How many times would you get married?

Discussion in 'Conversations Between White Women and Black Men' started by stiletoes, Jul 16, 2011.

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  1. ThePrince

    ThePrince Active Member

    How is that gay? I don't think there is anything gay about wanting to be single and alone. Now if you said you wanted to be with another dude, then I see your point. lol
     
    ThePrince, Jul 17, 2011
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  2. JordanC

    JordanC Well-Known Member

    99% of the time you do not come off romantic. :p Let your inner marshmallow show. I don't advocate naivette. Just don't be jaded.
     
    JordanC, Jul 17, 2011
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  3. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    I don't have anyone to be romantic with love.
    Looking for a job? ;-)
     
    The Dark King, Jul 17, 2011
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  4. Be-you-tiful86

    Be-you-tiful86 Well-Known Member

    Amen on the bolded part! It's very difficult. Even if 1 person does these things,but the other doesn't it's destined to be very unhappy and fail at one point.Both gotta have the right attitude or no chance it can last.

     
    Be-you-tiful86, Jul 17, 2011
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  5. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    You're so right but good luck convincing the me me me generation who feels they "deserve" everything
     
    The Dark King, Jul 17, 2011
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  6. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    Sure it does Mr. Fan LOL:smt043
     
    stiletoes, Jul 17, 2011
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  7. stiletoes

    stiletoes Well-Known Member

    Marriage and kids don't necessarily mix
     
    stiletoes, Jul 17, 2011
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  8. Be-you-tiful86

    Be-you-tiful86 Well-Known Member

    Hehe idealist as I can be sometimes I do preach a lot about it to people who I feel could behave a lot better,but most could care less or make cheap excuses to justify their behavior.

     
    Be-you-tiful86, Jul 17, 2011
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  9. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Thank you all I want is validation. No matter how small it is lol
     
    The Dark King, Jul 17, 2011
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  10. The Dark King

    The Dark King Well-Known Member

    Well people like you do give me hope. I appreciate that thanks.
     
    The Dark King, Jul 17, 2011
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  11. Avia

    Avia New Member

    I don´t think there is an answer to it. When you get married, you think 'this is the man I want to get old with' ,or, 'this is the man that I want to have children with' etc, etc, etc..
    You would not think about ever leaving him/him leaving you if you decide to get married. Marriage is supposed to hold forever. In todays society, getting married twice seems to be normal and accepted..but there are also people that have been married 4 times. Maybe they decide to get married too soon, maybe the preasure of marriage took their freedom.. there are so many reasons. I think, if someone is not happy- trying to make it work is necessary but if it won´t hold anymore I think it is smarter to go seperate ways. My wish is only to get married once. What if it doesn´t work out? Of course, I would wish to get a 2nd chance, to find the love of my life and to live with this man forever. Some people don´t have that luxury so they get married over and over again until the find mr. right. I think it is everyones personal decision.
    To make it short: I only want to get married once and I cannot see myself getting married several times. If my first marriage should not work out I would be much more careful before I marry someone again. But at the end, it is only about being happy.. a number is just a number :smt102
     
    Avia, Jul 17, 2011
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  12. Morning Star

    Morning Star Well-Known Member

    True, but as I've stated...IF you are planning to have children, it's more expensive. As for marriage? If it doesn't work the first time, no need to waste your resources on another ceremony and headache.

     
    Morning Star, Jul 17, 2011
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  13. Tamstrong

    Tamstrong Administrator Staff Member

    Marrying him would've been a mistake. We were both too young, & he wouldn't have made a good husband & he's a shitty dad, too. Settling is never worth it IMO; when we decide to do that, we're throwing our happiness away. I hope you find that too, JC. Being with the right one forever sounds good to me, too.


    Don't let it bother you, Prince. She wasn't mocking you, so you shouldn't take it personally. The funny thing about it is we all go through it...when we're young we have certain views on this that we'll always or never do/want/think/like/hate, etc., & as we get older there typically comes a point in our lives where our views on those things are completely different. ;)
     
    Tamstrong, Jul 18, 2011
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  14. Athena

    Athena New Member

    Completely agree, when I was younger I never would have considered marriage nor children. Now I am older, divorced (still no munchkins though) and would consider getting married one more time. Although if that marriage doesn't work, I'll never get married again. Plus the second time round - he's signing a pre-nup - and he's already agreed to it :)
     
    Athena, Jul 19, 2011
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