Guys will go without condoms if the woman is hot

I don't think that people cheat all the times in relationships. I think some people get fed up and cheat. It's different when you are fed up, your partner is not attractive anymore because of some physical or mental change vice, you just have a wandering eye and want to fuck some stray. Being fed up could equate to years of penned up frustration before someone decides to venture out, breaking their vows.

Sex is a "shrinking" slice of the pie. At the beginning of the relationship it's like half the pie. As the relationship gets more serious the pie is divided (finances, goals, children, materialism, in-laws, lifestyle differences, priorities, etc). By the time a couple is married and has a few years under it's belt, the sex slice is a different size for both the men and the women. It's important to one and is way less important to the other. The size of the slice can be affected by any and everything.

 

If it's in your bloodstream...it's in your bloodstream. If it's in your bloodstream it will move freely throughout the body...it's not restricted to the area originally exposed. I believe outbreaks move wherever they want to. The only diff is if there's an open sore that manifest with outbreaks. If it's on your crotch it's not visible. If it's on your face, it is. If it's in your eyes...you could be in pain plus go blind.

 

There is a saying that sex is only 10% of a relationship when things are going well and 90% of a relationship when it's bad.

I've never cheated, and wouldn't. To me, if you get fed up and can't work it out then you move on. Hopefully, you have been communicating and doing what you can to resolve things way before that point too. I've been in a marriage for 17 years (complete with all the life changes: kids, businesses, homes, illnesses, deaths, making money, losing money, and on and on it goes) I think there is definitely an ebb and flow to things with things shifting at different stages. However, sex will often become more important again as kids grow up and other parts of life settle down. So, I don't really think it's a shrinking part of the pie.

 

Used to be women didn't feel sexual after bearing children (45 and older). That was the excuse for sexless marriages (but she did't cheat). Headaches, not feeling attractive due to weight gain and atrophic vaginitis...hormone issues. 20 years with children in the house, sneaking to get some...sex decreasing from (10x week as singles) to 5x weekly (after marriage) to 2x monthly (after kids) to no contact/different beds and now the kids are gone. 20 years with a hampered sexual lifestyle and it doesn't just kick back to normal. I think you might be the 1st person I heard say this?

Hell, I'm single and I don't have the desire or stamina to wild out like I did 20 years ago. It's natural for sexual appetite to decline. However, what happened to taking one for the team? AND what when the attraction isn't there or there is resentment or hormone deficiency - those issues will keep it from happening. Women are quick to say that they don't cheat, but they weren't screwin' their mate either so - wtf?

Moving on sometimes isn't an option. For many (especially dudes) it means that you're getting ready to go in the hole financially (loosing half and then some). For many women they are content. They have a house; kids they can live vicariously though/constantly meddling and being a pain in the ass; they have their friends to go shopping with (and some of husbands money too). They don't miss sex so they are cool just where they are at. They are cool as long as they keep up the image.

Of course, things/society is changing. Dudes had viagra so they started screwing again. I guess that got old because now they are letting their wives have boytoys or flings with other women. Then there's Bruce Jenner who took it to a completely different level (that many men seem to be following)...I see a lot of "straight dudes" calling themselves "bottoms," getting "strapped" by women or saying, "My wife wants to see me give head" - GTFOH!!! :smt009 Women used to have no sexual desire at all and now they all wanna get tattoos and become cougars or doms. I guess bangin' 20-30 y/o dudes is cool, justifying that they (older women) still got it...as they keep the secret that they're screwing their classmates kid...or grand kid?

There seems to be no fear of hell and I don't suspect that It won't be much longer :smt077

 

I don't know how old you are, since you seem to have a thing about not saying. I can tell you that many women may go through what you are talking about but also pull out of it in their 40's and 50's.

I never cheated, but even in a situation where we weren't sexually compatible....we were still having sex 4-5 times a week. The whole never getting/giving it thing - I just don't get. And no I'm not the only one out there.

As a 50 year old woman (soon to be 51) with many friends who are 55+ I can tell you the times have definitely changed! Our generation (for the most part) isn't interested in settling for non-existent or crappy sex lives. The tables have turned and many women are into it all once they kids are grown. Then the conversation changes to how their men are whining about being tired, having headaches, and that we are trying to kill them off because our drive is "too high" or we want to go at it too hard. That seems to be happening around the 40 mark. WTF

Let's be real here too. Many got married young and their sex life never was that good to begin with. They start getting more interested in their 40's and 50's and want it to be good. The bar goes way up.

