Hello!~Looking for Mr. GOODANDSEXY!!!!

As others have said you have made some poor choices in the men you dealt with, irrespective of race.

You say they are all bums. Did you not realize this at the time you were with them, surely you must have recognized that.

YMRA stated it best, you need to focus on yourself and your kids. The last thing you need to worry about is finding a man, it is that mindset that probably placed you in relationships with these kind of men in the first place.

With this mindset and attitude you open up yourself to allowing more poor choices into your life. Focus on bettering yourself in totality, no man can do that for you. You need to learn from your prior experiences instead about making quality choices.

 

*ding*

 

Some of these chicks are acting worse than hoodrats.

 

Fixed

Been there done that with the black white chic...The thinking is that you're upgrading with a white girl, a ghetto white chic defeats the whole purpose.

And don't start the PC crying about "what is black," "what is ghetto," bla bla bla, thanks in advance

 

The pretty white girls (who aren't influenced by their hoodrat counterparts) want Spencer Pratts and Brody Jenners.

 

Not all of them. Most pretty white girls (and women) want whoever treats them best.

 

I admit, I watch too much tv and read too many tabloid magazines. I know they don't have the sistagal mentality. I just have to step out and find them...once I get a few things taken care of.

 

I believe she self-noted that with the line right after...

"I keep wondering why I am still attracted to black men when all they seem to do is hurt me. So maybe its the quality of men that I have met"

 

That's hard to find.

 

True... but treating you right isn't enough either. I don't think I could make a list of what I'm looking for in a partner... it's just that elusive X factor. We're complicated creatures

 

Thats what discourages us. :smt101

 

It shouldn't be discouraging, a rigid list of "must-haves" would be more intimidating, I would think...

 

I read you wrong. I mistook that for conditions (something hoodrats are raises to have). Carry on.

 

It's just about spark and chemistry and connection, and you could find that with a whole variety of people...

If a dude treats you amazingly but there's no spark, well... :smt073

 

I know about the spark, or shall I say lack of it too well.

 

The title makes me think of the candy bar, Mr. Goodbar. Mmmmmm....chocolate and nuts. The way a good bar should be. :tonqe::smt042

 

True that, you want that person that you can embrace, feel protected and comforted with, go to a nice little lounge or cafe and chill with and talk to each other, exchange kisses, take in a movie, then go home and have passionate sex deep into the night.

That person that makes you miss them when they are gone and light up when you see them once again. You enjoy their scent and the sound of their voice.

Yeah I'm a romantic brotha. :smt102

 

Now I stand to be corrected by so many of you wiser forum friends .........But it seems you guys are unduly hard on this woman.......You guys know damn well they are alot of opportunistic thugs out there that will take advantage of a struggling, single mother. Whether she has a job or is getting government assistance, they will freeload their ass in her place and eat her food.......they will bust their nut with-out asking if she is protected.......they will drive her car and use up her damn resources.......they will come and go as they please doing other shit on the side without trying to mentor or help her cultivate her kids....they will even run from the responsibility of fathering their own un-planned child with a woman......so it can't all be on the woman.......the truth of the matter is that women take chances with men.....every get-together is a chance.......and no one knows the exact percentages of success.....this woman took three chances to rebuild her live with men and got three bad breaks.....