How do I get a white woman?

Jaisee, Darknight, and Stiletoes, thanks for your responses. All great points and sound advice.

 

I just wanna see you succeed fam

 

I have to spread the love before I rep Jaisee again.

If anyone is telling you to listen to PUA's, ignore them. By the time women are in your age range, they've heard *all* the lines and then some, and a guy approaching with one smells like an asshole from a mile away.

 

She left because I wanted her to. To be honest when we started going out, I barely knew the girl from work. This was several years ago now. And also she was fat and unattractive. But I let her seduce me one night when giving me a ride home. So I took her because at the time I never had a girl before and I wanted some dating experience. But I shouldn't have because after the second day of the relationship, she was a b!t@h! She would start arguments, yell, storm off on temper tantrums, and also tell me of how her best friend would always talk about me behind me back while smiling to my face. We even had an argument on my 21st birthday, because she was flirting with my friend and I didn't even get any that night. The whole time we were together, we only had sex two and a half times. She was moody and hypocritical. She was very sensitive but criticized me for my sensitivity. Anyway, at first she initially broke it off with me because she admitted we had some disagreements and too many arguments. However even after we were broken up, she still treated it like a relationship. She still flirted with me, kissed me, and I'm pretty sure we still slept together too. But the arguing and moodiness continued, and I was still pissed about her flirting with my friend, so then I told her that I strictly just wanted to be friends. But a few days after that we stopped speaking altogether.

I see your point and that makes sense now. It's actually been a few years since I've tried to talk to a woman in terms of anything past casual conversation. The reason I did that in high school and in my first years on my own is because I'm not too good at approaching a stranger that I don't know in public and trying to get their number. I tried that before and it didn't work out too well. So I'd mostly talk the girls I knew from work or school, because I knew them and had an excuse to talk to them. And there also seems to be alot of social stigma around men trying to "pick up" women in public. Up until about a year or two ago, I was young and naive and I did accidently reveal too much of myself. But now I know better and I don't talk about relationships or ask advice from anyone about relationships in real life, especially at work or school because I don't want to become "that guy" as I mentioned before.

I don't know about keeping my standards average, because why settle for someone who I don't want? I mean look at what happened when I did that before. Now as opposed to the past, in real life I don't talk about dating at all. I try not to even think about it, but it keeps coming back to my mind. Hopefully when I start school next month, I'll be too busy to think about not having a woman. Alot of ppl at my work always talk about their relationships and I try not to even listen, or just walk away. Some ppl have asked me if I'm seeing anyone, but I usually lie and tell them that I'm talking to someone or have some prospects so it doesn't sound like I'm the only one at the job who has no one.


Good point. But in high school my best friend and most of my friends since then were macks when it came to women. I tried to copy his style, but didn't work for me.


This is absolutely true. I've been to Australia, New Zealand, Canada, and South America, and in all of these places guys tell me if you're American, and specifically if you're African American, it's so easy to get girls. But like you said, everywhere you go you have to pursue.

 

Omg my ovaries hurt right now. Dude you gotten toughen up a little I'm not even a chick and you're turning me off. You might need to find a hobby and build some confidence first. Women smell weakness like a dog smells fear brotha.

#Oprahmoment
#realtalkakatarshi

 

I'm sensing another Mikey here.

 

Nah. Some people are woefully inexperienced. It doesn't mean they can't learn how to do better.

 

Is a message board the place to learn to do it?

 

Sometimes it is easier than embarrassing yourself to friends by showing how not in the know you are. I had a gf who asked me if I had ever squirted......when I told her, she asked if I could teach her. :smt043 I was like hmmm.

 

Wheres Karmas Summer Guide?

 

Link please for the new guy.

 

You can explain that, but ah..it's something she really needs to experience for herself LOL.

Women still dont talk too much about that among ourselves. For more than a decade I thought I didn't personally know any other women who could.

 

You didn't do anything wrong. It was an experience and while a crappy one hopefully you don't regret it because you learn from every experience.

Looks are a factor in dating...its your personality that determine if its a big factor or little one. That is why everyone is asking for a picture. Its a gauge to what were working with lol. I think this is the place to open-up so that you can be more successful. I dont think anyone is here to hurt you. not that I think :smt085

If your up to it... go to a strip club every 2 weeks or month and if your worried about being notice go to one out of town and no not to look at tits. This is a place were women will come to you. Dont bother falling in love or blowing your paycheck...you need a maximum of 20 dollars (hey better than blowing it on a PUA or crappy date). Why a strip club? You don't need to be embarrass cause everyone is there to see the same thing. You will be interacting with pretty women and that fear will wear-off. Once you start talking to naked women...women with cloth on should be a breeze :smt067

You grew up not being socially interactive so you have to start changing and develop your social skills. Talk to women as you do guys..the only difference is women have different interest than guys. Start honing your social skills at work and school. Just smile and make eye contact, smell good. "TRUST ME SMELL GOOD":smt042

Wash your clothes with Tide and have a minimum of 3 good colognes

Say Hello or good bye to every one you interact with

Never wear a watch..ask for the time from strangers from guys and girls.

Ask about homework from classmates.

Have nice shoes..doesn't matter if you like sneakers, boots, flip-flops it is your foundation and women will look at it.. keep laces clean and so on.

Dont ask for her number ask for her email as it gives you time to think and respond.

As far as picking up women in public as a social stigma, forget about it. I remember in my psychology class 5 smoking hot students were asked to stand up in from of the class. They were all asked a series of questions. The question basically were geared to dating and out of 4 they said men never ask them out because they were too pretty and they feared rejection or thought they were with someone already. Women like to know they are good earth magnets to guys and girls so talk to them.

Yeah...any info about you at work is deadly.

As far as standards and above average...Always seek for the above average no doubt..but in the same retrospect why play a game on max difficulty. Try the game on the novice level as you say your experience is very minimal..then I will go up a few notches. Thats solely my opinion. I never said go below your average or someone you dont like. Next thing you know your with a nine and your self esteem will be put to test.

What state are you in or city if you dont mind?

Funny at my job everyone thinks me being single is awesome. But thank god you dont date anyone at work as your sexual life, what you do and dont do would spread like wildfire. Best thing to say is im too busy to find a woman..or your focusing on school.

You have to find your own thing...but you need to really observe whats going on and copy what suits your personality.

 

Another good option, instead of asking a woman for a number, offer yours. And don't stand there until she puts it in her phone. If you ask for a number, don't immediately put it in your phone and call to see if it's the right number.

That's creepy as hell, and puts the woman on the spot - not a good way to make her think well of you. Be easy.

And learn to flirt, which I think might be the core of your problem. I'm betting you've run across women who were giving you signals you didn't recognize, and that you just didn't flirt back because you haven't learned how to do so. The guys are probably much better to ask the specifics of *how* to flirt.

 

Karma's Summer Guide™:

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?t=14628

 

WTF LOL

 

JordanC and squirting in the same sentence is unreal.

 

Ki$$ my @$$ then. Well if I'm turning you off I guess that means you're gay. I got hobbies and I got confidence, maybe not when it comes to women, but I got it. I was just responding to your post because you made some interesting points, but whatever.

 

I haven't read all the replies, but it's really hard out here in the single world. I mean some people love the freedom and having the option to date, fuck whoever and whenever they want. I personally hate it. Yeah, you meet different people and it's exciting, especially when it rains it pours, but the quality of some of these single people, sucks.

It's just a matter of taking risks and see where the gamble takes you.

Good luck to you.