As for the younger guys....I got news for you....many of the older women aren't looking for them, they come looking for us. Doesn't happen to be my interest, but they definitely are around if you want them.

Guys calling themselves "bottoms" and being into cucky stuff and strap on's is a whole other thing and sorry but that's not a straight man to me. There are all sorts of people out there with all sorts of different arrangements. Good for them.

 

I don't know if anyone has touched on this, but there is a huge amount of women who don't want to use condoms either. Seriously, just flat out tell you, you don't have to use that. I had one chick just get on top of me, put me in and start riding. Nothing I could do. That shit was crazy.

I've seen women straight up turned off and or offended because I've insisted on using condoms. This has all been in the past 10 years and all of them women you wouldn't think would be that way. Broads are as crazy as dudes these days.

 

They have always been crazy

Lol

 

Are you really saying that there is no difference between having herpes or warts on your gums vs genitals? You believe huh? Lol

It's the disease itself that causes the sores. It doesn't just happen to hang out where there is a sore. Lol

 

Women are definitely different and I've run into those who say they are turned off by condoms. They have told me that "the feeling is different," but in my mind I have to ask how much more different than the average sex toy/dildo? Afterall, may of them are made out of rubber. I also have run into women who are offended if you try to use lube.

 

It's VERY different and many of us aren't really into doing dildos.

That doesn't mean it's ok to go without the rubber though.

 

Yeah, this is definitely true. There are women who will grab your dick and pull you inside before you can even say "let me go in my wallet right quick" lol. :smt036

 

Lol

They got you by the balls.....literally

 

Herpes can move throughout the body. Sores generally hang out where the initial contact area was (outbreak). However, they can move around that area. There have been cases where the outbreak spreads. You can also infect other parts of your body during an outbreak (if you have it on your mouth and touch your eye or genitals).

Your problem seems to be whether or not someone knows that you have it?

I've heard that some folks go without an outbreak for over a years time. The thing is if you have it you just have to be honest and forward about it. Lots of people always want to gamble with another person's health. That's not cool. When talking about any venereal disease, I'd rather be safe than sorry.

 

Nope, not talking about that. Personally I would be upfront if I had it.

This is all I'm saying: sores on gums = unheathly gums.
Unheathly gums = unhealthy heart. It's that simple. The rest of what you are talking is irrelevant.

 

We'll have to agree to disagree on this one...

If none of what I'm saying is relevant than the whole conversation is irrelevant because herpes can be caught from a simple kiss. A peck on the lips. The scientific world can't yet come to agreement on whether it's transmitted from the lip of a cup or silverware yet. What they have agreed is that herpes won't shorten your lifespan if cared for.

I'm not a doctor, but when you find some documentation that says oral herpes will bump you off or cause heart malfunction faster than genital herpes...shoot me a PM. As black men we probably need to look out for white cops, young black men, HBP/diabetes and the zika virus before cold sores - IJS...

 

I'm talking about hsv2 not hsv1. You can get hsv2 in your mouth. Also even gingivitis can affect your heart health because it affects your gums but you want to be silly and use words like "malfunction" and "bump you off." Your condescention is simply a cover for your lack of knowledge.

We already have enough threads about how cops target bm, and we also have threads about eating right and exercising, so that covers the diabetes. We even have one on the zika virus. The subject here is unsafe sex so miss me with that bullshit.

 

After seeing how much money child support takes out of a check up close and personal ( it was a check mailed to my mom, I was 18 at the time so it's a long story), I have and will continue wearing condoms.Not to mention, there's been an outbreak of HIV in South Florida that happened a few years ago.

 

Good to use but they will break so just be aware.

 

I gave you the option to find it, bro. Google is there. When you get some solid info put it out. If the doctors and researchers haven't put it out then I doubt you are one step ahead of them through your assumptions.

I'm not a doctor and I know for certain...you are not a doctor. So we can play nice and keep the gangsta shit for real life. This is the internet and I've got no time for internet thugs.

 

Thug? I didn't threaten you clown. Fuck outta here. I'm a college student.