has love gone out the window ?

much agreed on the jaded people observation. i liked conan's farewell speech on his last nbc show...

" All I ask of you is one thing: please don't be cynical. I hate cynicism- it's my least favorite quality and it doesn't lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you're kind, amazing things will happen." - conan o'brien

 

yes people must be happy within themselves. also humans are social creatures so it is important to have a lover and have friends.

 

Yeah, that's a good quote.

It's hard not to be cynical, but I try and keep hope alive...lol

 

its tuff not being cynical

 

well yea, it would be wack to feel love and do nothing with it. lol life is all about momentum. that's why everyone needs a pick-me-up when they're down, gotta keep it movin. so if you're feelin love for someone, you need to let them know. and actions always speak louder than words.

"when you move, i move... just like that"
lol

 

Yeah, especially in this society....

 

Thanks for seeing my pov FG

 

LOL!

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sheeeeiiitt... you ain't got to tell me, homie! cynicism has been a major part of my personality for decades. i'm tryin to calm it down tho, it really doesn't do anything but get in my own way. it's lettin the bs win, and i'm not down with that. ya dig.

 

:smt063

 

high five for that one, playa

 

I dig it!

You're not alone. I didn't make any resolutions this year per se, but I know that I wanted to become a better person.

 

I was just grooving for a minute there.

I'm a playerette

 

A tear came to my eye when I heard him say that. It's so true. And it gives me hope when I feel the world is against me and I turn around and hate the world. LOL.

 

My boyfriend and I have a copious amount of love for each other. So yes, love is still alive at my house, at least.

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

I tell him I love him at least 5 times per day. Cause he causes my heart to skip a beat at least 5 times per day.

 

IB is spot on with this. You need to truly get to know the person you are marrying, and some people are very good at hiding who they are. Far too many people are selfish and consider their wants and needs before anyone else. Love isn't selfish, not true love. The Bible says it best:

"Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride"

 

The flip side to that is that even when you are abundantly clear and completely honest, sometimes the other person is thinking 'Okay, I don't like them as they are, but I can get them to change over time'. Never a good idea. People are not makeover projects, they're people. Love them as they are, or leave them alone and find someone better suited to you.

 

How the hell do I give a rep this woman deserves one.

 

I remember going car shopping with my dad for my first brand new car. We were on a test drive with one of the cars. I basically liked the car, but there were a few things that I wasn't very happy about with the car. My dad said 'Honey, if there are things that you really don't like about the car now, you really aren't going to like it when you sit down to write the monthly check for it.' We kept shopping, and I found the car that was right for me. Was the car I bought perfect? No, but it was all things that really didn't matter to me in the long run.

I agree wholeheartedly that people often go into marriage thinking they are going to change the other person and what they end up with is daily disappointment. I have been guilty of dating men that I was going to 'fix.' In my mind, I thought that I was doing all these men a favor by making them better. What I didn't realize was that I was making them think that I didn't think they were good enough for me the way the were. One of my exes finally told me that. I felt terrible when I heard him say that. He had spent a year and a half trying to be good enough for me and making himself miserable in the process because he wasn't being true to himself. I learned a valuable lesson from him. If I can't accept someone for who they are, I need to do us both a favor and move on.