Gentlemen...

:smt023 This.

 

Me too!

You posted exactly what I was about to. To a T!

 

I open doors to ladies not just every woman cuz i sure won't be opening a door for a foul mouthed, cussing, swearing woman any day hell naw.People should realize not every woman is a lady and you treat trash like trash period.

 

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I don't even let women have the opportunity to get the next door (I'm right on their heels so I can open the next one also, especially if they are heavy doors). Some women ar surprised by the first & floored by yet another one, I love that look.

I never thought about not holding a door for a non lady like women. I don't think I hav ever been in that situ, or known previously that the women didn't deserve to have the door opened for her.

 

this sounds a bit silly, cuz I have lived 39 years on this earth and never walked, or had a woman coming towards me who needed to have a door open for her "currsing, yelling like trash"

...the more I read the more I shake my head at a few you bruthaz trying REALLY hard not to be men.

I never really knew you had to be "pre-qualified" in order to have a door opened for you.

 

Dude i am not talking about a woman walking towards a door cussing like a sailor i am talking about someone who you fuck with just for fuck's sake who cusses and is not too decorous with her language or you know the person already though not your friend that is what i am talking about. I wont open a door for someone like that cuz that would be giving the person too much respect she doesn't deserve and it has got nothing to do with trying hard not to be men its trying not to be stupid.
Actually a woman on here called sockadd said she would be angry if a door was opened for her i am sure she thought it was condescending or patronizing

 

Opening a door, being a gentleman, being chivalrous has ZERO to do with anyone else other than that man...........other than you.

....and its silly to suggest, or put as a Prerequisite what you wrote above. I will hold a door open for someone I can't stand. I would not give them the satisfaction of letting them know they effect me in such a way as to change how I carry myself.

 

We have quite a few gentleman round here then because I've had the door held for me twice today.
It's usually at the petrol station though as it doesn't have Automatic doors where I fill up.
A not bad hottie in a Van held the door for me today and I was still a good 4 paces away from it, which I think is fab manners.
I always say thanks though, I hate it when people don't say thanks.

I have no problem holding the door for a man but I exspect a thank you.

I had an altercation at the Supermarket with a Woman last week because she shoved past me and the 2 old ladies I was letting pass through the doorway, she knocked the one edging on 85 into her shopping cart nearly knocking her over.

I said 'Nice one love' she said 'don't be sarky to me bitch' I'm like !!!!!!!!

' you want to thank your lucky stars that old lady weren't my Gran love, you'd be nursing a broken nose plus some sarcasm, I exspect you've killed off your elderly relatives already hey?

Women have alot to answer for in the rudeness department, I see them shoving through old people every time I shop.

 

I am sorry but that is something i don't do well, if i don't like you, you will know by my actions i just can't mask it but props to you though cus it takes quite a lot to be civil to someone you can't stand ,maybe its the military training but i just can't do it so what you see is what you get for me

 

Guys do what gets them laid. I was a super-gentleman, door-opener, and flower-giver for years. However, that just lands a guy in the friend zone. Women control the type of treatment they receive. If women weren't going to bed with a$$holes all the time, men would have to treat women right. I haven't done the 180 degrees into being an a$$hole or anything (it's just not in my nature), but I am no longer the ultra gentleman either. I think I have a good balance.

 

I hold doors open, offer seats to women (older or not). It's how I was raised. I was in DC during the Caribbean carnival and a mother got on the subway with her daughter, a toddler, in her arms. Sitting are a couple - 2 girls. I lean in and ask one of them to sit on the other's lap so the mother can sit. The other looks at me with a screw face. But her girlfriend smacked her leg, "He's right. Shut up and let me in your lap. You don't mind anyway." And made room for her. LOL!

 

I personally love it when a man opens the door for me, pulls a seat out for me and all that jazz. I however don't see it happening too much out in the world but certainly thank a man when he does one of those for me. Just wish I saw it happening more in the world.

 

Me too.

There are some times that I tag along with a couple of guys when they go out to get lunch. One of the guys (who is 27, single and my crush) always holds the door for me, without fail. The other guy (who is 30 and married) opens the door and goes through ahead of me, which really isn't a big deal to me.

Last year, I also went to the racetrack with these same 2 guys and the 30 year old's wife. The last race I won money. No one else did. The couple got up, said good bye and left. I figured my crush would, too. I got in line to get my money and when I turned around to leave, my crush was waiting for me.

I expressed my surprise. He said, "I'm not going to leave you alone." So we walked out to his car together, and then I realized I parked on the opposite side, so he drove me to my car. LOL.

Anyway, there are still gentlemen out there. It's always nice to see. :smt023

 

No wonder you have a crush on him, he sounds just lovely.



*now hurry up and make your move on him....

 

LOL! I'm trying to find the opportunity!

And yes, he's really a great guy. There are some things that makes the situation a bit complicated though: he's 11 years younger than me and he sits in the cubicle right next to me.

We shall see...

 

Well yes that does make it more challenging to decide what to do.... Eleven years is not bad, it is just age just as long as he is mature enough to be with you which he sounds like he might be, but the whole working with him thing is hard... To be honest I myself wouldn't know what I would choose to do in the same situation, but I know I would enjoy flirting heaps ;p

 

Is he black? And with the age gap do you think you'd have fun hanging with his friends and him with yours? Just curious book.

 

Sometimes you remind me of Debbie Downer
:smt043

 

Why is that? Because I'm not part of the ra ra sunshine gang lol

 

Age is a state of mind as long as you both can click on the necessary frequency or frequencies. I'd dare to assume that he has shown an interest in you as well and that there is some mutual curiosity between you or we wouldn't be having this discussion.

As several of our colleagues have suggested, maturity is the key to what might happen next. If your goal is a life long partner and his is hook-up/bed buddy, you're obviously going to have problems... serious problems... And if you both work together at the same company, you will both need a very strong resolve to withstand the scrutiny your colleagues will subject you to before, during (and if there is) an after the relationship.

But we're thinking ahead of the game... My first questions, if you've decided to take a chance would be "Where do you want things to go and where does he want things to go?"

I'm sure you or someone you both know can set things up to be in the same place at the same time to get an idea of whether he is the one, even if the "one" is a temporary condition.

But nothing beats failure like a try...:smt026