How is the attraction to a particular race determined?

Hey all...I`m gonna get killed for this...especially by sisters, but...Bold I have to be...
I was raised in a black family, very mixed...uncle married to a white woman, older sister and brother dating white people as well...I took music lessons from the age of four with only white students in my classes...my first image of a woman as a "sexual interest" was a white girl...AND...the result?...
In all of my 29 years, I`ve dated only one black girl, when I was 15! and since that, only WW...I mean, many, many of them...I find myself considerably more attracted to WW and although I have some good friends as black girls, I have very rarely been attracted to them, without having a "reasonable" explanation why...other than my upbringing.

SO! what are your reasons folks for being more attracted to the other race? if any at all of course!

 

Needless to say, it all depends on the woman.
For me, there is no one reason I like what I like because I still find many black women attractive and I won't fall for any woman simply because she is white.

The old "it's only because she's white" has always made me laugh because I'm far deeper than that and I look for the same on a mental and spiritual side as well.

 

Interesting Kev...but u are obviously on a dating website for WW and BM...isn`t there a specific reason for that? I know we black people do not like to hear the "I like her bcoz she`s white" answer...but why do websites like this one and similar ones exist? bcoz it seems some BM particularly like...well...WHITE WOMEN...no?

 

Actually I'm here on the forum not the personals.
I like the idea of this site and I think it's needed but if you spend any time around here you will see the same people posting and it's mostly black men.
I know it's like that on all forums but with over 10,000 "members", I would have thought that the input would come from more people.
I think trolls account for a good part of the post here. Not good.

I come here looking for people that are in favor of black men and white women dating and loving because I think the hatred of this "mix" is the beginning and end of the roots of racism. I want racism to be gone. Okay?

Do I like white women? Sure.
Do I like racism on any level? No, I don't.

 

I agree with u Kev. I write on this forum largely because I like the idea of IR, and not just of bm/ww I might add. But yes I am attracted to ww and I have "been" with a white girl. I guess the reason why is that living in south Louisiana, white women are everywhere here. Actually I've always have been attracted to black women and always will. But I started to notice white girls while in high school. And since then, I admit it has been a bit of a preference. Now, I would never choose a white girl over a black girl simply because she's white, but because she's a better human being and we click.

Specifically, I admit I'm attracted to ww because alot of them just look hot. Like the blondes, they just look clean and sexy to me, if that makes any since. I like the ones who can carry a conversation. Again though, not like I can't get that from black women. I can, but I'm just answering for ww. Also, for some reason, ww are easier to talk to with me. I can probably go up to a white woman and spark a conversation easier and faster than a sista. And I'm a butt man. I love a white girl with some back side. And I know I definitely get that from being attracted to black women.

Hey JREMINATOR, but don't beat yourself up though. You can't help who your attracted to sometimes. Don't feel back if you aren't attracted to alot of black women. Some of us brothas won't be. And I think there's something to that "once you go..., you never go back" argument. After being with a white girl for the first time a few years back, I found myself more "interested" in white women and less in black women. Don't get me wrong again. Still love sistas, but just more interested in ww. I think you just got changed based on your environment. Hey, it happens.

 

You know hellspawn, what you wrote about going white and not going back is very funny.
I was in my mid 20's and I'd never really thought about white women too much from a love and dating point of view. Then I met this white lady at work and she had "something" because she pressed all of my buttons [even button I never knew I had!!!] and after being with her, I looked at white women in a new light. I mean this woman rocked my world and "turned me out"!!!!!!! All I could say was "Damn". But it was not just a sex thing either and that is very important. She had me on every level.

Again, people are people and I'm not a one race person because it comes down to the woman in the end, no matter the race. However, if it were not for that one white woman all those years ago, I don't think my world would have been as open as it is now.

 

For myself I personally see White women as women like just anybody else, Iam just hella attracted romantically/sexually to the physical features of white women just like Iam with black women. rather the chick is pale as snow or very dark, as long as the women is pretty and has nice clean/clear skin Iam

 

Can it be that many BM aren`t attracted to BW bcoz they actually keep calling them...SISTERS??? just kidding

More seriously, I agree with Kev, mix, mix and mix again...I think deeper inside of me, I want to be a part of ending the shocking segregation u see in this country (watch most Hollywood movies...BM with BW...WM with WW)...And I encourage BW to go for WM when they like them, and F...the politically correctness!!

