Getting Over the Fear of White Women

well the topic was about approachin each other..lets get back there hagd

 

Well, I have to agree that it is not easy to approach white women (European American).

For example, I am part of a fraternity and we were invited by another local chapter to something called a crush party (basically where people who like each other meet and dance. I guess sort of an icebreaker). I being the only minority in my fraternity (well there are two Latin guys and a Iranian guy though technically he is Aryan) I had a difficult time dancing with the white girls at the party because there was a social tension although I was a member. I tried a few times but I knew most of the time they weren't interested. I was dancing by myself and suddenly this freshman (I think could have been a sophomore) was looking at me and was talking to her friend. She then went towards me and started dancing behind me. I thought it was okay and all but after the song on the dance floor. Her friend yanked her and talked her about dancing with a black guy. Basically bad mouthing me although I did nothing.

Later in the evening her and her friend came out again and then I danced with her friend (irony) but then her boyfriend came and butted my out and since I didn't want anything to turn rough (possibly a race riot? since it was a few black guys there plus they are part of another chapter), I backed off. I then tried to dance a few times with some other white girls but they looked at me like: "I can't believe he is dancing with me" so I have to say it is not easy to approach white women to dance.

I just wanted to give my two cents.

Lastly, when approaching you do think about not about if she finds me attractive but is she willing to dance with someone who is black. It can hurt her social status with friends. America what a great country.

 

aozora:
That's such a sad story it made me cry (but I'm pregnant, so crying is what I do the best). It's just unbelievable that people can be so stupid. I'm sorry

 

Sorry to hear about your experience, aozora. The pressure to fit in and be liked is pretty tough, especially in college. And it sounds like these "students of higher learning" aren't secure enough to be independent thinkers and not buckle to peer pressure.

I dont know if it's fear to approach WW as much as being rejected because of your race. When you spend so much of your life being judged by the color of your skin, it's hard to just let that go.

The first WW I dated (a woman in her late 30's, mind you) broke up with me after a month because she got tired of dealing with the grief she was getting from her white friends. She said that she had no idea that her friends would object so much to her dating a BM, considering that so many of their (her and her friends) co-workers and "friends" were black.

Congratulations, Ronja!!!

 

Sad that in this day and age racism still rears its ugly head. Those conservatives and their Black slave friends can say racism is dead but it ís not dead but it breaths and live. Aozora I hope you found the frat brothers that can hook you up intead of the ones who bring ýou down. Also don't forget the college girls who have the guts to dance with you.

 

Man I can definably understand what you went through with your woman. Seems all the hate that people thought was gone is still alive and kicking in this world.

 

Thanks everyone. I think that things happen and that I shouldn't hold too many grudges with people.When I think about it, social status plays a great deal so I don't know if I should be mad or just ignore and keep going. By the way Ronja congrats on the new baby. I hope that you are able to raise the baby in a good environment.

 

Aozora,rest assured Ronja's child is living in a good country in Scandinavia.

 

It is cold and hard in the States.