How much do facial features/hair play a role?

Discussion in 'The Attraction Between White Women and Black Men' started by briarwood, Feb 17, 2008.

  1. FG

    FG Well-Known Member

    That is so sad.
    I think you interpreted it completely...

    What the latest posters, including myself are saying is we date both wm and bm, we dont use skin color as a reference for dating and that specific physical appearance attributed to wm OR bm is not a dating criteria, we look for other qualities.
    I have had bad and good experience with wm and bm alike, assholes comes in all colors:).

    There are also women on here that excusively date bm, but not for the reason you stated, but for the mere fact that they are attracted to the bm and how they look, you will probably hear from them as well.

    I dont think I have seem a ww on here that say they date bm just because they have bad experiences w wm.. although Im sure they are out there, probably just not on this site
     
  2. AnMDBCartoon

    AnMDBCartoon New Member

    And that's telling it like it *really* is!








    OpinionsCartoonStudios@Yahoo.Co.UK
     
  3. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    I understand that some white women as yourself date non-discriminatory, however, the white women that exclusively date black men are only doing so because of their past bad experiences with men of their own race. This is the case even if they are not willing to admit so, and may also not be consciously aware of the underlying reason for their behvaiour (to only date black men).
     
  4. Espy

    Espy New Member

    That is complete rubbish. You fail to account for the fact that some women are the type that don't approach men, they wait for the man to approach them. Given that particular scenario, if a woman is always only approached by black men, she's likely to only date black men. Someone asked a woman I know once why she only dated black men and her response was 'because they're the only men with the balls to ask'. It had nothing to do with the one white guy she dated and whether she was disappointed in him, or had a bad experience with him. Sometimes it's just completely irrelevant.
     
  5. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    When I said "exclusively date black men" I was referring to white women that accept potential dates from black men but reject men that are white. These women are being approached by both men of both races.

    In addition to this, I will include into my category of "negative past experiences" the experience of never being approach by white men (even though she is white) but approached by men that are black. For example, if I was always rejected by women of my own race on the reason that they say its because I don't act black (which I disagree) but white women were more likely to accept my dating advances to them, then I would say that I have had negative past experiences with women of my own race.
     
  6. Arwen

    Arwen New Member


    I don't know how you can make such a statement, since I don't think you meet all the women that date black guys and you don't know their personal story. I'm one of the numerous ecceptions to what you say: I never dated a white guy, so it's not really that I'm dating black guys because I had bad experiences with white guys.

    If I had to care about the bad experiences, black people would be the last on earth for me, since I met many assholes (if I dated white too, I could say the same about any colour anyways... as somebody else said, assholes come in every color!).
     
  7. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    If you are turning down white guys and only dating black guys, not for reasons like being more attracted to them physically, then you are behaving like this for reasons that are psychological such as having past negative experiences with men of your own race.

    So I ask you this, are you more physically attracted to black men? I've never known a white woman that is more attracted to men that are black than men that are white, they always give the same reason that they don't mind the partner's race but are more attracted to his personality.
     
  8. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    It's funny how it only turns "psychogical" when it has to do with non-Blacks liking or choosing to date Black folks or vice versa. No one questions a White dude who prefers blondes. Is he hair colorstuck? Or what if he prefers Asian women? Is he self-hating?

    How come WW have to be rejected by WM to like BM?

    To answer your question, I'm more attracted to men that are Black than I am White men. I've always been with Black men.
     
  9. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    Its psychological if one exclusively dates interracially yet not for the reason of having more physical attraction towards that particular race, and of course this phenomena can be observed in any race of individuals that date interracially exclusively.

    If a White dude prefers blondes over women of other hair colours, he is more physically attracted to women with blonde hair. And its the same case for White men that exclusively date Asian women, they do not hate themselves but are more physically attracted to Asian women than women of their own race. They date Asian women not because of stereotypical reasons such as being more "submissive", or "respectful" since these characteristics can be found in all races of women, but for the distinctive physical features that Asian women possess.
     
  10. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    Okay, but that doesn't make sense to me. How come with your latter paragragh, they're just attracted, yet it's not psychological, yet with the former, it's psychological when it's more than physical?
     
  11. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    Because I was answering different parts of your question. And yes the former paragraph's explanation favours psychological reasons. But the latter paragraph favors a physical explanation.
     
  12. chicity

    chicity New Member

    I haven't been on the dating scene since Joseph of Nazareth was available, but I wonder... what about those women who are more comfortable culturally with dating Black Men? What about White Women raised by Black families who only date Black Men? There's a whole world of possible explanations that you don't seem to be allowing for.
     
  13. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    Regardless of any of them favoring one another, my question is, how come one is psychological and one isn't when in turn, I used same race vs. a different race as examples?
     
  14. Espy

    Espy New Member

    Whoa, not being approached isn't the same as rejection. No one said anything about being rejected. I in no way think someone not approaching you is a symptom of rejection.
     
  15. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    Woman, I don't know what you are talking about. And am tired of explaining the same thing over and over and over again.
     
  16. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    If I was a white woman and white men never approached me, I wouldn't feel too happy about that.
     
  17. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    SMH...I simply asked you to explain the difference between each paragraph, especially since the last one doesn't coincide with the first one. How come the 2nd part isn't psychological when I used WM and AW as an example. Yet in your first paragraph, you said it is psychological. I know I'm not seeing things here. What you said and even reiterated, still doesn't add up. I'm asking you to explain. If you feel you're done, fine. Maybe someone else could explain it to me.

     
  18. idear987

    idear987 New Member

    If the person who dates exclusively interracially is doing so because they are more physically attracted to that particular race, then its purely of physical reasons. For example, a white woman being attracted to his skin colour, or texture of hair. However, if this isn't the reason why she is dating black men, then there are other psychological unconscious motives behind her behaviour, that may have been the result of past negative experiences with men of her own race. And of course there is also the possibility of a white teen girl that's just rebelling against her parents demands to not date boys of other races.
     
  19. chicity

    chicity New Member

    Or, it could be that being in an interracial relationship is more fun than being in a monoracial one.
     
  20. Inner Beauty

    Inner Beauty New Member

    So what you're saying is - there's no "hidden agenda" psychologically, if she's only "attracted" to someone of another race? Also, what about getting past the physical? Is she supposed to just be attracted and then the buck stops there?

    Let me stop...lol

    I'll leave you alone with this...
     

Share This Page