I think this attraction to the other race goes way beyond their features or sex!

 

Silly Question from a Newbie

What the heck is a "Troll" ?

 

A troll is a person that post replies in an attempt to start trouble or disrupt the normal flow of conversation.

Trolls come here because they don't want to see white women and black men together but on other forums they like to start "e-drama" by being contrary for no other reason other than stating fights or I should say "e-fights".

 

thank you

 

How is is determined? Easy. It's determined by YOU and what YOU are attracted to and/or prefer in regards to sexual attraction...

and, for the record, my attraction didn't come from personal experiences, good or bad. It's just something that I grew into over time, and have accepted within myself without a guilty conscience from it, laced with an inferiority complex, and so far, all have failed to use a guilt trip on me about it, because I find that to be ludicrous and cowardly. Not trying to offend anyone in here with this in any manner, but if I do, well, then, I guess, I do.

 

I really like ur answer Sardonic...pretty honest...it is interesting however that people have tried to make u feel guilty about it...bcoz I`m sure many of us, WW or BM have experienced that...and sometimes guilt seems to be written so deep inside of us...

I remember walking in the street with my very first white gf and feeling really bad...even though it was in Europe and no one was really looking at us like we were sick or deranged...something inside of me just felt like we were...STRANGE...thank God I`ve dealt with these silly feelings long ago.

Now is the attraction to the other race determined only by YOU? it`s a bit questionable...how many BM say they are "triedblackmen" that`s why they went white? the same applies for some BW!

 

To answer your question: Yes attraction is determened by you and all that you put into it. Your likes and dislikes and what you are looking for at any given time.

There are people who say they are "gay" because they had bad relationships with the oposite sex and some people will tell you they only date outside of their race because of bad relationships within there race. However, this type of logic does not answer what is inside the person to start with. People use that as a way to give themselves an instant "out".
"I did not really want to date a white girl but black women are so [fill in the blank]. It's bullshit.
No one can make you date / be attracted to anyone you didn't want to date anyway.

I don't think I ever answered your orginal question so here you go:
I'm attracted to smart, classy, honest, cute/pretty women.

 

A big up to Kev on his answer. I have to also add to that all things that black women put into it, without nonsense about 'no-good niggaz', a 'shortage of us', 'too many weak men in our group who crave white pussy to walk all over', dah-dah-dah...

and, white men are just hilarious with THEIR excuses to avoid white women. (feminist 'nigger-loving whores', 'black men are 'stealing' too many of them from us and destroying our race', 'black men have bigger penises, so they are more desirable to white women because of it', 'Asian women are more understanding', etc.)

The funny thing about white women is that whenever a lot of them are stupid about their attractions to us, they don't find ways to 'get out' of their relationships with white men, in fact, a lot of deliberately get themselves outed over it.

 

determined by the individual who has the attraction

 

I think it is determined by who your around/friends, who you see as sexual/romantic interest and probably culture.

 

is there a specific set of features that do it for you? like sexually/romantically?

 

romantically I can`t really say there is a difference between BW and WW for me...now, in my life I have had only one BW as a girlfriend...and she was a real romantic girl...(I had sex with only two)

To me the biggest difference is really the way WW look and sexually how they behave...
First the looks: I just love these pink tits, this skin that looks so fragile, the wiiiiide hips (some ppl say WW are designed to have babies easier with their large hips to compensate for being a bit less fertile...ok no scientific argument to prove this), etc...

Sexually, I find them so free...I love sexual freedom...I love ppl who have sex or make love and give and receive EVERYTHING...ppl who understand that sex is fun and suppoed to be TOTALLY shared...I haven`t been with a WW in bed who was all uptight about anything that either she wanted me to do or she wanted to do to me...I just love it!!!

 

Oh, And I have to add, I love these pink lips...the vagina ones...and just love to kiss them :wink: LOVE IT!!