Have you ever been rejected by a black man because you were white?

I figured asking the reverse of an earlier question might provide some interesting responses.

 

Never approached a black guy because that's what I'd be scared his response was. I don't know why it would bother me really though. I think this is one thing that holds a lot of people back from approaching those out of their race. One black friend said he found me attractive but that he wouldn't date outside of his race.

I never got to meet my exs family though because his mother in particular hated whites, especially the thought of her son dating one.

 

mmm, fortunately no. if they aren't interested they just don't look at me (and i understand it's better not to approach)

 

well, you get to here some shitty comments from time to time here. You can feel it when you go to clubs as well, how they look at you with that "eeeuuuh" in their eyes.

 

that is not completely true...I look at white women all the time and I not necessarily interested in dating them...for example at work, there was a girl that worked in the ER...I mean she is a very pretty woman, very white features...I did scope her pretty hard, but really she is not my type physically even though she is very attractive...I dont know if u can understand that...but I think her friends saw me looking or something, and I think our eyes even met for a few minutes...to make a longer story short, I got her number from a mutual friend of ours, who told me to ask her out because she is interested...but really I wasnt interested at all...

 

I even have another number to very beautiful fourth year medical student, with blonde hair and I dont think her eyes are blue , green maybe I dont really know...well she is really a special looking woman, I can see all the male white doctors gawking at her when she is around...well we became cool with each other...then she happens to go to the same gym that I attend and we talked there too...so one day we exchanged numbers at first we played it off like we will just be friends just hanging out...but after a few times talking it became more of a date thing...I never called her for anything...then one night she calls me and asked if I wanted to hang out...ahah...that was like at 8pm...and really I was busy...then again some later time like a few weeks she called me at 10pm and again I was busy....If I was down with the snowbunnies like some others on this board, she would have been definitely been my first one....

 

Um, if you aren't "down with the snowbunnies" then why are you here? I'm just asking...:smt017

 

Therein lies the conundrum. :smt073

 

What a great word. I use that word whenever I can! :lol:

 

I have never heard of a black man turning down a white woman unless he was a married (to a BW) man. Shoot, maybe even then he'd take her up on it. The only real question is whether he'd introduce her to his friends and family or keep her on the DL.

 

I have turned a few down in my time...not that I was not attracted to some of them, it was just not in me at the time...

 

these boards are for sharing opinions and ideas...so I am interested and learning more about the topic...also you can refer back to my very initial post

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?t=8807

 

I remember your original post. I just don't understand why you want to be on here. You don't seem to want to date a white woman at all. So, I'm curious as to why you'd want to be on this board if your objective is to NOT be with a white woman.

There are tons of other forums out there to cater to anybody's interests, so why a white woman black man forum, if you aren't interested in getting to know and date a white woman? I'm not trying to be a b*tch, I'm just trying to understand your thought process for being here, that's all.

 

No...lol

But again i never approach a man i flirt and they do the rest of the job lol ...

well i stop flirting now i think im falling for someone at the moment PRETTY HARD! lol ...scary feeling but exciting at the same time haha

 

simple answer --- HE WANTS TO TASTE /TRY/ENJOY/ EXPLORE white woman's body but he would never get serious with her ...there are many blk men like SIR NISE ....am i right ? and i dont take an excuse that he is here for just lil chit chat haha no way

 

Me neither. You make a valid point. Let's see what SirNice has to say.

 

i'm saying a different thing. if u don't like white women i'll kinda know it. it's the way u look at them or don't look at them. if u looking me like "i don't mind u being white" it's not that i'll think u want to date me. just u r not like "eww i don't like u because u r white", so maybe i'll try to approach. i don't know if i expressed right what i meant to say . i need an advanced english course WDF lol.

 

Sorry dude, I don't want to blow your approach here, but can I just give you a little e-high five here for an excellent display of reverse-psychology?

 

I don't think I've ever been rejected for being white when it came to trying to bang me out... but many of the guys who wanted that would not be/were not interested in anything serious. It was one of the reason my ex-husband won me over so easily. From the start he showed me that he wanted a committed relationship and introduced me to his family. Not some back door after the club type of s***t.

I remember a Nigerian man I met who specifically did not want to be seen with me by his parents. No problem trying to f***k me though.

Then again I'm not complaining - just recalling past events. It was entirely my responsibility that I was putting myself in situations where I was treated as a sex object. I used to go to clubs... dance with guys... I was pretty good at dancing dirty... their reaction was to be expected.

 

I have never really asked a man out, so I have never been rejected. I just sorta pick from those who approach me. But I have come across many black men who only date black women. Honestly, I find it kinda fun to flirt with them. It is nice to finally break thru, ya know where they aint wanting to smile but they cant help it?

I have done a few informational pickets and protests where I was marching/handing out literature alongside NOI and other black separatists groups and I gotta tell you, it was fun.

Alas, my flirting days are over.