Hosts of Guys We F*****D Podcast Catching Heat

The anti adulthood thing is an epidemic of our time. I keep saying it.

 

I'm actually behind on the show but I see it as a closed close knit group of friends, like nerds typically are. I don't think it would make much difference to add black character's that aren't major and essential to the show.

Nah I don't need books for entertainment i have my hobbies and books on astronomy. I don't even care for stuff like podcasts unless it's Neil Degrasse Tyson.

 

I have a good friend who is actually attracted to said bm who act „street“ but used her sense to instead marry an Electrical Engineer of Rwandan origin who is more nerd than street. Also not 100 % what she is attracted to in terms of looks. Really nice guy though, stable life, responsible husband, have two beautiful caramel daughters. However she keeps being tempted by the so called exciting guys with the cool jobs and the street credentials (and preferably the African Amerivan accent). She hasn’t committed adultery and knows what is at stake and that she doesn’t want to lose what she has but somehow it’s also a real problem when you can’t marry who you are attracted to on that primal level.

 

I believe you can. It just folks seem to make their attractions more difficult than it actually is. "Rules Of Attraction" is a myth.

 

What exactly do you mean?

I think it also depends if you are a more logical person or very emotionally-driven person.

 

There are Laws Of Attraction meaning you go by what you are naturally feeling and thinking. Just go with the flow.

Rules Of Attraction is what people try to tell you what you should be attracted to in a person or certain looks and so on.

 

In theory I agree. Practically it might not work when the people you are actually attracted to will not bring about the kind of life you want to live. And don’t get me wrong, I’m not criticising acting street, the problem was more the circumstances and behaviours surrounding those men that wouldn’t have contributed to a stable,peaceful life (she had tried that before).

 

Sounds like Darwinism. One drive beats out the other in favor of the best chance of survival. No relationship is perfect and if I married who I've been most physically attracted to in the past my life would be absolutely miserable. I think being the most emotionally and spiritually in tuned works far better. Especially since sexual desires ebb and flow. I don't care who you marry at some point physical interest wanes for both parties. This is a marathon not a sprint.

 

Tell me about it lol

 

Hypergamy is always present.

 

Very insightful comment, even though I am a man in a happy and stable long term marriage, I always know that in the back of my mind I have to stay on top of my game, mentally, physically (stay fit and strong), financially, and emotionally, no slipping, not even once....

 

Very true. It's a biological imperative for many and has existed long before us. The moment some lose respect for you, it's over. I used to date women of all walks of life, but as I got older, that changed. I won't date a woman who is down on her luck. Why? Because you can only judge a person's character when they are at their best or most powerful/confident. You can't know how a person is any other way. If they are down on their luck, it might seem as though they are grateful and appreciate you, but then you get a 180 when they are back on their feet. A people are their true selves when all things are going well. It helps you avoid getting blindsided down the road.

 

I completely disagree. Its easy to be kind when everything is going well. Your truest self comes out when that back is against the wall

 

Glad to hear. Mine came pretty damn close to the abyss over the last year but we are gradually coming out of it. Indeed a marathon, not a sprint. Maybe there’s something to the seven year itch, I don’t know.

 

We are discussing two different things. You do learn a lot about "yourself" when your back is against the wall. But, when dating "someone else" you find out who they truly are at their best. Are they rude? stuck up? cruel? You can't really know until they are at their most powerful. There is definitely something to learn in both scenarios. But, in my experience, a person can seem kind because they need something from you (back against the wall in their personal lives). Once they become self sufficient and no longer need it, either they appreciate what you did for them and continue to treat you well, or they treat you like crap. I agree with what you said, but it depends on the scenario. I hope this makes more sense.

 

It did the first time. I guess both can be true just a matter of personal experience I suppose.

 

Agreed

People make everything more difficult than it is. Instead of just marrying the type of dude she wanted, she has now brought him into her conflicted world.

Now what he has is a ticking time bomb of unnecessary problems and misery that he didn't ask for. All of the challenges of moving to a new country, learning another language, working hard in school learning how to read schematics, break down logic and solve differential equations, busting ass on a new job, Just so someone can drag him down in the misery that he worked so hard to avoid. Damn shame, but picking a woman ultimately comes down to playing the odds.

 

That only happens within the rules of attraction. Rules separate things like that. The life you want to live is an environment and that environment attracts the partner and people you attract.

 

In other words she wants someone that acts street but she doesn't want the circumstances that comes with that mentality, so she decided to make it someone else problem.

 

If her friend cheats, she will blame her husband for __________ fill in the blank which caused her to cheat. She will also blame the man she cheats with for seducing her (even if she approached him). And will only feel badly if she is caught. The reality is that cheaters/hypergamists are only concerned with themselves and are often unable to hold themselves accountable for their own choices. I feel bad for her husband and any man she might approach in the future.