Hello!~Looking for Mr. GOODANDSEXY!!!!

Hi, my names Melissa and Im new to all this. Im a single women and have dated interacially all my life. I am currently looking to get to know a good guy! My experience with men has not been that great and I keep wondering why I am still attracted to black men when all they seem to do is hurt me. So maybe its the quality of men that I have met. I have been in a relationship with my son's father for 6 years and it has run its course mostly because i am no longer the person that I was when I met him. He however has changed slightly, but not enough for me to continue to invest time in someone who does not want better for themselves. You see I am currently in recovery and he is not. We no longer live together and I am trying to end the emotional connection that we have to eachother. He seems to not want things to end even though we are both living seperate lives. Yes its crazy, he still concideres me hes BM/girlfriend. I want so much more for my life and it seems that Im stuck in this disfuctional relationship. So my thoughts are to meet some higher quality men to see if it still love I feel or just comfortable. I am scared to get involed again with another man. Im not looking forward to investing myself and being disappointed AGAIN!!!!! Ive never been married and have 3 different fathers for my kids. Im not lose I was in commited relationships with all of my kids fathers. No doubts about whos my baby daddy, however they are all bumbs!!! I wonder if its me or has it just been that I pick all of these men to have relationship with in my acctive addiction. So now that I know what I need persay and not what I want can I find a good guy that I am attracted to and not settle for someone who is just good for me. I want someone good and sexy all at the same time. So if your reading this HELLO and think that you may like to get to know me better, please do so!!!!!

 

it's BUMS not BUMBS

 

OK, in recovery, three kids by three different daddies. They are all "bumbs" so basically chose three losers in a row. Current BF still drugging and won't go away. Sounds sexy.

 

so that's what i have to do to get your attention...???

 

LOL you had me at hello.

 

awwww... :smt058

 

Yeah, thanks girls for making me feel welcome!!! You must be the official HATER POLICE!!!!!! Thats okay I dont need your approval to one thing about me is I am not scared to put things out there. Im sure there are other women out there that have made some bad desicions in there life and what a chance to start over. So if it makes you feel good to belittle me go right ahead SO SEXY!!!!!:smt038

 

Bwahahaha, you never know she might be a trust fund baby.

 

Three kids by three babydaddies you ain't starting over anytime soon, sweetie #realitycheck

 

:smt043

 

If I give you anymore positive rep, I think the forum will break. :smt055

 

lets try it and see :smt003

 

Every time I see the thread title, I think of the candy: good and plenty or good and fruity. LOL.

 

You know you're right.

 

Fellow PA girl~

Welcome meldoraley...Sorry to hear of your plight. Lord knows I have made bad decisions too, and I know plenty men and women who'v done the same. You're absolutely right, you can always start fresh with a better man. Good luck.

 

Here is the problem. You are searching for someone to do for you what you can't do for yourself. And it will never work. You are in Recovery (I'm assuming some treatment program), you are in a dysfunctional relationship, you have allow yourself to be used a living sperm depository, but three different men and they are all dead beat pathetic wastes of air

The above doesn't say anything about these men, but speak volumes about you. Who you allow into your life says more about YOU then it says about THEM. You have proven that you lack the ability to make wise choices, and in spite of all of that..........you are still looking for a man when what you really need to is to concentrate on your children and getting your life back in order. One more cock is not going to do that for you.

 

Best advice.

 

it nothing to do with "black men" its the type of black men you go for