How do I get a white woman?

Yeah I do regret the experience, but yes I did learn.

I get your point aboot looks being a factor, but I aint postin no pic online. I don't know yall.

I did think about going to strip clubs for just the reasons you mentioned, but unfortunately in my state, you can't drink at strip clubs which is kind of a deal breaker for me.

Ok, now you're making assumptions about me man. And they're wrong. I did not grow up socially interactive. I had friends, I went out, I talked to others. And as an adult, I've traveled the world and met tons of ppl from all over. So I was and am socially interactive. I have social skills. That does make it challenging that women have different interests, and I've definitely noticed that.

I either do or have done most of the things you listed. I'm in Seattle.

 

OMG, you're so funny, aha aha

 

Great responses.. but nobody touched on something that stood out to me. Maybe your lack of success has more to do with your fear of perceived gossip and ridicule.

I cant tell you 100% that it does not happen nearly as much as you think.

It may be prevalent in high-school - but people your age? Nah, and the few that would do that at your age make a bigger spectacle of themselves than they do you.

If you let that hold you back, you really are shooting yourself in the foot before the get-go.
I can guarantee you that other people in general don't care or even recall stuff like that. You are in your late 20s, the vast majority of people have gotten over that behavior (gossiping and ridiculing) a long time ago.

Don't you think they have other stuff to worry about than who you approach and how and how it went?

Seriously. You need to get over that. Stat. I honestly think that, right there is your biggest problem.

Good luck to you hun.

 

WTF:?

:smt017 assumptions?

"It's actually been a few years since I've tried to talk to a woman in terms of anything past casual conversation. "

"The reason I did that in high school and in my first years on my own is because I'm not too good at approaching a stranger that I don't know in public and trying to get their number."

"So I'd mostly talk the girls I knew from work or school, because I knew them and had an excuse to talk to them."

"In the past when I would get rejected, ppl at work or school would ridicule me and gossip about me. I don't even chase after women anymore because I don't wanna be talked about and I don't want to be "that guy".

Then you need to stop crying wolf...because according to every thing you wrote you clam up around women and your scared to talk to them..your social skills suck to a point that every one is laughing at you. So good luck on your endeavor :smt039

 

Yes you made an assumption that I had no social interaction growing up which isn't true. Everything I've said is legit and understandable. I'm not crying wolf, I don't clam up around women, I'm not scared to talk to them, and my social skills do not suck. And you don't need to be criticizing my social skills because that's not something that should be criticized or insulted. F@ck off.

 

Sound advice, thanks for your support.

 

I made an assumption based upon the facts you laid out. This is the internet words get misconceived and buttons are pushed to get facts. I dont know your life..you decided to lay it here.

So the real you comes out... Bravo.
Thanks for playing.

 

Well your assumption was wrong. That's why you shouldn't make them. I didn't lay out my life here, I laid out merely one aspect of it. You don't know nothin about the real me.

 

slow down grasshopper lol. Never said I knew you and trust me..i dont think i do

good luck on your quest for white women

 

Well, that advice is coming from someone that do anal-lyze her own behavior a bit too much at times. And in general, we are the only ones that remember stuff like that - the rest forgot after 2 minutes. Someone may snicker or roll their eyes, but guess what, 2 minutes later its forgotten. Clearly you aren't approaching women incessantly or desperately (to get some sort of reputation) as you say you really don't approach women (in fear of gossip and ridicule). Ergo, your own fear of that is what is holding you backmore than anything.

Ever heard of the dude that won the lottery but never bought a lottery ticket?
Nah, didn't think so. Savvy??

 

Yeah most ppl don't have the memory I have. Sometimes I think my good memory is actually a downside. I get what you're saying that you have to work for what you want. But that's actually another reason why I haven't approached women lately. Men are expected to make the first move all the time and take that chance, and women can just sit back and have the power to choose who to accept or not. Men are expected to work on their "game" with women while women can just sit back and let the guys come to them. I know it's just the way it is, but it's not fair and it's a burden to me. Plus growing up I knew you had to work to get a good job, an education, a nice car, or a nice house, but I didn't realize it would be expected for me to work to get a woman(a person) as well. The other thing is that I find the majority of women and people in general that I talk to are with someone whether it's a wife, girlfriend, FOB, or they're just getting out of a relationship. So it's quite challenging to find good, available, single, attractive women.

 

:lol:

 

Another silly comment. Aha, huh.

 

But you did say "so the real you comes out" and made a sarcastic comment about it.

 

:smt005 :smt043:smt043

#realtalkakatarshi

That's bloody hilarious

 

All i can say is take a chance and ask someone out.
Oh and pay no attention to the people with smartass replies, you asked a legitimate question.

 

cosign

having female friends are the best. I got sound advice from them and 90% of the time it worked. sometimes all you have to do is listen to what they say and watch what they do and you will pick up on some good stuff.

lastly, they are good wingmen (women) and screeners. the reason is because they can help get you in there faster than men can. think about it. You are hanging with a slew of good looking women that are nonsexual friends at a bar resteraunt and you depart from them to go at a woman. more than likely that woman will know you are with them. she is going to ask what is what is up with that. you will tell her and also take her over to the table with you to meet them and continue to shoot your shot, she will more than likely give it up. also they will be able to get you some good info about a woman that you will never know. example if you want to date a particular woman and you let her know about it, she will be able to find some info about her that you will need to have to decide if you really want to date her or not.

 

no doubt about it was. the problem is that some guys think you should come out the womb knowing how to date women. that is sooo false. some folks have the gift to gab and some just have to learn. even with the ones who have the give to gab doesnt mean they know how to maintain a long lasting relationship.

 

If the problem is you lose interest, maybe you're not looking for the right things? Maybe you're judging based on a different set of criteria than you'd use if you were looking for something longer term?

 

its mature that you see that in urself.

its funny people think that people cant learn game. its funny. you can learn game its just are they willing to learn and learn from the rite folks and then put it into motion.

the other problem is that fools quit because they get shot down. hell do basketball players quit the NBA because they have an off nite. naw they go back and practice and then try again. then that is hwo you get better