How Does One Learn More About the Psychology of Women?

Can someone post here some sources for research on the psychology of women. My lady friend jokes and tells me she do not want me to know everything about her. But seriously, is there material out there that i'm unaware of on how women think, communicate and perceptively see the world around them. Sometimes i think i need to take a college course just to understand women. We are truly wired differently.

 

Let us know your findings as I too would like to understand us women :lol:

 

While I definitely think there are differences between males and females in the way they think and behave (I'm raising boys and girls and was so convinced prior to having children that any of that was crap people placed on children rather than a natural thing) I think you have to be careful of stereotyping and using sweeping generalizations.

Just as all black men or all white women are not specific ways...ALL women do not think the same, interact the same, etc.

I don't know how important it is for you to understand women. I think it's probably most important for you to understand the woman you are with.

 

blacktiger...i am teaching a class...in order to get into the class you must submit a picture and resume...if i choose you...then you will be my boyfriend...each day i will teach you something about me...hopefully you are a quick learner...this class may last a day, a week, a month, a year or a lifetime...provided you learn something every day...when we part then you will sign up for someone else's class...more than likely what you learned from me won't apply to her...she will be unique and have her own set of deal breakers, rules and quirks...welcome to the wonderful world of women...LOL

 

You may not take my class pass/fail, attendance is mandatory and in-class participation will be counted towards your final grade.

 

Ladies you have made my day. You all are such a delight. I love your humor.

 

KnCa you are right i need to understand this woman i'm with right now.

Thank you all

 

a few resources

Blacktiger2005,

You are a wise man for making your request. I think you will be a better man for seeking and finding out the knowledge you have requested.

I offer the following:

Read a book called "The Five Love Languages"
Or just read the comments about the book. That book is about finding types of love-languages that please your significant other. It speaks about five particular types of love-languages (things, activities, gifts etc.).

Also you may want to read a book about non-verbal human communication: as that will help you in making your approach, on a first time or daily basis, before you open your mouth.

Also you may want to learn steps to intimacy. Look up "steps to intimacy" at amazon to find a few books. I have not read any of them, but my suggestion would be for the one with 8 or more steps. I listened to the radio some years ago and got 12 steps that accomplish goals for intimacy.

Next, people like to be complimented. A book "How to win friends and influence people" can help you with personal and professional relationships by keeping you attentive to how speak to the listener needs.

Finally, it is good to make money and expend it wisely, the more the merrier. Money allows you to practice or have time to practice the love-languages and do whatever it is you must do.

I believe, women want a confident man, who can provide multiple layers of security, and pique their interest and attend their needs in multiple avenues.

Men, all of the knowledge above will help you with your relationship with a woman. And for you women, the same knowledge will help you with your relationship with a man.

Happy hunting brother blacktiger2005!

 

Men will never fully understand women and women will never fully understand men. I just consider the journey towards learning more about my mate to suffice.

 

Awwwww, O71 that is really sweet.

 

If you want to know about a woman, just ask her. I would say women (in general) are similar in the respect that women analyse feelings, they communicate and put a lot of store by verbal and non verbal communications. Women have very deep conversations and connections with one another by talking things out.

When I'm with someone I care about and trust, I will answer any questions they ask me about the way I am or the way I think. I am very non confrontational anyway so if something arises (e.g. a row) I try to analyse it neutrally, to pinpoint what I'm upset about, and explain it to the man in a way he will understand. With my current boyfriend (sort of - early days!) he is very analytical and will ask me how I feel or think about this and that, and I will tell him. Just keep it simple!

If she's not prepared to confide - well perhaps she isn't feeling very trusting or safe, so then you could find out why and try to improve it.

 

Joliemarie,

Thanks for your kind and insightful comments.

 

Thank you brother benhail. I have ordered my copy of the recommended book.