with someone who is looking all over the place is absolutely unnerving!

I also enjoy communication with those who are comfortable speaking their mind, without verbal fillers (um, uh, ya know, see?, know what I mean?...). I talk like I write, with a hint of Cramond (Scotland). I spent several years there with my great grandmother when I was a child. I've been told that I am a bit intimidating, but apparently not too...that gentleman in the elevator didn't seem to think so when he removed my ear pod, eh? There is an update to that by the way, but it will have to wait until tomorrow. I have to go out of town this afternoon.

 

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I absolutely agree! As women become more confident, and therefore more selective, that becomes true for more of them!

 

I love clandestine meetings like the one you described...looking forward to hearing more on this budding relationship...I can relate to intimidating as well as speaking my mind...some days it's hard to turn the filter on...it takes a very confident man to peak my interest:smt061

btw, have a good trip!