Growing up without a father and today

thats weak . that is a sad man in my eyes. I hate to say that because I dont like throwing out castigations but damn.

I just cant understand that. I believe a lot of people are very very immature. I wish I would have been more keen in seeing my ex is a low down skant. I have to take her to court for me to see my child and Im sueing for unrelated issues which will get her friends in trouble also. That should show her friend that she did nt give a rats ass about her. But, I digress.

Again what kills me that they are such narcisstis that they dont understand that they are hurting the kids and it will come back on them

 

I don't know either. I'm pretty sure the rhyme for slaughter is daughter. I thought maybe "action" could rhyme with "bastid" because some accents pronounce bastard like that.

 

I think he meant absent father

 

I won't say I didn't grow up with my dad as I used to see him frequently, but due to his job, he was on the move constantly. In the earlier part of my life, I lived largely with him, then later on less so. I did not realize it, but his absence did create a void in our lives, mine especially as I am the last child. He didn't run out on me or anything, as is the case with too many of our brothas these days. The truth of the matter is, it really takes a village to raise a child, as an old African adage goes. I realize that women have been raising great men since the days of Enoch, but there really is no substitute for a strong male role model that a boy can have. I have firmly believed that, and I was glad to hear Obama echo my sentiments. I truly appreciate the love and care my mother showed to me growing up, but I sometimes wonder if a lot of things that happened in my life would not have transpired had the presence of my father in my life being more manifesting.

These lessons help me strive to become the best parent I can be to my twin daughters. It is my utmost duty to provide my wife and daughters with the most comfortable lifestyle a man can provide, but I also have made it a promise not to let anything compromise the ability to be there for my daughters, and not just in providing material and financial support. Sometimes, the support you can provide your children is invaluable beyond a monetary value and I shall try to have the best father-son relationship with my son when he's born.

 

I just want to make it clear that everyone on both sides should have a presence in a childs life despite the feelings of the other person. Trust me I understand your position and situation.

 

Your stories are much like mine as well. My parents divorced when I was 3. My mom made the right decision and I am grateful for it. Made me strong, fierce and independent

FG, I too think I ran outta nasty - used it all up before I hit 22, lol.

 

AWW!! There is my lovely Athena!!!!!
How are you my lovely????

 

HELLLLLOOOOOOO Gorgeous! I am doing fairly fabulous, how are you?

:smt050

 

Much better now when I see you here

We miss you TREMENDOUSLY!!!!:smt054

 

Same thing with my cousin. He was raised by his mom and grandmother. He turned out to be a strong individual. I try to be like him, at times. He didn't need his dad. That mufucka was too busy raising 7 other kids.

 

did the dad even try ?

 

No. A couple trips to Flags when he was 6 don't get him points, either. Dude's a bitch.

 

damn. I always say you dont need to buy a car or have special trips just go out for ice cream and or just go to library and talk. kids will eat that up

 

As long as they spend time with the kid, it's all fine. God forbid they put in some effort.

 

:smt023 Someone's time is always worth more than money to me.

 

Well, all I know is what my mom told me. First she said he had somewhat of a drinking problem so she didn't want him around anyway. Then she said that she told our (me and my twin sister) father that if he would just visit once and a while and let me and my sister know he's there then she wouldn't make him pay child support or anything. Well, he decided not to have anything to do with us. I think it might have something to do with that he already had 5 sons by a bunch of other women. He was a whore.
It really hasn't bothered me and I've never felt any inclination to "find him" or anything. I do wonder about having 5 older half brothers and more grandparents and cousins and aunts and uncles and stuff though.

 

yeah I can imagine. for me I believe i would farther along if both parents were in my life