How Has Experiencing Racial Prejudice/Discrimination From WW Influenced You?

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Wow. I can't relate to your experiences in corporate America, because all of my career experience has been in Germany. I can tell you that they have been overwhelmingly positive, and whenever I've interviewed for a position, all of my experiences with German female interviewers have been very positive ones as well.

However, I did have a lot of negative experiences with white American women when I was an undegraduate at a university in the heart of West Texas some years ago. There weren't terribly many black women to choose from at that school, so I pretty much asked the women out who were within my circle of friends and acquaintances. The racial prejudice there was so pronounced that many of them even resorted to biblical verse to support their personal views and beliefs on interracial relationships (with black men, that is). After about the third or fourth time that one of them told me that blacks and whites go to separate heavens, and that that was the reason blacks and whites could not be together (in relationships) here on earth, that pretty much turned me off (using Christian doctrine as a tool to justify plain old racism), and I wrote them off after that. I think I may have gone out with one girl for about a month or so, but I got tired of having to hide our relationship- we couldn't hold hands in public, I couldn't call her whenever her parents were visiting, etc. So I ended that relationship. As luck would have it, I ended up meeting a girl who was a Finnish exchange student, and we hit it off quite well and became quite the couple. I wasn't looking for anyone, black, white, brown, or otherwise- she just happened to walk into my life one day, and it was great! She used to tell me about all the negativity that the American white girls were spewing about her being with me, and how they would tell her that she needed to be with a white guy, that black guys were violent and dumb, bla bla bla. She couldn't believe how racist they were, and I explained to her that it probably had a lot to do with being in West Texas. She really was the most beautiful girl on campus, and I think that also had a lot to do with the amount of flack she was getting from the American white girls who lived in her building- she really blew all of them completely out of the water, and I think it was upsetting for them. At any rate, we ended up splitting, because she went back to Finland and I headed off to Germany to do my first graduate degree- it would've been next to impossible for us to have kept our relationship going at that time- as wonderful as it was, I think we were simply in love, but did not truly love each other.

I mention this relationship because it was a very pivotal experience in my life- I learned that there is a whole world out there to explore, and also that your own country in which you were born and raised may not necessarily be the best place for you! Before I met my Finnish girlfriend, I always thought that I was the problem- that I was ugly, and that there were no girls who would find me interesting or attractive. I had some pretty serious issues with myself because of all the rejection that I experienced back during my time in West Texas. But when I changed my surroundings by moving to Europe, I found things there to be quite different- this was the best thing I ever could've done in my life!

So....I seriously doubt that all white women in the U.S. are racist and prejudiced as you have experienced. Perhaps many of them are, but they are simply products of their respective environments, just like everyone else. The U.S. has a somewhat different historical background w.r.t. racial issues than do most European countries, and this is something that still has a significant effect on how people are raised in America- and so it flows into the environment, and we deal with it, even as we tread forth into the 21st century of our modern existence. I think the best solution is to move around and explore different surroundings (which both you and I have obviously done) until you find a place you're comfortable in.

I simply respect all people and all opinions, but I do make it a point to distance myself from those who are not good for me.

 

I know how you feel and partly because of my negative experiences with some White women, I personally wouldn't date interracially. All White women (and White men, for that matter) are individuals though and I've come to accept this over the years. I try to forgive those who have wronged me.

Men are often stereotyped as being promiscuous and not having standards when it comes to who they pursue but I can't bring myself to think of physically attractive women who mistreat me (or others) in a sexual or romantic context, I automatically lose whatever attraction I would have had for them.

 

This is a bmww board. I don't get it, if you have contempt for ww, why come to this board???

 

Boredom.

 

havent experienced much from WW if any

 

I have not had any of that from a WW. I have ,however, had that complete look of utter shock at a few job interviews from WM once they came to the lobby to greet me. Particularly since I have a whitebread name. But that was from a couple older white guys. I've always worked high tech and minds are usually open and enlighted in that world.