Heidi Ain't 'SHAME!!!

Indeed. They believe that white women (and Asian women to some extent) should date them and them only. Once, this white guy at my workplace said, "It is really weird to see a black guy and an Asian girl". And me being the cynic that i am, i said to him, "Give me 3 valid reasons to back up that statement". He gave zero or answers that would barely count as one. All he kept saying was, "Well, you know what i mean; most Asian women would rather date white; blah blah blah". I really felt like giving him a hot slap.

I do not mean to turn this thread into an anti-white male bastion but some white guys have got some really fucked up mentality. They feel that everything must go their way and nobody else gets a say but them. Many of them feel that they must get the best "things", including women, or at least so they think. When it does not happen like that, they either find a way to declare that thing worthless or ruin the next man's chance of getting it, especially if the man is not white like them. I cannot count the amount of times i have heard white guys say that only trashy white women and others date black men. Some even imply that the most eligible young women of all races date white men or prefer white men. Now that may be true to some extent, given the fact that white men have all the gold in the society, but to put down other people who do not subscribe to your thesis is just bullcrap.

Okay, this one time, myself and Eva, my fiancee were out in Los Angeles and we were at this store. I went over to the guys' section and then i saw this white guy come over to my fiancee and was talking to her. I wondered what the hell they were saying but seeing as i am not the jealous nor insecure type (unlike some people :lol, i let it go. It could all have been in good health so i carried on looking at what i was looking at. Later, i just heard my fiancee start to talk at the top of her voice and then i went to see what was going on. Now i am not the type who lets his woman be hassled by some asshole but i calmed the whole thing down before even asking what was going on and i let the guy off.

It happened that he saw us walk into the store together and was not sure if we were dating or not. Again, no business of his but there you go. It seemed like he was waiting to pounce on the opportuntity to be sure what was up. According to my fiancee, when i left, he came up to her and asked her if we were dating and she said yes. According to her, and i've no reason to doubt this, he said that she was too beautiful to date a black guy and that a white guy would treat her better. :roll: Apparently, that was why she was shouting at him.

Now i am not asserting that my fiancee is the most beautiful woman in the world but please someone tell me, is there such a thing as being "too beautiful to date a black man"? :smt102 Now, on this occasion, i really felt like going after this guy and breaking all of his teeth but it's not just because of what he said. What annoyed me the most was that he questioned my integrity and more importantly, my fiancee is not even white; she's Latina for God's sakes. Now this one thing gets to me. Let's say she were white, i could understand his frustration as we know white guys have this sense of "ownership" when it comes to white women. But she was not even white in this case so what's the problem? I am not the most righteous man but i am trying my best. I treat my woman as i would treat my own mother, i have never, ever hit her (nor any woman for that matter. I do not have any kids with anybody; i have a steady, well-paid job. I possess no records of criminality nor violence, so what is the deal here?

Oh, i have a clue. If it ain't white, it aint right!!!

 

:? With all fairness I think that alot of that is a TRIBAL MALE THING :shock: if you will because black men do it too.

 

Absolutely. No one's denying that. I have friends who are black males and are not so thrilled when they see black women with non-black men. It is no problem with me though. But the difference is that there is nothing black men can do about it because they are not the "law-makers" if you wish. White men go on senseless rants about it whilst black men just move on. I am not generalising here but it seems like when some white guys get rejected, they seem to take it personal. Again, before some idiot jumps at me and criticizes me, read properly; I USED THE WORD "SOME". When some white guys get rejected, they take it very personal as opposed to moving on. When a black man is rejected, at least from what I have seen, they tend more to move on to a new person as opposed to taking some kind of self-examination.

But again, that's what i have seen.

 

If I may interject here,

this hasn't been my experience, but I sure don't deny it either, and I am positively SURE that it's nothing like THIS BELOW I co-sign to:

I remember Googling for Interracial websites in the past, and when I was in the middle of finding some by using search terms such as 'black men white women' or 'black white romance', I remember coming across some obscure rant pages from these reclusive, sexually confused and repressed white guys, ranting about how Interracial dating between black men/white women was bad because of this and that, but most of them were only one page long like the entire site was. They may be gone now though.

 

Indeed, you're right, SardonicGenie. But the thing is, i do not pay attention to a bunch of e-thugs rambling about nothing. If you have beef with me, come to me and we'd settle it. But they never seem to opt for that!!!

Oh and by the way, SG, are you single?

 

I'm glad you shared this story. This actually happens a lot. Most don't notice it though because WM are usually a lot more subtle when the woman isn't white. He still doesn't think she shoud be with a BM but he'll do a better job of cloaking his racism.

It's like flaminghetero said, they feel "entitled". The race of the woman matters less than her level of attractiveness. If any woman has a look that WM find appealing (especially if she's exotic) there will be an expectation of her, if not exclusively dating WM, then to at least be open to dating them.

To them the idea of an "Eva Mendes" or "Stacey Dash " looking female saying something like ..."you know, I like all people but i just prefer black guys personally" is unacceptable. White women who only date white out of "preference" is considered perfectly normal. Any attractive woman (regardless of race) who prefers BM will be looked at as selling herself short somehow.

Attractive women of color choosing WM is encouraged, rewarded and normalized. When it comes to women, the mentality of a lot of WM seems to be "what's mine is mine. And what's yours is mine."

 

Well they can keep thinking that mess all they want but it's NOT the reality that I've experienced nor even seen on tv or in real life.

 

Finally, someone who understands this point i have been trying to prove.

 

You have my condolences about the incident in that store with your fiancee, Cris. I know that must've been a bitch to deal with, and probably made you grind your teeth, thinking about what that brown-nosing dickhead said, and what you would like to do to him. Give my regards to your fiancee as well.


I gotta give you credit for how you handled it, because... well, let's just say that I'm not at that level of (quote-unquote) 'living and let live' with my enemies, so to speak, :lol: though I usually make an effort to be, but I'll just keep workin' on it.

Yeah, why?

 

:shock: Dayum Sardonic...maybe LC's got a hookup for you playa. :wink: